The topic of what to talk about has come up from time to time here. I got this in an email the other day. I think almost every interesting dancer I've met has followed some variation of these guidelines, even if not consciously or knowingly.
I don't buy this at all. Self-confidence and initiative combined with knowledge of some subject is what makes small talk effective. Anyone who follows these formulaic rules comes across as a pseud. Most people have an excellent "bull shit detector" and they immediately tune out whenever encountering someone who applies these rules to normal human verbal intercourse. Natural spontaneity is always attractive.
Maybe, but I've met several non dancers as well who use some variation of this, and don't come across as bullshitters. After all, it's *small* talk, intended to pass the time and maybe provide a starter for more conversation.
That said, slavish adherence to *any* formula is going to come across as fake. Using the guidelines as what they are, starting points, can give those who need a bit of help that little bit of extra confidence they need.
Probably much more improtant in the escort world. Some guys are just lonely for companionship and then a gal's ability to intelligently engage on a particular topic of interest can fill a void.
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I don't buy this at all. Self-confidence and initiative combined with knowledge of some subject is what makes small talk effective. Anyone who follows these formulaic rules comes across as a pseud. Most people have an excellent "bull shit detector" and they immediately tune out whenever encountering someone who applies these rules to normal human verbal intercourse. Natural spontaneity is always attractive.
That said, slavish adherence to *any* formula is going to come across as fake. Using the guidelines as what they are, starting points, can give those who need a bit of help that little bit of extra confidence they need.