Comments by obaysch

Ask her out. If you're in the mood for an adventure and are willing to take losses, go for it. Just draw a line in the sand with money. No sugar daddy. No paying for fun outside of the club, ever. You'll know soon enough. If she wants a boyfriend and you want a hot chick with an enormous amount of problems who'll give you great sex for a while until you realize what an idiot you were, go for it.

After having been through the usual hustle so many times, I found a quiet, low key pair of dancers at my regular club who used to spend hours with me without expecting dances. One finally admitted that my friendship was more important than anything, that her self-esteem gets so beaten up by men that someone taking the time to show interest in her as a person actually shocked her. It was worth my effort, she was a genuinely charming and funny person who provided great company. And yes, it made the dances a lot more intense. Real friendship? We'll see what happens when one of us stops the dancing......