Making Love vs Having Sex
Clackport
Washington
Are you more of a making love kind of person, or are you more of the strictly fucking kind of person?
I'm definitely more of the making love kind of person. Although sometimes I do like hard fast pounding sex.
Thoughts?
I'm definitely more of the making love kind of person. Although sometimes I do like hard fast pounding sex.
Thoughts?
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I've done both in the clubs.
It doesn't really matter to me anymore. I'm way past the jaded point at this juncture with strippers.
If I'm paying her money for it, I want to be whatever I say I want, quality wise. :)
For the most part I always make love, whether it's a one night stand, or if she's my girlfriend.
IMO sex is an appetite similar to the appetite for food – sometimes you are starving and will chow-down like a caveman – similarly sometimes I'm starving for sex and just want to fuck her as hard as I can but for the most part I prefer sensuality and GFE.
Anyway, I think it is helpful to be able to express yourself in different ways at different times.
But as far as what I like, it is what most people call GFE. If you just go to say an AMP and try to get a fast fuck it will not be GFE, as that is not is what is on the menu.
If you want GFE, you do need to do some extra work to try and set it up so that it goes that way.
Now at the RedBook AAMPs, GFE was standard, and usually you just got it.
I want the girl to open up, to let her emotional barriers down. I'm not at all interested in her making me cum, using any part of her anatomy, unless she is also opening herself up to the emotional dynamics of it.
If she opens up, the effect on her will be profound, and this is what I am looking for.
Now, as far as how long the act takes, or how rough it might be, it can be quick and rough, just so long as she opens up. Sometimes a girl will do this. You can have a plan, but you still need to be ready to go with it as it happens. Sometimes girls are just ready to let go, and this leads to what I call "Explosive GFE".
SJG
https://sites.google.com/site/sjgportal/…
So, something in between? "Making love" is for teenage girls afraid of sex.
That's all fine. But animal sex, even emphasizing doggie position, can still involve lots of really hungry deep kissing. I mean if both parties are just going at it, then such kissing will not be refused.
I've spoken of some AMP sessions where what it instantly turned into could best be described as "Explosive GFE". The girl neither refused or slowed down anything. She just let it happen. She got ravaged.
And also, as I see it, the best way to discourage your girl from wearing panty hose is to keep ripping them off of her. That is what panty hose are for, one use only.
I think the issue here is between GFE-FS ( both slow and tender and animalistic ) and this other thing which is also done in P4P situations, 'extras'-FS.
I don't like 'extras' of any type. I don't go along with the idea behind it. That idea is that a girl who offers no psychological or emotional openness will do something to make you ejaculate, and then that is it.
Tender and slow GFE involves the girl opening up. Animalistic GFE involves the girl opening up and just letting it happen.
There are also just natural rhythms to this, which follow the mood of the people. Sometimes a girl needs some gentle kissing interspersed with talking, to let her open up. Othertimes she wants her clothes ripped off and to be lifted up against a wall or pinned down on the floor.
But the 'extras' approach, where the girl is performing an ejaculation oriented service on you, with whatever part of her anatomy, without lowering her emotional barriers herself, that is what I don't go along with.
I mean, in the context of an ongoing sexual relationship, if the girl wants to do it that way once in a while, okay. But with one I don't really know and don't see regularly, that is not what I want.
SJG
https://sites.google.com/site/sjgportal/…