Winterblack

I’ve found being “nice” gets me a lot of perks. Free dances, Itc drinks, hang out with staff after close, invited to parties etc. each their own.

Always ask what you can and can’t do? Sexual assault is the same no matter what the girls profession. Strippers are just people (maybe a bit more fucked up) with the same issues as all of us. Would you want someone coming into your job and groping you without consent all the time? I mean as a guy i wouldnt think that so bad, but what if the person revolted your was a gnarly smelly asshat? A big troll of a dude that you couldn’t stand and always grabbed your junk when saying hello and leaned in so you could retch because they smelled like death? I’ve always found being polite and nice got me farther in clubs than being a jerk. The girls talk when in the back and will not hesitate to tell others to stay away from you because you are hands-y or rude. I’ve seen many a friend be a dick because they thought they could act that way and they were not invited to any after closing parties.

I’ve found it’s usually because they want to pay rent (if they have it) quickly and get a better deal than shitty 20$ dances. They can make money faster in less time and thus either leave early or if on a roll get that sweet cash for bills etc. and maybe take a day off.

I’m polite to a fault which is why i was asking for experiences or advice on this particular girl. I hate being an ass and generally have found that looking nice ( dressed way up - hey they dress down for us. The least we can do is be well groomed for them) being nice but firm and having manners gets you a long way. I’ve had plenty of otc and Itc before from various places around the world. But any information is helpful especially when you like someone and don’t want to offen them or upset them by saying the wrong thing. And if one is trying to be a regular for someone i always make sure that I’m not completely viewed as a bank account. I know that’s part of the deal since we are paying for the attention, but it makes thing so much easier when they genuinely like you. Again thank you all for the tips, info, and generally warm welcome to the forums. Anytime you’re in Seattle feel free to pm me and I’ll show you around and introduce you to some dancers that I’m friends with. ( not from lds)

Noticed yes. But some conversations have been very pleasant.