Not long ago, in one of the threads here, somebody (not sure who) mentioned, rather matter-of-factly, that he always considered each person responsible for their own orgasm.
At the time that seemed rather shocking, and at odds with what I've always assumed is each partner's obligation to do his/her part in assisting the other in achieving orgasm. But I'm wondering if it really has some merit. I'm not saying it's wrong, and in fact it might be right, it's just something that seems to be the opposite of what I've always believed.
Clearly, a woman generally needs a certain environment and emotional state to achieve orgasm. Guys can knock it out standing on a subway platform waiting for the A train if the chick is hot enough and he's horny enough. But with women you need to lay some groundwork, and make the sex act enjoyable, with the right rhythm and emotion, etc. Sure, sometimes women can also knock it out on a subway platform, but generally they need the right environment. And yeah, men also need certain factors to align in order to achieve the optimum blast off.
So I'm curious...
How do you guys feel about the concept of each person is responsible for his/her own orgasm? Have I been living in a misconception all these years?
The older I get the harder it is to get myself off. I find it much easier with the right kind of help. ie hot chicks.