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wren8
newbie here, so ive been lurking for awhile, but want some advice. divorced a year ago, frequenting clubs quite a bit last 3 monts. have my eye on a girl. i got a regular 9 to 5 and a little girl part time, so not a lot of time, so i go to the club once a week or less. im the guy that picks only one girl, i know pathetic, call it what you will. i drop several benjis at a time, usually monopolizing her for an hour at least. i have her number and we txt infrequently and its always pretty short.
ive danced around the otc topic, but have never asked outright. she says yes, but then i think she says yes to anything i ask her, because i dont think she wants to lose me as a customer, so not sure if i am getting strung along. ive never really done this before so my question is how to i approach this? do i flat out and ask? i admit -- and i know the beating im about to take from lurking -- that i am a little emotionally attached, but i know i can keep my distance, but i really just want a couple of otc's with her over the next few months. how do i go about getting that?
ive danced around the otc topic, but have never asked outright. she says yes, but then i think she says yes to anything i ask her, because i dont think she wants to lose me as a customer, so not sure if i am getting strung along. ive never really done this before so my question is how to i approach this? do i flat out and ask? i admit -- and i know the beating im about to take from lurking -- that i am a little emotionally attached, but i know i can keep my distance, but i really just want a couple of otc's with her over the next few months. how do i go about getting that?
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I would imagine she would ask as to what you exactly have in mind.
You could say something along the lines “I find you very attractive and I would like to be intimate with youâ€. May be kind of lame to put it this way, but at least it’s kind of safe and she may not be taken aback that much if she is not into the OTC thing.
But if you do set it up, as others will tell you, and you may have read via your “lurking†– make sure you are both on the same page about what is expected and for how much – just be tactful about the way you put it since you don’t seem to be sure about her - but put in never the less.
Also, the fact that she gave you her # is a descent sign, not a sure sign, but a descent one that she may perhaps partake in “side businessâ€.
Everyone gave good advice.
I like the honest up front approach. Say this (like a caveman) "Me want sex!" or (with a smile) "I'd like to have sex with you.". See how those work ;).
Bullwinkle, you're a smart man. A smart smart man.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qqXi8WmQ_…
Sing it EXACTLY the way Ingle did.
so ok, i will just call it out next time i see her. i really do appreciate the advice, especially since i havent posted a review. i will post one soon, thanks again.