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Where there's a hole, there's a way. [HIATUS]

If you’ve ever sat in a strip club with a girlfriend and have been ignored for the entirety of your stay and you don’t know why, this may well answer a few questions.

I don’t know if this is something that is thought about on a forum that is predominantly males, but there are several things about the female clientele that have earned them a stigma in the strip club world. Besides being a dancer myself, you all already know that I also monger on my off time, so because of this I have to be more pro-active when it comes to selecting and connecting with another dancer, and at the same time try to set a good example for other female customers.

A large chunk of dancers (but not all) will agree that they choose not to interact with female customers - some even going as far as to say that they hate them. I don’t think I’ve personally had enough bad experiences with girls to say that I absolutely refuse to engage with them, as 80% of my interactions with them and couples have been mostly positive. But when I’m on shift and wearing the platform heels, I have seen and experienced some of the reasons why the other dancers feel the way they do. But I figured I’d I write this article to share some observations; make a list of each downside that’s often seen with girl customers, and how I’ve experienced a bit of the drama.


𝟙. 𝕋𝕙𝕖𝕪 𝕥𝕙𝕚𝕟𝕜 𝕥𝕙𝕖𝕪'𝕣𝕖 𝕖𝕟𝕥𝕚𝕥𝕝𝕖𝕕 𝕥𝕠 𝕕𝕚𝕤𝕔𝕠𝕦𝕟𝕥𝕖𝕕/𝕗𝕣𝕖𝕖 𝕔𝕠𝕧𝕖𝕣.

You probably haven’t witnessed this yourself unless you literally sit by the front entrance to the club all the time, but some of these girls are completely desensitized to these regular night/urban clubs that are always advertising “Ladies Free Entry/Drinks/Etc Until 11 PM” or “Ladies Night Every Wednesday, No Entry Fee For Ladies” or literally anything else along those lines and just run under the assumption that all strip clubs act the exact same way. This moreso happens with a group of all girls rather than a couple or a group with a mixture of girls and guys, but I myself have seen this situation less than a handful of times at work. The funniest argument that one of the female custies threw out was that “the dancers come in for free, why not us?”, when in fact there is this wonderful thing called a ‘House Fee’. No female gets in for free, but strangely enough, there’s a common misconception (especially in bigger cities) that they can.

𝟚. 𝕋𝕙𝕖𝕪 𝕨𝕒𝕟𝕥 𝕥𝕠 𝕓𝕖 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕔𝕖𝕟𝕥𝕖𝕣 𝕠𝕗 𝕒𝕥𝕥𝕖𝕟𝕥𝕚𝕠𝕟.

This is a more common annoyance to dancers and something that every monger may have seen at least once. A group of guys and a girl or two go in, and they feel the need to show off to their friends and partners that they are a super open-minded chick that just has to let the world know that she is a strong independent woman that ~ loves ~ strippers. 75% of the time, these girls are drunk. Being in the mere presence of a stripper gets them riled up. They start straddling the guys at their table to show they, too, can give a decent lapdance. They start making out with their boyfriends passionately while sitting front and center at the tip rail while the dancer on that stage tries to not flash them the stink eye. She and her friend stand up from the group table and just start hoop hollering and dancing in excitement around them to fuel the ‘party’ atmosphere when really… they’re spooking off the real dancers from approaching anyone at that table.

𝟛. 𝕋𝕙𝕖𝕪 𝕕𝕠 𝕟𝕠𝕥 𝕙𝕚𝕕𝕖 𝕥𝕙𝕖𝕚𝕣 𝕛𝕖𝕒𝕝𝕠𝕦𝕤𝕪 𝕨𝕖𝕝𝕝.

