So after about a year with the same regular I finally told her I was done. I had been debating about dropping her for almost 6-7 months before I finally pulled the trigger. She got upset and told me to find a new club - I go to other clubs, she just doesn't know. But I like the staff and the area at the place I frequent most. Anyway, just to test her to see if she would try to get me banned, I showed up and nothing. The manager knows I'm there to spend. The old regular became entitled to getting stage money, VIPs, and tips all while the dancing in the VIPs stopped and she just wanted to sit and talk about club drama. I forgot that in the end they rely on their regular guy/guys to have a good night, but there's always at least 20-60+ girls on any given night that I could also have a good night with.
My biggest worry was finding someone to actually have a good connection with. Most of the girls don't have conversation skills or they just don't care to make one. One girl told me she only does VIPs and won't bother with lap dances. Automatic no for me. She's bothered me a few times after, asking if I was interested in doing a VIP. I keep saying no. Next girl just reeked of raw onion once I got my lap dance and didn't carry on the conversation, all one sided.
Anyway, I found one girl that I enjoy having a conversations with and the dancing is great. The conversations have varied and it isn't focused on club drama like my old regular. It's strange how a lot of these girls say they don't like drama in their life or club, but it's all they talk about. They need the chaos to feel like their life has excitement, I guess.
Some of my old regular's homegirls have started approaching me but I'm not messing with them. I keep turning them away and the next time they see me they try again. Same result, always "I'm waiting for someone," which is true. I'm pretty sure she sent them, because they knew I was off limits before.
Has your experience been smooth transitioning in finding a new regular when dismissing your old one?
The best thing to come out of this is a clearer mind and that I started doing stuff I enjoyed before getting pulled in deep. Another takeaway is don't hesitate to end a patron-performer relation if you're not longer satisfied.
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I never get bogged down with just 1. Can’t relate. I’m always bouncing between 3-4 favorites plus sampling new talent from time to time. Not in this to get married.
I broke up with my regular after maybe four years? I just couldn't take it anymore it got to the point where something was happening.
Went on a date, didn't work out. She was also moving to the city I was leaving which also complicated things.
But I feel ya, I am extremely picky. Being hot is one thing but it's about that plus the correct vibe.
I don't know how anyone can get by with just one favorite dancer. I would get bored quickly if I only had one. At some clubs, some of the girls don't mind sharing
At my 2 regular clubs they all know I am the eternal free agent, so I have 3-5 dancers with whom I dance all the time and always subject to modification.
I've always played the field. And bounce between clubs. Don't get me wrong, I develop favorites. But if they get clingy I'll stop in on another shift or go to another club.
Why would you reject her "homegirls"?
You should give it a try getting your needs met from multiple sources. Try having conversations with ChatGPT. (The problem with ChatGPT is, there's limits on how much it can remember about you.) The next cheapest option might be cammers. Not my thing, but I'm sure there are some cammers who offer good conversation to differentiate themselves. I'd guess there are ex-dancers who have gone on to straight jobs, but they wouldn't mind conversing by phone for side $. Whatever you do (that's not civie dating), you have to keep in mind that it's just role play. The fact that it took you so many months to stop with your fav indicates you're crossing the line into being a bit delusional.
I'm lucky to be pretty much a loner. If a dancer looks good to me, and is comfortable with 2-way contact, bingo. Pleasant, low-drama conversation is nice but not necessary. If a dancer who looks good to me rolls up, I'll ask her for a dance within 60 seconds. My kind of dancer appreciates the shortcut to the $. This approach also sends the message to dancers who want to do PLs like your fav did, that I'm not a good target.
My limited needs for socializing are met by victimizing all of you with my excessive TUSCL posting.
Don’t overthink it. You don’t owe a dancer anything, and she shouldn’t be able to dictate who you speak with at the club. Moving on from a favorite is a normal evolution since they always fall into a pattern of entitlement after awhile. And the whole reason PLs like strip clubs is to be able to sample a variety of women. If I wanted to be with the same woman forever, I’d stay home with my wife!
@Iknowbetter Me personally I don't feel a strong need for strange. But, even so, many favs have a shelf life. They see getting a regular like setting the hook when fishing. And getting more and more from you for less and less like reeling the fish in. Usually it's the ones who totally dip out on having a budget or any sort of financial goals. Dancing is primarily just a mind game to them.
My ATF lasted 12 years. No one else has made it to 20 crs.
And I enjoy chit chat too. When bouncing between you can chat up a lot more girls if that’s your thing. I don’t tell them about each other. When they ask I change the subject or just say I don’t kiss n tell. If they are on shift the same time they might see me chat with several in a night. Nobody sane would be able to ”lay claim” to me, but strippers be crazy sometimes, who knows what they say in the locker room.
Most times, ditching a regular girl will give you MORE opportunities, not less, as there will be girls who were previously side-lined who will pounce on you when they know you are no longer tied to another girl. Plus..there are some who will pursue you merely to piss off the prior regular.
My ATF lasted 8 years. These days I want to try new things and only go to strip clubs once a month. I rotate around 8 clubs meaning I visit each club every 8 months, not enough for a regular.
It would be 17 years with my ATF if she was still alive. My current SB is almost 9 years. A couple of club favs are at 7 or 8.
When I find someone I like, I tend to stick with them for as long as they'll put up with me.
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