How a Strip Club Helps With Illness and Depression

DFreshPalace
California
I've been going to clubs since I turned 21 because at the time that was the age of the Clubs in my area. I wasn't much of a drinker and to this day still not but I always found comfort in going to the clubs because I suffer from depression. I won't go into the cause of the depression because only loved ones know and need to know.

Back in the Mid 90's when turned 21 I always wanted to go to a club just to see what they were really like. Were they like what you saw in movies or on TV? Did they really wear costumes like Cowgirl suits on stage? Maybe but not my first club they didn't I remember first walking in and seeing a beautiful Black Girl on stage dancing to The Cult "Fire Woman" I was already hooked on the music choice so I ordered a beer for $5 and headed to the stage. I don't recall any other part of the club if it had Lap Dances or not but I knew I immediately felt like all the sadness of the depression just a day before that I had was gone. It was also the day I never drank again. I decided that I'd rather give the girls more money than pay $5 for a beer I didn't really like. I also only went to this club 1 time because it would end up closing so I had to find a new and luckily I was able to do that.

Once I found a new club it was also opened during the day and only topless and at the time I first started going here it had some really not pretty girls but okay ones and a Jukebox and more Pool Tables you could shake a Pool Cue at. I learned from one of the dancers if I wanted to get better entertainment to come at night. Though I hesitated at first because of what I saw during the day I decided to go and that was when I knew it was better to go at night. The talent was far and away better and they had a DJ who had Longer hair than some of the girls but this dude kicked A** on the mic and with the tunes. From 60's, 70's 80's and 90's Rock, R&B and even some country with some Tech music at times with some crazy light shows to go with it. Again when I would be here at night I felt like my Depression would disappear.

Once our city started getting into Total Nude Clubs the Topless Clubs all started going away so I had to find a new club to go to. I tried several. One was on the City Hit List to close with the other 2 in the area only leaving 4 in town. I hit one near our downtown and for awhile it was okay but it wasn't a very busy club and I really couldn't find what I was looking for especially after they changed hours from Middle of the day to Late Afternoon. I would lose my depression on occasion when here but it changed management so much it just fell by the wayside.

I then headed to the Top Club in the area and that was fun for awhile as well. They get the top Stars and one night when I was there Ron Jeremy stopped by with a HUGE entourage. It's a nice club but for me it never lived up to what I was looking for and though I would lose my depression for a little bit I never really felt like I was home.

When I started working in the area I was driving home one night and before it became the current name I did a drive by to see what the crowd was like (Parking Lot) when I noticed a beautiful dancer walking into work. I had to stop in and see this up close and personal and at the time I made the right choice but when she left I took a long time to go back. I finally did go back in 2015 as some of you may have seen from my previous article but once my friend who worked there left I did as well.

I now have a new club and I started going because they invited me to check it out. After months of hesitation I finally gave in but now that I did go in 2016 I am so glad I did because every time I go I feel no pain from my illness, I lose my depression but on one night I was in pretty bad shape so I headed there and saw my favorite as well as talked with another who really was able to calm me down. The management of the club is also very helpful I love business and when I'm not busy with my favorite they teach me about the club as much as they can. Remember the DJ with Long Hair? He and I had a dream of opening our own club one day and we had everything we needed until the Laws changed and changed all that but I still have that dream to someday owning a Club in hopes that I can help someone like me get over their Illness and depression with the help of beautiful woman, GREAT Music and a Club Vibe that makes everyone feel welcomed.

So How does a Club help with Illness and Depression? I am a walking example and here to help anyone who may have what I have.

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  • Papi_Chulo
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    7 years ago
    Yeah - when I'm in a strip-club I like, I forget about the outside world and I'm usually able to forget about whatever may be bothering me.

    As males, beautiful women will def have an effect on our psyche - add to that them being dressed/looking provocatively, and at times nude or very close, and yeah, that will have an effect on almost any healthy male especially since males tend to be so visually stimulated w.r.t. women.

    So yeah - no doubt good strip-clubs make the avg guy feel good and why so many guys will hit the clubs when feeling stressed-out and/or over-worked - it's a fun place and it's supposed to be - music, lights, beautiful young naked women fliritng w/ us and paying attention to us (and alcohol for those into that).

    It would be interesting if someone did a study where they measured men's/custy's brains/brain-waves when inside the club and when outside the club - I'm pretty-sure inside the club a man's brain would be lit-up much differently.

