I am sure that many of the guys have experienced that “post-nut clarity” after a session (no matter how wonderful). It is a feeling of apathy where you don’t want to go back to the club right away and even if you do, you are in a state of “suspended animation”. After a session, my mind is least interested in pursuing women. Please don’t get me wrong, I still enjoy the amazing vibes, the people watching and the wonder/awe one experiences seeing one’s wildest dreams being played out in real life.
The intent of this article is to first discuss this feeling of disinterest after one has finished a session with a girl (do you also realize that no matter how hot the girl, one is not so enamored of her charms after the session?) and to note the scientific reason for this ‘cliff’. This is not an argument about whether one does experience it and if that indicates a lack of masculinity or ‘big dick’ energy. I am all for pursuing girls in an unrelenting manner. But this is one of those little talked about experiences and if it happens to you, now you may handle it in a smart strategic manner.
So the reason for the drop off in interest can be attributed to the “dopamine cliff” that occurs after the pleasurable experience. Science explains this perfectly. It really comes down to the difference between anticipation and satisfaction. When you are leading up to the moment, your brain is running on high-octane dopamine—the chemical that creates drive and focus. But right after the finish line, the biology flips. Your brain cuts the dopamine and releases a wave of prolactin, which is basically a 'satisfaction hormone.' It acts like a natural brake pedal. So that sudden chill or apathy isn't about her losing her spark; it’s just your internal system hitting a hard reset. The high-energy filter you were looking through has simply switched off.
The way I handle this is to sit with interesting ladies and engage them in good conversation. At least, since your brain has switched off, a man can come across as genuinely interested other aspects of a woman’s personality outside of her sexual charms. It could make for some great conversation and some revealing insights in the women’s live outside of the club. Or you can just walk around and check out the talent for your next adventure. Now, you might wonder if women hit this same wall. The answer is: usually, no. The biology here is totally different. While guys get hit with that chemical stop sign immediately (the refractory period), women generally don't have that same hard reset. Their system doesn't flood with the 'brakes' hormone the same way ours does. Instead of a cliff, their experience is more like a wave that doesn't have to crash. Because their dopamine and arousal levels don't bottom out instantly, they can stay in that high-flying zone even after reaching the peak. This is exactly why many women are capable of—and often interested in—going for round two or three while we are mentally checking out and looking for a nap. Their engine is still running while ours is cooling down in the garage. So great for guys in relationships….there are some upsides to having a steady girlfriend….or a partner.
Paraphrasing a quote on this topic - Nothing loses value faster than a stripper after VIP.
Interesting observation on women's engines cooling more slowly. I guess that's where the old joke comes from - about women wanting to cuddle afterward, while men want to roll over and go to sleep.
Also, to your point, I've watched the vast majority of PLs taking girls to VIP, leave immediately afterward. It's kind of a joke among the girls in the clubs I frequent. I usually hang afterward myself, but admit to feeling guilty chatting up the next stripper. Like, sorry babe - I've just had a great VIP, my crotch is still damp, so there's not much point getting further LDs/VIPs.
Basically, damned if you do, damned if you don't. Although, an enterprising girl can still turn it around. I had a dancer at the old Inner Room in Cocoa Beach proposition me after getting an LDK a little earlier in the evening. She dared me to let her try, saying she's very good and I wouldn't be sorry. Well, I'll be damned. She yanked another explosive finish out of me. Sometimes, ya nevah know.