Love em and leave em.
vincemichaels
Detroit
Answering another thread a few days back in this fashion got me thinking. How many of you guys and gals have this philosophy? It certainly beats being the dumpee. I'd say the only ones that dumped me were the first date types, that decided I wasn't their cup of tea. That's fine by me, it lets me club to my hearts content.
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SJG
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Strippers, on the other hand, have often fallen into the one and done category.
When I was younger - I didn't understand the beauty of letting go. Now that I'm older, I'm much happier when a woman is honest if she's not feeling it. It seems that when one door closes - another opens - and new experiences make it worthwhile.
Don't you understand that it is the same sort of social delegitimation which keeps a guy from getting any women, which also makes him feel that if he keeps them around that he will have trouble. The one with real power is not having his hand forced.
SJG
Philip Glass, ever listen to him before? Like him?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EAiv-LU8…
I'm happy not seeing the bigger picture - unless she has big titties - then I'm happy to see the big pictures of her big tits! Lol
SJG
Philip Glass, anyone like him?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aPvTwoTt…
1. Find girl you like and engage with her.
2. Have sex with her.
3. At this point you will have a choice, as probably she will be willing to follow your lead. You can dissociate from her, cut off contact, or you can continue to see her. If one had good social standing, then there would be no reason to cut off contact. But if one is being pressed, cornered, delegitimated, then continuing to see her will only expose one to more problems, so the preference will likely be to cut off contact.
Maybe I'm talking over your head, going into areas you've never considered.
SJG
Philip Glass Akhenaten
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Rather than social standing, let me call it social legitimacy. If you have that, you can collect women, or collect a woman, and there won't be any special problems. But if you don't have it, the woman you continue to affiliate with will become a serious liability.
To no have social legitimacy does not make you wrong. Being denied such is how the modern world has become. Used to be a guy could get married and have a minimum of trouble. Today, no way. So love em and leave em is how many guys go.
But to not have social legitimacy and not know that you do not have it, and to be dumping women and really believe that that is a show of strength, that is pure idiocy.
SJG
Face reality dude. You aren't the smartest guy in the room and not everything you say is correct.
Peace.
I am not looking to marry again, so my assessment includes understanding if the woman wants more. I'm upfront - and I won't lead a woman on. I respect women too much to lead them on.
I don't have a concern for social standing as I'm secure financially and within the business world as well.
Not wanting to be married, as that is a legal trap, is fine, as is wanting lots of sex with lots of women. But feeling a need to dump the women, that is a different matter. One would not need to do this unless there were already some manner of social marginalization, some special vulnerability, at work.
Such marginalization is part of the world we live in. But not understanding this is a form of stupidity.
One should be able to maintain relationships with their women.
SJG
Philip Glass Akhnaten
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EAiv-LU8…
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=giJnASQY…
Well, she will start to expect things and to press those expectations upon you.
So if you, like most of us, were not in someway socially marginalized, then those expectations would not be a problem.
But for most of us they are. So people blame it on the women and the nature of relationships, even though this is not really fair.
So it is important to look at what those social expectations are, where they come from, how they work, and why they are such problems. Only in doing this can we see where there is social marginalization.
SJG
Philip Glass, The Temple, live!
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When you first develop a relationship with a girl, that is when you first find yourself subjected to normative society expectations. For most of us, these will be a huge problem, and so what is likely is a negative relationship with the girl, and then getting dumped. Been there in the worst of it myself.
But just adopting a strategy of love em and leave em does not accomplish anything. It is an act of submission.
Rather, one needs to understand these expectations, and learn where they come from, and learn why they are such a problem, and then work to correct this.
It is unfair, totally unfair. But it is impossible to do anything about if one just runs from it.
SJG
Mainstream social expectations revolve around that axis of heterosexual coupling. When you engage in such coupling, you are subjected to the expectations.
None of us can solve anything just by running away from the situation.
SJG
If you read my profile you'll see that I don't want to live as a Pathetic Looser. I want to be King Herod the Great.
I want to collect women, and surround myself with them.
That this would be seen as a negative is an indication that one is living in a condition of social marginalization. While this is not strange, being completely oblivious to it is strange. When one is so oblivious, there is nothing one can do about the problem.
SJG
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I don't see it that way.
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