Every dancer’s personal favorite. The girl that tries to convince her boyfriend that she is totally open to the idea of going to a strip club, it’ll be totally fun, and it’ll be an experimental way to build trust with each other and boost confidence. It’s either that or the boyfriend begs the girlfriend to come along and the girlfriend eventually submits and gets dragged along - thinking maybe it won’t be so bad. They go inside the club, and the boyfriend doesn’t even have to look at any of the dancers. The girl can look at them all herself and suddenly feel her self-confidence draining from her mink eyelashes. If a dancer walks by and greets them, the boyfriend may smile, but the girlfriend remains stoic and keeps her gaze to the wall. If a dancer dares look the boyfriend in the eye while she’s laying spread eagle on stage, the girlfriend will shoot her medusa’s glare like she’s really hoping the stripper will turn into stone then and there.

That’s when they’re just sitting and watching. The boyfriend may attempt to encourage his girl to engage with the strippers, asking questions like “Do you like her?” “Do you think she’s pretty?” “Do you want to tip her?” all of which will be met with a hard ‘no’. If she thinks she can handle it, she may get a couple’s dance from their select stripper, but she may lay down some rules like “Whatever you do, don’t touch each other’s crotch / don’t kiss each other / don’t do anything too intimate.” So a generic lap dance is all she’ll tolerate, and the dancer better not act like she’s turned on in the slightest, otherwise, she and/or the boyfriend will face the girlfriend’s wrath.

𝟜. 𝕋𝕙𝕖𝕪 𝕔𝕠𝕦𝕝𝕕 𝕓𝕖 𝕡𝕣𝕠𝕤𝕥𝕚𝕥𝕦𝕥𝕖𝕤.

This issue seems more prevalent in bigger clubs and I myself haven’t seen this happen at either club I’ve worked at locally, but I’ve heard stories, and I’ve been told by club staff that this is the prime reason a lot of strip clubs won’t permit female customers inside without a male escort. The custy could simply be a working girl whose only motive is to go and find more johns to try and meet later. She’ll act like the stranger’s friend, exchange numbers to meet later, or if she’s bold she’ll just walk right out with him right behind her.
A few clubs are so strict about keeping female customers away from males outside of their group that all it takes is a male custy to approach the female out of curiosity to greet her, and the bouncer will come along and tell her to leave. This is usually why I don’t say more than a ‘Hi, how are you?’ if a stranger tries to talk to me or tell me to join their friends at their table (even if it’s another monger that I just happen to know from another club or my own). I myself have never been booted from a club for being a suspected hooker, but I don’t want the slightest chance to be invoked.

𝟝. 𝕋𝕙𝕖𝕪 𝕔𝕒𝕟 𝕓𝕖 𝕞𝕠𝕣𝕖 𝕒𝕘𝕘𝕣𝕖𝕤𝕤𝕚𝕧𝕖 𝕕𝕦𝕣𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕒 𝕕𝕒𝕟𝕔𝕖/𝕍𝕀ℙ.

I say that I can vouch for this complaint for about… maybe a quarter of the girls I have danced for in my stripper lifetime. I don’t know if this is because the female custy is trying to turn on her partner or if because she’s just ultra horny for the stripper dancing for them, but some girls tend to push boundaries just as much if not more than aggressive male customers… but then get confused if the dancer asks them to stop doing whatever they’ve done. This is often because the mindset of the custy is ‘Well, I’m a girl too, so this is totally fine.’

I think I only had one truly frustrating dance with a girl that kept trying to shove her sloth-clawed manicured fingers between my legs, which of course scratched, so I told her it was hurting me, and then while I was reverse straddling her she spanked my ass so hard that it almost knocked me off of her lap. I simply said “Easy now” and her response was “Girl, if you don’t do your job…”
My dance went from decent to half-assed after that comment.

The other type of girl/couple that may fit in this category are the kind that takes a stripper back for one singular song just to see how raunchy she’ll get with them before they decide if they want to talk her into coming to their place later for a threesome. Sometimes they don’t get a dance at all and just ask if the stripper will be down to party with them, but if they DO get a dance, they will get very handsy, and it’s just the ‘test run’ for potential fun later.

