Friends with Dancers

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DFreshPalace
California
I see a lot of people pose the question of How do I become friends outside of the club with a dancer? I will tell you first it can be done but it's not easy you really need to being understanding of her, the business and if you want the friendship to work patience is key. Over the next few paragraphs I will share stories of what it's like thinking you had a friend to only being scammed all the way to finding so much more than life could ever imagine you bringing you if you use my keys.

Flashback to Year 2001 I thought I made a friend outside of the club. We hit it off so well we did things together all the time. Lunches, Dinners, Movies, Shopping, Hanging out at Home. One night she was crying and when I asked her why she told me her car was stolen and had no way to get to work. So as a "Friend" I picked her up and took her to her Club and stayed for awhile. It was a Sunday night I was sitting at home and the phone rang when she said "Is it possible to go look for a new car Monday" Of Course it was. Long story short I was scammed and lied to. My trust was crushed. Her car that was stolen was Repoed and I bought a car she never planned to pay for.

Fast Forward to 2 years later after that. I was between appointments and thirsty and never would have dreamed of going into the Club I went into because it was an old run down club. Little did I know I was going to end up finding my Best Friend of last 15 years. She was on the other side of the room giving a lap dance and when she finished up she walked over to me near the DJ Booth. She was BEAUTIFUL. Asian Filipino Japanese Mix. I won't say how our conversation started but it went well. We hit off so well it was almost like we knew each other from another life. During our time of friendship we've had our share of joys and sadness from her getting named to Playboy Sexy Girl Next Door to a split of almost a year over something I did so stupidly it almost cost me the best thing to ever happen in my life. Now that she's retired from the business completely she's getting ready to get married to a GREAT Guy who we both really like as far as men go for her. He really treats her well and knows that I am a HUGE part of her life as she is mine and to this day we still can finish each other's thoughts.


Being a Writer I take you now to 2015 when I was having Writer's Block so I took a break and headed to a local club where I once again struck gold. When I walked into the club in the middle of the day she was already on stage on a slow Monday in April so I decided I should support her stage with no one else there. As she continued her 2 set dance we talked and seem to have really hit it off but when she finished she disappeared and as I waited for her to come out she never did until she came out with 2 other girls and sat with them. I kept looking over to hoping to grab her attention but to no avail. I will add when she's not dancing she is also a local artist who works at the club to earn extra money to show off her art at shows. Finally as I got ready to leave I approached her and told her how I wanted to speak with her but had to go. She gave me her Number and told me to text her when I got home. I'm not one to not follow a girls orders so I did just that. She proceeded to send me a photo and said now you can think about me until I see you again. Fast Forward about a month or so as we chatted via text now quite a bit she asked if I could give her a ride to work and that was the day a true friendship was born. She and I are like Brother and Sister we are always there to pick each other up when we feel down and depressed.

Finally My last, It was May of 2016 and I was about to give up the Club Life altogether when I gave it one more college try and you could say. It worked. It was a Sunday night and on I called to see if someone was working. The manager said no she no longer works here but if you liked her I have someone even better for you. I headed to the club and she was on stage and he wasn't wrong. HOLY SMOKES! What a beautiful vision. This girl makes guys dreams come true with her amazing beauty and though It's a work in progress with much more to be written I can't wait to see how it ends because this one is everything you can dream of and more.


So to answer the question Yes you can become friends with Dancers but it takes time, trust, respect to her as well as the profession and the willingness to know that it's a job and anything is possible but communication is key. Let them be who they are and don't question what they make. It's NOT Your Business to know. It's Good Money that's all you need to know.

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JohnTitor
7 years ago
Yes, patience & a genuine nature are key. Too much in invest for simply ending up with a long-lost sister, imo. I want a cool chick to poke without anything even remotely resembling sisterdom.

Well-written, piece, though.
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DFreshPalace
7 years ago
Thank you for reading.
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Papi_Chulo
7 years ago
Yeah - it sounds as if a dancer was the one writing this - most guys go to strip-clubs for sexual-gratification (grinding, groping, sometimes more), they don't go to strip-clubs to look for a buddy to hang with and give them rides b/c the buddy doesn't have a car - guys are usually looking to get laid, not be "friend of the year" - for most guys being w/ a hot chick they can't bang is a waste of time - plus while you are doing favors for her she's banging some other dude - no thanks.
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rogertex
7 years ago
papi agree with you but there are takers for the type of arrangements mdb describes in this article. Platonic with eye-candy has its place and value.
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DFreshPalace
7 years ago
I can tell you I'm not a woman or a dancer. I have no skills in that field so I write. I can't help that I gain the trust and friendships work out. It's my nature. I'm always here to support them.
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theDirkDiggler
7 years ago
I can appreciate friendship or more specifically amity and affectionate company with a stripper, but to get friend zoned by a freaking stripper while she has the real fun with someone else? Hell no!
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Rickberge
7 years ago
Being a friend with a stripper that you aint fucking is the ultimate form of simpology
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jackslash
7 years ago
Are you saying you were friends WITHOUT BENEFITS with these dancers? That's pathetic. I admit to being a PL. I admit to being friends with dancers and being used by them for rides and favors and shopping and money. But at least I was getting sex.
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lookingforpink
7 years ago
Agree with jackslash for sure.

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san_jose_guy
7 years ago
Friends yes, just so long as you're pumping loads into them regularly.

SJG
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DFreshPalace
7 years ago
Isn't there always benefits of having friends of the opposite sex? I don't share private details and I shouldn't have to. Trust is a key and silence is a form of trust.
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san_jose_guy
7 years ago
Usually young women are not going to really be your friends. They have agendas of their own. So they might be using you, or placating you, showing pity on you, or just thwarting your intimate advances.

Sorry, but you have to get the girl to give it up, and regularly, so that you come to have a kind of a hold on her. Sorry again, but this is just the way it is. And I am someone who had to learn the hard way, in places like high school and college.

SJG

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DFreshPalace
7 years ago
If you are put into my circle that means I've done my homework and I trust you enough to be there. I clearly state I've been burned or scammed but with the last 3 I've been extremely lucky. We are there for each other in ways that no one will ever be able to understand. My friend of 15 years would tell anyone that especially after all we have been through. My friend of 4 years knows I will be there for her and her family as well as she for me. I can't tell you how much I appreciate my newest friend enough for all the help and support she gives me especially in this time of need with be diagnosed with throat cancer. So it's fine for everyone to believe what they wish but I know my nature and I will always believe in myself and my friendships I make.
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san_jose_guy
7 years ago
All I can say is that in most cases young women will never be your friend. They have their own agenda, they are waiting for the arrival of who they believe will be Mr. Right. If you are in the friend zone, then they do not like you.

College and High School this always happened. The reason it doesn't happen any more is that if I like a girl, I move on her. If she rejects me, okay. If she accepts, then we will be in bed.

Maybe married women, or much older women, but not young unattached women, they will not be your friend.

This is my experience.

SJG

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