What Does It and Why?

How do you explain what you like in women? And in particular, what drives the attributes you find sexy in the various providers of adult entertainment you pursue? Have you ever given it any thought? Beyond ‘“umm, tits good’ or “me like pussy” is there a certain reason you like redheads or fantasize about Asian women? I have contemplated this a bit, usually on a long flight when I can’t get to sleep, especially if there is a particularly attractive female nearby. And I think I have a few ideas, not that they all affect everybody. So I thought it might be interesting to toss a few out and get some feedback. Obviously, I think we are all influenced by what our own culture values in feminine beauty. We like what we learn we are supposed to like. For example, although my tastes in women have evolved considerably since the 1970s, I’ll probably always be a sucker for a woman who reminds me of Farrah, or Linda, or Loni, or Bo, or Heather (either one.) That early cultural influence probably extends, for most of us, to the first real-life women we started to notice. For me, it was Miss Hayes. Long before we started hearing about teachers fucking their students, and before I could have done anything about it anyway, I had a sweet young thing teaching me to read and write in elementary school. I guess I learned a little of the actual subject matter. But the thing I remember almost fifty years later is her legs. She wore dresses that showed off her beautifully toned body, and I had no idea why I was so fixated on those legs. But I still see them in my mind sometimes when I am sizing up a hottie on the pole. How about the early nude models or porn stars who helped develop our sense of what turns us on? India Allen was the playmate in my very first Playboy magazine. And when I go into a strip club, I’ll definitely consider buying a dance or seven with any dancer who reminds me of her, or any of the other playmates from that era. And after that era I noticed some of the old, classic porn stars. And again, if a dancer reminds me of Nikki Dial, I’m hooked. For some guys I assume old girlfriends, the first girl who sucked your dick, or even some of those taboo older cousin type things have some influence. For me, my first serious girlfriend, and my first actual sexual experience was with my wife. So I’m not really looking to relive that with a stripper. But I think as we start to realize the breadth of what is available as fantasy material in the adult entertainment world, we probably all start to wonder about and sample tasty treats from the cuisines that weren’t necessarily served at home. I’m not sure how politically correct it is to notice and discuss heritage and ethnicity. But in terms of what I find attractive, there are some really beautiful Asian, Latina, and African American women in the clubs. And my desires in those direction may have their roots in my lack of real-life experiences with a diverse cross-section of women. The same may be true when it comes to things like tattoos and piercings. I never dated a girl I could imagine ever piercing her nipples. But I am all about a stripper with nice bars through her nips. For that matter, the same is true of their belly button, tongues, or clit hoods. But interestingly, I am not as much of a fan of nose rings, lip rings, eyebrow piercings, etc. I wonder if that is just because I see more of that on a day-to-day basis than the things that are typically under wraps until the DJ calls them to the stage. Sexually, I think my theory of venturing out from the known to the unordinary probably continues to hold true. My wife wants no part of oral, in either direction. So that probably explains why I almost fetishize pussy eating and blowjobs. Once you have been mongering as much as me, you also probably find yourself looking at civilian women and wondering what they’d look like rubbing their pussy up on the stage in front of you, or trying to figure out which girl back at the office looks like the big titty blonde holding out her garter in your direction. So whether it is an early crush, a profession you fetishize, an ethnicity you’ve never been around much, or the girl you picked up in the hotel bar last week, the challenge is to figure out what it is about the stripper on your lap that gets your dick hard. Of course, it could just be that you like tits, pussy, and getting your dick stroked. Yeah, maybe that’s it. No need to overthink it.