    Hope you try everything you can to help you w/ your depression - just like strip-clubs help, so can other things if not as much as strip-clubs (taking-trips/traveling; working-out, self-study to better yourself, etc - life is for living).
  • DFreshPalace
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    7 years ago
    I do a lot of writing. I found that helps me a lot. It's not always about this topic but writing on a daily basis is a huge therapy for me. I love promotions and promoting businesses so with the use of social media I'm able to do a lot of that as well. But keeping people close to me who I know will be there are so important as well. Especially right now with what I have going on. Thank you so much for reading and for your thoughts. I think a study would be interesting as well.
  • theDirkDiggler
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    7 years ago
    I didn't think i would enjoy strip clubs as much as i did and still do now. There was a brief time not that long ago where i wondered what i was doing there and why i was spending so much money and time for the same often unsatisfying thing over and over again. Then being with the new ATF as corny as it sounds, made me remember what it means to be alive and present in the moment again. I've had moments like this with other dancers, but this one took it further and i haven't looked back.
  • DFreshPalace
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    7 years ago
    It's not Corny at all. I totally get it. I know what it's like being with one girl who makes you feel the most comfortable.
  • Jascoi
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    7 years ago
    it is so nice being around nice sexy beautiful women. much better than anything else on this earth.
  • theDirkDiggler
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    7 years ago
    Now that i think about it, being at a strip club often feels quite therapeutic to me, especially with the ATF, so i guess it's money well spent for improved mental health as well as having other needs met.
  • frankespo
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    7 years ago
    Since chronic depression is considered a disability and SC are a form of therapy--- should heath insurance companies be required to pay for VIP lap-dances?
  • DFreshPalace
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    7 years ago
    Yes! I agree with you they should. I'd rather go to a club for therapy than to talk to a person in a tie
  • theDirkDiggler
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    7 years ago
    They say that petting and embracing and interacting with an affectionate cute/beautiful animal has profound therapeutic benefits. My pets have passed on :( and i'm a bit allergic so no new ones, but "petting" and being petted by my favorite dancers actually blows those experiences away. It's just too expensive to do as regularly as i want and i can only dream that insurance would cover the costs. I've never had true clinical depression or debilitating mental illness, but i'm sure i could find something in the DSM-5.
  • JAprufrock
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    7 years ago
    Good luck in dealing with your depression. I am in the same boat and have documented the reasons for my misery on various posts here. I've found that putting my problems (which my friends are unaware of, since I don't discuss it with anyone) in writing on an anonymous message board like this helps in some little way.
    Anyway, I understand where you're coming from. I don't do a lot of mongering, but when I have (few strip clubs, couple massage places), the attention I receiver from beautiful (or in some cases above average) women to lift my spirits. Yeah, I know they're only interested in my money. But it feels good to receive that kind of attention, if only for a short period of time.
  • DFreshPalace
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    7 years ago
    Thank you. I hope I can help others like me and you. I tried the other. It didn't work so now if I can make other people happy or at least share how I find happiness then maybe they can to. I don't like seeing others hurt, get hurt or hurting others because of their illness. Going to the club also helps with self confidence and it's okay to talk. It's okay to share. It's okay to be scared but just remember that you are not alone. You always have someone to talk to and if you needed to you could comment here to talk to me. I'm broken but I'm okay. I am here to help as well.
  • san_jose_guy
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    7 years ago
    There is no such thing as depression, not like in a clinical mental illness. There is no such thing as any kind of mental illness.

    People may feel depressed, but that is because they are leading depressing lives.

    The remedy is to redress the actual problems. Usually this means taking on abusers and holding them accountable.

    SJG
  • DFreshPalace
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    7 years ago
    So when I try to commit suicide that was no big deal? When I can't handle the sense of being alone and only want to cry and ways to end my life that's no big deal? Please stop commenting on things you no nothing about. Depression is extremely real and one of the leading causes of death. If you have never been depressed or sad more power to you but I can tell you it's real and your comment is extremely hurtful to me and anyone who has suffered from it. I found a way to beat it and that is to be around people at the club as well as write to help others but I will never tell someone it's not real. Thank you for your comment and reading my article. I will always win because I know how now.
  • san_jose_guy
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    7 years ago
    mdb2203, I am sorry that you have suffered so. Suicide attempts are always a big deal. Not being able to handle the sense of being alone is very hard.

    But this does not mean that there is any such thing as clinical depression, let along that you could be one who suffers from it.

    https://www.amazon.com/Myth-Mental-Illne…

    Now of course, people are often depressed, and with good reason, not because they suffer from a mental illness, ~~ clinical depression ~~. No they are depressed because they are leading depressing lives, and they are living with a highly compromised social standing.

    And generally, being around people, in different kinds of settings, not just strip clubs, is good.

