Clingy dancers
clubdude
The Greater Detroit Area
Okay guys, I need some help. Maybe I'm too nice of a guy. How do I get ride of a dancer that doesn't get the hint to go away? I go to one particular club which has some new talent I'd like to sample, but she's on me before I can even order a drink. Needless to say the cold shoulder or short answers don't do it. After about 45 minutes, she finally moves on, but then I'm ready to go. Should I just tell her to beat (pardon the pun) it next time?
She's stayed in the game too long (early 40's and looks it).
She's stayed in the game too long (early 40's and looks it).
28 comments
dude: Don't be so subtle. Just tell her you're not interested, she's not your type, and that you're not going to buy any dances. If outright rejection doesn't work, get up and move to another table or seat, using a bathroom stop in between if you don't feel comfortable being that obviously a jerk.
If clingy doesn't do so immediately, then ask a waitress, dj, bartender to send new dancer over. If need be, get up and walk away from clingy to ask another employee to get new dancer.
You are being too nice. It's irrelevant how long clingy has been dancing or how old she is; she's being rude. If above doesn't work be rude back by getting up and walking away from her.
Maybe it is the years that I've been doing this, but I no longer have the patience to wait a girl out for a half hour if there is no chance that I will want her for anything.
Clubber, that neck massage girl must have relocated from Phoenix. There was a similar girl in a club there, always offering massages for the same price as a lap dance. She claimed to be a professional masseuse. At first, I politely refused, and she still came around; but eventually I told her exactly what I thought (gimme a break!) and she never bothered me again.
Hey, if anyone is going to get all clingy and be a pest, it's going to be me, lol.
Problem is, those that always seem to be the pest type are never ones I would care to spend time with. NOW, if a hot Asian happened to be like that, she couldn't be a pest! :)
Tootsie's is north to me! :)
If a dancer has plopped herself down uninvited, or if you invited her and then changed your mind, excuse yourself and go to the bathroom. If you're gone more than 3 minutes, you can bet the farm she won't be there when you get back. On the off-chance that she is, just sit somewhere else.
BZZZZZZZZ - wrong - thanks for playing. Wrote this a couple years ago about my first visit (and almost last) to a club. The dancer is question was a very hot Asian:
So I'm there for about 30 seconds and a dancer plops down on my lap with the usual SS banter. Offers me a shot, dance, and massage for one price. I said nicely that I wasn't interested yet, as I had just gotten there. She kept pressuring me to the point where I was weighing the pleasure of throwing her off me vs the pain of the bouncer's revenge. Finally she says, "You look bored." I replied, "Maybe I look bored because I've already said 'no' 4 times and you're still asking."
BZZZZZZZZ - You're wrong! You don't know me, not how I would react. If ANY hot Asian stood by me, sat by me, talked to me, and ESPECIALLY sat on my lap, I'm hers! Now that is not to say after a bit I might lose interest, but she might have to be a serial killer for that to happen! :)
One problem with the "moving" solution. When I enter a club, I tend to sit in a seat I prefer. That said, why should I move to a seat I didn't care for in the first place? I say it is better just to tell her get lost, or something to that effect! If she is upset, pissed, or whatever, OH WELL!
When you are in a club CONTROL YOUR SPACE. If she needs to be told that she is not your type, and a minute of more polite responses doesn't do it, then tell her that. If she tries to convince you to go to a lapdance by grabbing your package, take her hand off - unless of course the grab changed your mind. ;) If she wants you to buy her a drink and you do not want to, just say no.
My gig involves me being pleasant but firm, and it has been serving me well for some time. Girls are more likely to pull that shit longer when they smell weakness, so the firm part is important. Once you have established that you are in charge of if, and how much, you spend, all good things will eventually follow.
Good luck.
My advice to the OP is simply tell the dancer very clearly and while looking her in the eye that you are waiting for someone else or simply that you do not want company. You'll avoid hurting her feelings but still get your point across. :)