Advice for Couples

12/11/2023 5:41:11 PM

My wife and I have been able to introduce strip clubs as a fun and healthy activity in our marriage. I see a fair number of questions being asked about going as a couple and I figured I’d write up something to help those who may want to give it a try.

This is based on our experience. Please keep in mind, all relationships, dancers, clubs, and days of the week are different.

Like everything else in a relationship good communication is critical. Start by talking about what you’re looking to get out of going to a strip club together, and make sure your goals are compatible. Do you just want to have a few drinks and watch the stage, do you want lap dances, do you want to watch your partner get a dance, do you want to be watched getting a dance, etc..

Assuming you have compatible goals, talk about the logistics of being at the club.

How much money are you willing to spend?

Where do you want sit in the club? At the bar, at a table, at the tip rail?

Generally speaking you will be approached less frequently and aggressively as a couple than a single guy would be, and the dancers will typically go to the female in the couple. If you are approached, do you want the dancer to sit and talk? If so, are you comfortable with her sitting on one of your laps?

Do you want lap/vip dances? Couples dance or solo? Do you both want to participate or will one just watch? How much touching are you alright with (both the dancer touching you and you touching the dancer)? Do you want extras if available? How far are you willing to go?

Reviews here will be imperfect as most of those reviews are from a solo male’s perspective, but it’s a start.

Once in the club relax, make yourself comfortable and remember to respect each other’s boundaries. Keep in mind that the dancers are providing a service for money so try to not get jealous, but if one of you is not as comfortable as you thought you would be, don’t be afraid to bail.

If you’re not getting approached and you want you want to be, don’t be shy. Get the dancers attention and ask her to come over.

If you’re getting a dance, before you do talk to the dancer, tell her your boundaries and ask about theirs. When getting a dance don’t be afraid to pause it if one or both of you mis-estimated your comfort level. I guarantee the dancer will appreciate this, they’d rather have some awkwardness than drama.

TL/DR: Communicate, respect each other’s boundaries, and have fun. Remember that the dancers are simply doing their jobs, take any drama out of the club.