Strip Club Melancholia

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sinclair
Strip Club Nation
Whenever I feel like hitting up the titty bars, I just want to relax, listen to some music, and of course watch some good-looking girls dance. Every time I probe a dancer past the usual "where are you from?" and "how old are you?" and she inquires the same of me, the chit-chat always seems to turn into some depressing sob story. C ran away from home at 15 to get away from her druggie mom. K became suicidal after a guy raped her on her 21st birthday. S got knocked up twice by her boyfriend, and now raises her two kids alone. V has a high school education and can't get a normal job. A never even met her father and has to strip to support her mother's medical bills, etc. I understand these girls like to tell guys stories about how they've had such a rough life in the hopes customers will feel sorry for them and spend more money. And I do not question that many of the things these dancers mention are aren't fabrications. If many had came from better environments, perhaps they would not be grinding on a stranger's lap to support themselves. However, if I wanted to give money to the less fortunate, I'd be going to a Salvation Army or United Way office on a Friday night and not a strip club. Listening to sob stories is the ultimate mood killer. I seek the industrial bass, flashing lights, tanned and tattooed flesh of fantasyland as an escape to the dysfunctionality of America, but I only end up being immersed in it even more.

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zooyork
15 years ago
<p>Sinclair, I would agree with you, I'm there to have a good time, and most men come with money to spend, they dont necesarily need to feel guilty to spend it, or be coaxed into doing so.&nbsp; The women are persuasive enough as it is, let alone trying to tell us a sob story.&nbsp; It's nice to get a little personal with your favorite dancer, and every so often you catch them when they're down, and they vent, but I think that's something that needs to stay with them.&nbsp; And I agree it's a mood killer, I just want to have a beer, enjoy the scenery, literally and figuratively, and have a good night out.</p>
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stripclubspy
15 years ago
To be honest, I'd say you need to visit a different club.&nbsp; Not necessarily a more upscale club (although your chances of finding dancers who are less depressed and more professional at an upscale club are probably better), but a club where the attitude is different.&nbsp; Or, just get to know the dancers better.&nbsp; There are always some sad sacks who want to complain, and others who seem to genuinely enjoy what they do (or take enough drugs so they don't care).&nbsp; The really good ones understand that the fantasy is everything and leads to better $ as well as more &quot;satisfied&quot; customers.
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Player11
15 years ago
Dancer drama will get you down if you let it.&nbsp; Frankly, I think a lot of it is just SS.&nbsp; My article on Dancer Drama outlines a lot of the issues.<br />
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Remember, your in control, not them.&nbsp; They are the owners of their problems (and most likely the cause), not you.&nbsp; If they want to open up and rant, nothing wrong with listening and maybe getting in a feel or two&nbsp;but don't let it control your wallet or emotions.&nbsp; Their drama itc could be just SS or a prelude to setting up a hookup otc date.&nbsp; If the latter, &nbsp;I will let them know I can help them ($$$) but make clear what I will need in return (I don't ever give advances or pay for what I am not getting - I don't give a damn if they are about to be evicted).&nbsp; They wil unload all kinda SS on you to get you to give them money for nothing in return.
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Cheo_D
15 years ago
Heh, been fortunate to not get any extraordinary SS... but on my last visit to a club it was sort of amusing that in the chatting along she mentioned she used to work in Real Estate until the crash went down.&nbsp; Why, I thought to myself, well that explains how she got me into VIP faster than normal, she hasn't completely lost the sales skills.<br type="_moz" />
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sanitago
15 years ago
I don't know what club(s) you go to, but I've sat down with lots of strippers, and I can't think of one that's tried any sort of 'sob story' on me. some of them aren't too fond of some of the customers (one thing I learned early: treat a stripper like a person and you can get a <i>lot</i> better mileage out of them), but very few really complain about the job very much.<br type="_moz" />
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feelmore
15 years ago
<span style="font-family: Tahoma"><span style="font-size: x-small">I've had a few gals who were depressing.&nbsp; Normally, though, I think they do an excellent job of promoting the fantasy.&nbsp; I know they don't fall in love with every customer, but some of the more skillful ones are experts at making you feel like you are the only one for them.&nbsp; One has to keep their wits about them to avoid falling into the GFE trap.&nbsp; Always remember that you are just a walking, talking ATM machine to them.&nbsp; That said, I traded email addresses with one stripper and she promptly sent me an email saying that her house just burned down and she was homeless and in desparate need of money.&nbsp; Yeah, right.</span></span>
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stripclubspy
15 years ago
I agree about exercising extreme caution about phone numbers and email addresses unless needed for OTC.&nbsp; Shortly after meeting one dancer and establishing a relationship, she told me &quot;Never give your number to any of the girls here.&nbsp; They'll just end up calling you and asking for money.&quot;&nbsp; And even though it would have been convenient for both of us from time to time, she has never asked me for my number, which I respect very much.<br />
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I game my phone number to a dancer about a year ago because I was looking for another dancer who had suddenly disappeared, and I was hoping for some info.&nbsp; Big mistake.&nbsp; Dancer with number started calling frequently, asking for money, asking for me to come in &quot;to see her&quot; etc.&nbsp; Even called me a few times by mistake, confusing me with someone she was trying to meet OTC, leaving a few voice mails I would be happy if no one ever heard.&nbsp; Like I said, unless you need numbers for OTC arrangements keep your personal info to yourself.
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