    SJG

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  • DoctorPhil
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    7 years ago
    @san_jose_guy. SHUT THE FUCK UP

    @mdb2203. please ignore san_jose_guy. he is seriously mentally ill IRL and has been prescribed medications for his condition which he refuses to take. just ignore the retarded asshole and continue to do what works for you. good luck
  • DFreshPalace
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    7 years ago
    Thank you for reading and sharing.
  • san_jose_guy
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    7 years ago
    And taxi_driver, how about you learning to read. I never said there was anything wrong about going to strip clubs. I only have tried to refute this idea that there is such a thing as ~clinical depression~ or ~mental illness~.

    SJG

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  • san_jose_guy
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    7 years ago
    I have shown a great deal of respect. And so now I gather that you are also one who believes in the fallacy of ~mental illness~.

    I can and do show respect for people, even though I do not agree with them at all.

    Read Thomas Szasz

    https://www.amazon.com/Myth-Mental-Illne…

    The concept of ~mental illness~ is simply a way of delegitimating people, refusing to accept their experience.

    In this day and age, it is just evaluating people by the standards of the middle-class family, and then pronouncing judgment.

    For some, believing in the fallacy of ~mental illness~ is easier than looking at the ways in which they have been abused and marginalized.

    SJG

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  • Roadworrier
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    7 years ago
    SC’s are my answer to therapy. Too bad Nlue Cross won’t cover them. At the very least the couches are usually a much nicer experience. :)

    Yes, depression is real. I’ll not waste my time with those who deny its existence. Maybe they’re living in their mother’s basement in fervent denial. Or are drinking too much evangelical/Scientology kool-aid.

    As an aside, I don’t know a stand-up comedian whose material never came about as a result of some inadequacy or depression. (Seinfeld may be the exception, but his TV co-writer was Larry David, who has more neuroses than a small town.). Rodney Dangerfield (aka Jacob Cohen) was struggling and in debt for years before he realized that portraying himself as a loser who got no respect (in other words being himself) combined with his knack for rapid-fire one-liners, would lead to fame and fortune.
  • san_jose_guy
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    7 years ago
    "Yes, depression is real."

    People certainly will often feel depressed. But this does not mean that there is a such a thing as ~~depression~~. Reifying it that way gives it an existence of its own. And this is where we get the bogus concept of "clinical depression", and depression as a mental illness.

    As the critical psychiatrist Peter Breggin says, "People are depressed because they have depressing lives." And then usually this comes down to job and marriage.

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Peter_Breg…

    sample of Breggin
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t7OPWRqj…

    See, once you sign on to the concept of ~~ clinical depression ~~, then that makes it you yourself are the problem, not the circumstances which are playing out in your life.

    So say you sit on a tack. So you go to a psychotherapist and you explain that you feel this pain. So the therapist say, "Roadwarrior, I feel you pain. Lie down on the couch here and tell me more about it." So you proceed. Then finally the therapist says, "Yes indeed Roadwarrior, I can see that you are suffering from clinical ass painitus. Clearly you in need of more therapy and healing, and maybe drugs too."

    But never will they even consider removing that tack.

    SJG

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  • DFreshPalace
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    7 years ago
    Friday night I got to spend time with my Favorite Girl You know what I felt? Happiness, I Felt comfort, I felt like all I wanted to do was hold her. Why because Tomorrow (Tuesday) I need major surgery and I may never get that chance again to do what I did Friday. I am sure I will be but you never know. Saturday I didn't get that chance and I hated being alone. I wanted so badly to see her but I couldn't. Sunday when we talked she told me I would be alright. I believe her later she sent me a gift that I will cherish forever I won't say what that was because it's between her and I but it really lifted my spirits. Say depression isn't real I will always defend those who say it is because I know. I am now grounded for 2 weeks (Until January) I have to try and find things to do while getting better at the same time knowing what's ahead of me. I am going to find myself having bad days/nights but I know what my mission is and I will always keep her in mind during this time and beyond. She is a dancer who gives a good time but to me much more. She is there when I need her, she understands how much I need her. It's not always about money. She cares, We both Care. If you have people or a person who care about you like she does you can beat anything I feel like she was brought to me to help me as I am her. Depression is real and it can be beaten if you find the right people to help you and try not to defeat you. If you have gotten this far you can do. I trust anyone who has depression who has gotten this far. We can do it. I am with you. Find yourself that one person at the club who you can trust and you can do it do. Try it. Trust me. Just be kind to everyone and Tip your Waitress, They need money too.
  • san_jose_guy
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    7 years ago
    Hope thing go well for you.

    SJG
  • DFreshPalace
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    7 years ago
    Thank you
  • DFreshPalace
    •
    7 years ago
    Thank you for sharing your thoughts. That's what I wanted.
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