The stripper isn't sexually aroused---before, during, or after sex---by her customers therefore it means she didn't like her customers having sex with her!
Samsung is right--it's a business transaction. The groaning is part of the entertainment. Chalk it up as stripper shit.
But I've known a few dancers, ones that were longtime favs who trusted me, who would sometimes say at the end of a long afternoon shift, "hey I really need it" and then they would really get it on. Proof was in the pudding, so to speak.
Other reasons why a stripper would enjoy having sex with a customer and not necessarily become sexually aroused?
Self-esteem. Some of these ladies have very low self-esteem. The customer's desire for them is a wonderful if temporary ego boost.
Nurturing. Some of these ladies are natural moms. Their motherly instincts can get off track with love of loser boyfriends and love of incompetent customers.
Contact. My longtime girlfriend was a physical therapist because *she* needed the contact. Some people need to talk. Others need to listen. And, believe it or not she needed contact. Putting her in an environment without plenty of touch would be painful to her.
Shy spent hours and hours and hours with me at Angels one Saturday. She was very surprised that I didn't get tired or bored. She was providing what I needed. The only fly in the ointment was that I only had $30! :( She knew that when she started dancing and when I tried to give her the $30----she said you need that money a lot more than me. I told her I'd feel guilty if she didn't take it. She took it after fighting and said I was being stupid and she also apologized for cutting our session short. A big spender came in---she said he'd easily spend $300 or more without blinking an eye. Taking $30 from me was just stupid, in her opinion, no matter which way you looked at it. That $30 led to much unhapiness between us---she believed in free and I saw that as negative stealing. You don't go to a working girl's job and then not pay her for taking care of you!!! Anyway, much unhappiness because I wasn't going to be bossed by a female and she was super stubborn. I like women who do what the man says----she didn't understand and was spouting nonsense about equality. Equality? Like she doesn't notice her tits, ass, and honey box. Makes me riled every time I think of all the needless grief she put me thru. :( Women love to ruin a good thing . . . marriage, baby, equality, etc.
"If you had the number of sex partners in a day she probably has, would you be aroused?"
Yes, indeed. Sometimes, I'd get a windfall. I'd be at the club all day and all night. And, this could go on for days. $5 dances can go a long long way, btw. :) My damn balls would be bloody and I just change the menu a little. Instead of lapping, I'd try for cuddling and other sexual contact that AVOIDED my bloody balls. Hell, the damn club could closing and I'd have prefer staying as long as hotties were available. Good looking women are fantastic especially if they're willing to be even a little nice to me. :)
The non sequitur that I was thinking of was confelicity----the pleasure in other's happiness. Just cause the stripper ain't being sexually aroused don't mean she ain't having a fantastic time watching her customer achieve bliss. It is sorta like the bliss that I've felt when a coke addict let's me experience their pleasure vicariously.
Those who are sexually repressed or focused on punishment to control others probably can't begin to understand that some people could actually enjoy immensely giving another person sexual pleasure even if that person didn't receive any sexual enjoyment in return.
A little more off topic, I'd always assumed the dancer telling one whopper after another was just a saleswoman or fraudster-----macarism, the practice of making others happy through praise and felicitation, may have been the busy bee.
not true, harrydave.
It's just not as obvious with us women is all!
There have been more than a few times that I have gotten very physically aroused while getting lapdances from truly FUGLY dancers (the dances were a result of a lost wager). Although emotionally/intellectually I was miles away, my body responded in a most unexpected way. Surprised the hell outta me.
This topics brings up the age old question, is the girl faking it or not. When talking about sex with a stripper or escort, we're paying for it so to me it's unimportant whether the girl is faking it or not (disinterested would be a problem).
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But I've known a few dancers, ones that were longtime favs who trusted me, who would sometimes say at the end of a long afternoon shift, "hey I really need it" and then they would really get it on. Proof was in the pudding, so to speak.
Other reasons why a stripper would enjoy having sex with a customer and not necessarily become sexually aroused?
Self-esteem. Some of these ladies have very low self-esteem. The customer's desire for them is a wonderful if temporary ego boost.
Nurturing. Some of these ladies are natural moms. Their motherly instincts can get off track with love of loser boyfriends and love of incompetent customers.
Contact. My longtime girlfriend was a physical therapist because *she* needed the contact. Some people need to talk. Others need to listen. And, believe it or not she needed contact. Putting her in an environment without plenty of touch would be painful to her.
Shy spent hours and hours and hours with me at Angels one Saturday. She was very surprised that I didn't get tired or bored. She was providing what I needed. The only fly in the ointment was that I only had $30! :( She knew that when she started dancing and when I tried to give her the $30----she said you need that money a lot more than me. I told her I'd feel guilty if she didn't take it. She took it after fighting and said I was being stupid and she also apologized for cutting our session short. A big spender came in---she said he'd easily spend $300 or more without blinking an eye. Taking $30 from me was just stupid, in her opinion, no matter which way you looked at it. That $30 led to much unhapiness between us---she believed in free and I saw that as negative stealing. You don't go to a working girl's job and then not pay her for taking care of you!!! Anyway, much unhappiness because I wasn't going to be bossed by a female and she was super stubborn. I like women who do what the man says----she didn't understand and was spouting nonsense about equality. Equality? Like she doesn't notice her tits, ass, and honey box. Makes me riled every time I think of all the needless grief she put me thru. :( Women love to ruin a good thing . . . marriage, baby, equality, etc.
"If you had the number of sex partners in a day she probably has, would you be aroused?"
Yes, indeed. Sometimes, I'd get a windfall. I'd be at the club all day and all night. And, this could go on for days. $5 dances can go a long long way, btw. :) My damn balls would be bloody and I just change the menu a little. Instead of lapping, I'd try for cuddling and other sexual contact that AVOIDED my bloody balls. Hell, the damn club could closing and I'd have prefer staying as long as hotties were available. Good looking women are fantastic especially if they're willing to be even a little nice to me. :)
The non sequitur that I was thinking of was confelicity----the pleasure in other's happiness. Just cause the stripper ain't being sexually aroused don't mean she ain't having a fantastic time watching her customer achieve bliss. It is sorta like the bliss that I've felt when a coke addict let's me experience their pleasure vicariously.
Those who are sexually repressed or focused on punishment to control others probably can't begin to understand that some people could actually enjoy immensely giving another person sexual pleasure even if that person didn't receive any sexual enjoyment in return.
A little more off topic, I'd always assumed the dancer telling one whopper after another was just a saleswoman or fraudster-----macarism, the practice of making others happy through praise and felicitation, may have been the busy bee.
That's good, because it gets in my eye when she does that....
It is past my bedtime, but it seems like you may have done a non sequitur with harrydave.
yeah...I took a few liberties with my non sequitur reply.
It's just not as obvious with us women is all!
There have been more than a few times that I have gotten very physically aroused while getting lapdances from truly FUGLY dancers (the dances were a result of a lost wager). Although emotionally/intellectually I was miles away, my body responded in a most unexpected way. Surprised the hell outta me.