So after about a year with the same regular I finally told her I was done. I had been debating about dropping her for almost 6-7 months before I finally pulled the trigger. She got upset and told me to find a new club - I go to other clubs, she just doesn't know. But I like the staff and the area at the place I frequent most. Anyway, just to test her to see if she would try to get me banned, I showed up and nothing. The manager knows I'm there to spend. The old regular became entitled to getting stage money, VIPs, and tips all while the dancing in the VIPs stopped and she just wanted to sit and talk about club drama. I forgot that in the end they rely on their regular guy/guys to have a good night, but there's always at least 20-60+ girls on any given night that I could also have a good night with.
My biggest worry was finding someone to actually have a good connection with. Most of the girls don't have conversation skills or they just don't care to make one. One girl told me she only does VIPs and won't bother with lap dances. Automatic no for me. She's bothered me a few times after, asking if I was interested in doing a VIP. I keep saying no. Next girl just reeked of raw onion once I got my lap dance and didn't carry on the conversation, all one sided.
Anyway, I found one girl that I enjoy having a conversations with and the dancing is great. The conversations have varied and it isn't focused on club drama like my old regular. It's strange how a lot of these girls say they don't like drama in their life or club, but it's all they talk about. They need the chaos to feel like their life has excitement, I guess.
Some of my old regular's homegirls have started approaching me but I'm not messing with them. I keep turning them away and the next time they see me they try again. Same result, always "I'm waiting for someone," which is true. I'm pretty sure she sent them, because they knew I was off limits before.
Has your experience been smooth transitioning in finding a new regular when dismissing your old one?
The best thing to come out of this is a clearer mind and that I started doing stuff I enjoyed before getting pulled in deep. Another takeaway is don't hesitate to end a patron-performer relation if you're not longer satisfied.
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I never get bogged down with just 1. Can’t relate. I’m always bouncing between 3-4 favorites plus sampling new talent from time to time. Not in this to get married.
I broke up with my regular after maybe four years? I just couldn't take it anymore it got to the point where something was happening.
Went on a date, didn't work out. She was also moving to the city I was leaving which also complicated things.
But I feel ya, I am extremely picky. Being hot is one thing but it's about that plus the correct vibe.
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