Your Life(style) Versus Your Friends

The majority of my friends are settling into marriage and children. Couple already going through a divorce. My lifestyle is nothing like most of my friends.

I have spent the better part of my life single. Most of it has been due to shyness towards women. However, marriage seems to benefit women most. I am not bitter. But, I would not want any of my friends lives for all of the rice in China. A friend is on his second marriage. Children by two different women. No thanks.

Whatever I do is what I do. I don't find it necessary to share my life with acquaintances.

I am lucky enough that a good number of my core group of friends -- at least the inner circle -- are all hardcore PLs, and we SC together regularly. Sex industry-wise, most of the guys also do other things, with 3 guys doing Asian massage, a couple of guys doing escorts, and a couple of us doing bodyrubs. For the older guys, the rest of the time is work (bad excitement), family (good excitement), hobbies (good excitement). I have a couple of good friends who are younger, and they live typical young-guy lives, that have more exciting aspects to them.

One of my best friends never got married until his late 40's. Up until then, he played golf almost every night after work from spring to fall. Went to Myrtle Beach every April.

Then he got married about 10 years ago. Hasn't played golf in 2 years. Has lived in 4 houses in those 10 years. Doing non-stop home projects to make the wife happy. And he's not a handy guy. He used to hire that stuff done

You could not force marriage upon me.

Outside of strip clubs, my "lifestyle" is pretty similar to many of my friends. Others are completely different. I'm a white collar guy, and probably 30% or so of my friends are similar. Another 50% are still redneck farmers and horse traders from before I moved to "the big city." The rest are scattered around the spectrum.

All of my friends are retired and none of them go to strip clubs, that I know of. On one or two occasions I've shared hints of my "other life" and they are aghast. I've also lost several friends who were privy to my shenanigans, including my lawyer, who held information including my ATF's name & address, her boyfriend's information, and directions on what to do if I came up dead or missing in a suspicious manner. Many of my activities with her have brought me into contact with thugs, criminals, and low life's and since my lawyer friend passed away I've not entrusted this information to another. His daughter took over his practice ( criminal defense) and I've wondered if she's aware of my activities. She is a hot shit, thick, busty blonde with a foul mouth and a few low life friends of her own, but I'd trust her.

I share very little of this with anyone. Those that have had a glimpse tend to be jealous or pretend to be offended and disgusted

Most of my friends are in their 60's, poorer and single. They don't want to hear that the married guy with his own business hasa wife that doesn't care if he spends in strip clubs.

I think mrs sea has confided "some" stuff to one or 2 co-workers/friends at her work but no one I know has any clue and it'll stay that way. I think the most I've ever even hinted at was one saturday everyone was coming in to work and i told them I wouldn't be there because we had a party we had already scheduled to attend. I'm 100% positive the guys who were in the office when we were talking about it simply assumed it was your every day generic boring married couples party with dinner and drinks or something because I didn't give any further explanation of what i meant.

We're the plain, boring, average married couple with kids to everyone else but we have more fun in one month than every one of them combined will have in their lives. What we do together is between us and whomever we decide to let in on our secrets. A lot of other couples we know either cheat, don't have sex or never do anything together. We are the most normal couple we know and that seems a little strange sometimes.

Most of my friends, except a few very close ones from growing up, would be aghast at my exploits. Many of them would "disown" me in a heartbeat.

My life is quiet and boring right now which isn't a bad thing to me. I can take comfort in the fact that when things in my life disturb me, Mother Nature seems to reflect my mood and turns violent. Well turning violent and seeing mass destruction is disturbing but having an occasional thunderstorm can be relaxing. If whenever I die if I find out I was really in a coma all these years and that's why weird stuff happened, I won't be happy I spent all these years dreaming I was working hard and it was all for nothing, except a couple hours on the weekend at the strip club.

Some of my friends would be surprised but we would still be friends. I have a few friends I can discuss this lifestyle with as they are horn dogs themselves. I have a few friends who wouldn't understand.

I have no friends

I have a few friends who enjoy strip clubs as much as I do, even if they don't go as much, in part because they're married. Some of my work friends and pretty much anyone I know from college would be appalled. And my one college friend who passed away probably rolls in his urn every time I go to a SC.

My music friends are kind of similar to me in that we have one foot in the family life and one in the music life. My drummer has worked in strip clubs so he's well versed in that area although we don't go clubbing together.

Oh boy, another old thread popped up. Rech !!! LOL

Having for a long time worked in Corporate America, most of the people were of the Faith and Family type and the would be very offended if they knew I visited AMPs, and mortified if they knew what goes on.

And then once I took some school friends to a local no touching strip club, and they did not like it much. And as far as any mileage strip clubs, they would not have liked that.

So it is only a segment of the population. Everyone else thinks it is perverted and "sick".

But in the future, building an organization and spreading it, I'll be completely dealing with different sorts of men and women.

SJG

My four closest friends know. One of them introduced me, the other three wouldn't ever participate, but I think are secretly a little jealous. I don't share a lot of details though.