𝟞. 𝕋𝕙𝕖𝕪 𝕠𝕡𝕖𝕟𝕝𝕪 𝕞𝕒𝕜𝕖 𝕗𝕦𝕟 𝕠𝕗 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕘𝕚𝕣𝕝𝕤/𝕤𝕥𝕒𝕣𝕥 𝕕𝕣𝕒𝕞𝕒.

Thankfully, the majority of my interactions with female customers have been positive or neutral at the worst, but once in a blue moon, a group of girls will come in with a guy friend or two in tow, and their only goal for their visit to the club is to be as big of a bitch to the dancers on stage as possible. I never understood the motivation behind these groups. Is it to look bold or feisty in front of their boyfriends? Do they assume that every single dancer is a working wage employee that may or may not be willing to lose her job just to hop over the stage rail and shut the girl’s mouth?

They’ll always sit at the tip rail, tip only $1 or $2 at the most if there’s the slim chance they like the dancer, but if they don’t they will make their disappointment loud and clear. “My grandpa has a bigger ass than she does!” “I didn’t know they let male dancers work here!” “She just does this because she has no self-confidence!” “I can’t believe they let her work here!” The list could go on, but you get the picture. The guys in the group will sit in awkward silence and don’t try to chill the girls out. Of course, none of the dancers approach them after stage, because well… why would they? It never fails to put all the dancers in a shitty mood until they finally leave the club, and on occasion, it even bothers the other mongers if they’re sitting within earshot of the group. They ask what the girls’ deal is, and we honestly don’t know how to simply answer that.

𝟟. 𝕋𝕙𝕖𝕪 𝕕𝕠𝕟'𝕥 𝕓𝕣𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕞𝕦𝕔𝕙 𝕞𝕠𝕟𝕖𝕪

This is pretty self-explanatory. If a girl does bring her own money to spend at the club, they usually don’t bring any more than maybe $30 - $50. That is sliced in half by the cover charge and drink orders, so all the money they have left could only be used to tip the girls or… buy more drinks. It is pretty rare for them to get a private dance - especially more than one, whether they’re on their own or with a partner. But on the contrary, one of my highest counts for dances in a row was by a couple - who ended up buying 24 from me on a slow Wednesday night. They are extremely rare, but they are out there, which I guess drives my motivation to greet couples and girl custies anyway while I’m at work. Obviously, because strip clubs are catered to the ‘lonely but rich’ male PLs, the females aren’t going to be seen as a primary target for having top dollar.

𝟠. 𝕋𝕙𝕖𝕪 𝕛𝕦𝕤𝕥 𝕒𝕔𝕥 𝕝𝕚𝕜𝕖 𝕥𝕙𝕖𝕪'𝕣𝕖 𝕒𝕓𝕠𝕧𝕖 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕣𝕦𝕝𝕖𝕤.

When a female custy is reminded of the rules or is reprimanded for breaking one of them, there’s a 50/50 chance it just goes in one of her ears and out the other. If she tries to touch the dancer in a no-touch club and a bouncer tells her to stop, she’ll do it again 2 more times. If she tries to record a dancer on stage and a bouncer tells her to stop, she’ll tell her friend to do it for her. If a girl refuses to buy a drink because it’s too expensive despite that the club has a one drink minimum, she will throw a tantrum. If a girl wanders into the girl’s dressing room without knowing that it’s employees only and the bouncer tells her to leave it, she’ll find her way back in on accident through another door (usually if the ladies’ restroom is connected to it). I think it’s a half and half mix between a sense of entitlement or strip clubs being commonly mistaken as a night club that has next to no rule enforcement other than having to be over 21.


I believe I’ve covered the common negatives, and I’d like to believe that I don’t display any of these behaviors when I’m out and mongering. Because I’ve seen most for myself as a stripper, so when I go out as a customer, I want my chosen dancer to be as comfortable with me as I am with her.

Hope I gave you mongers some food for thought.

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