OMG can't believe I am asking this on this board but considering many people on here think similar to me, maybe you guys can give some good advice. I can't tell my friends about this, because with their lack of experience they couldn't provide sound advice.
A year and a half ago (March 2013) I met someone on the internet. Very attractive girl who is a few years younger than me. She is married and hates her husband, he never has sex with her, and they have no children (for reference I have a S.O. as well). This girl and I agreed to meet and take what ever happens for what it is. She lives over 1,000 miles away from me and I bought her a plane ticket to come visit me in June. Due to flooding she was stranded and wasn't able to make the flight in time. Legit excuse, I believed her. Second meeting was to happen in July, she was to go to a conference for her work, and instead of flying home, come fly to me for a few days and return home. She bought her own tickets this time around, I even booked them for her using her credit card. Her office booked her stand-by for the flight to the conference and she never made it on the plane after waiting at the airport all day. Third meeting was to happen in August, but she came home one day to find her husband had left her and she was a train wreck. A few weeks later he came back and she thought it was a bad idea to leave for a "conference" the same week he finally returned home. Fast forward a few months down the road and we were to meet before the holidays in November. I had called her and she's dumb enough to put my real name in her phone, and her husband was home early that day from work and sees my name on her phone, confronts her and ends up smashing her phone into a million pieces, essentially cancelling trip 4. Aside from trip 1, she always paid for the tickets and I even had proof. After that, things really fell downhill and we didn't talk much for a few months. She used to call me her boyfriend, and after trip 4 fell apart, I told her she had lost the right to call me her boyfriend, which apparently really upset her. This really fell apart and we would go weeks without talking to each other.
Around February 2014 I told her she would have to make more effort to communicate with me if she wanted me to be part of her life. Then she stopped communicating with me all together. Around March of this year she started contacting me like crazy saying I hurt her feelings really bad with my last comment and that she wanted me back in her life. Strangely enough she started this while she was going on a cruise with her husband. I swear the girl is cursed because she couldn't even go on her cruise since it left right around the same time the oil tanker crashed in Galveston, TX. A few of the ships were able to make it out, but hers was not and she went home. Aside from that things started to pick up again. We always had a very strong connection that we both couldn't deny. I can't explain falling in love with someone I had never even met but it happened. We started talking and she expressed that she missed me, she sent me a photo of her in lingerie. Knowing she'd never do that for her husband I called her out and said she was fucking someone else. Turned out I was right, and she finally admitted it after being confrontational with me for a week claiming it was a one night stand which she regretted and that's why she was contacting me, because it made her realize how badly she needed me back in her life. I was upset and a little hurt that she did that, but I know I don't have room to talk because it's not like I behaved well either (just read my reviews! lol). I never have told her about what I do on and off of this board and she never has assumed I have done anything either. Or if she has, she has never brought it up to me.
We've always had a great connection and I even bought her a small present for her birthday which was last month. It all comes down to this: I told her I will be going to Vegas next month and she is more than welcome to join me. She knows she would have to pay for her own ticket, if this happens it will be our first time meeting EVER. If she doesn't make it I think it would be time to officially call it quits.
I can't believe I have put up with this, but the connection I have with her is very strong and for some reason we keep getting drawn back to each other. Maybe my life is a lot more boring that I think and I just enjoy some drama now and then!?!?! She doesn't mention much about her home life but I get the feeling her husband is abusive, maybe not physically but at the minimum verbally and she's scared to death of pissing him off. She says he drinks at least a 6 pack after work every night, maybe he has a drinking problem? She also hasn't been exposed to much in life growing up with a single mother. She lives in Texas and I'm not sure if she's ever been outside a bordering state, and doesn't own a passport. Without her husband she has nothing, so she knows if she screws up that relationship she would have a hard time. She does have a job and did graduate college, but their house was given to them by her husband's dad. I can't figure out if she's a catfish, she sees me as a phone buddy, or is afraid to take the step to meet me. She has said she fears meeting me will be too good and she won't be able to stand going back home to him. She often tells me she can't wait until it's Monday on the weekends so she can get away from him, and she also hates her job right now so it must be pretty bad sometimes at home. She also says she wants us to leave our current S.O.s and start a life together, but I have told her I don't take that seriously when she can't even figure out a way to get to me and since she got caught fucking another guy it's going to be a long time before I could ever trust her again.
So what would my TUSCL buddies do in a PL situation like this? Fuck that almost sounds like a LMN sob story?
