You'll hear it often...
"They don't actually like you. They just want your money."
"It's all fantasy. They're just selling fantasy."
A dancer once told me "I love dick, and I love money." Two things can be true at once. Both a love of money and sexual desire can coexist and work hand in hand.
I think the first two things are often said by those who wish to attempt to rain on the parade of the happy and hopeful, pushing the notion that no dancer could ever be attracted to or turned on by a customer.
It depends on the customer. A physically handsome man in a grocery store is still a handsome man in a strip club.
If a dancer likes your looks, that might be a factor concerning increased mileage.
It's sometime in the mid to late 2000s. A friend tells me about a young lady he knows who worked as a dancer at the time.
He says as long as he's known her she expressed an interest in stripping or doing porn.
He also told me she had fucked 70 some guys, maybe it was 74, 75, 76... something like that.
She was all of 22 or 23.
I thought that's a lot of sex, that's a lot of fucking. That' my kind of woman. If her legs spread that easily and often, then there is a greater chance she would spread them for me, and with all of that experience under her belt, or between her legs, I know she would have been one incredible, red hot fuck.
The friend in question was a photography student. He had taken pictures of her and shown them to me and said "You'd like her, she's all leg."
He talked about hooking me up with her, but I fucked that up.
He said her high number of sexual partners was that she saw sex as a competition.
Whatever the motivation, these are the actions of a hyper sexual woman, and in stripping she found an outlet for that, and I think this is true of many to most strippers.
I wonder how many of those 70 some guys were customers?
I'm sitting at the the bar with a dancer I was a regular for.
Another dancer walks by, and the dancer I was a regular for says of me "He has a big dick."
The dancer passing by then says "I bet he does."
Later on I comment to the dancer I was a regular for about her friend and fellow dancer "She seems horny."
"She is" was the reply.
Call it an ability to read the vibe. She had a certain gleam and glint in her eye. If you've seen it before, you can spot it again.
If you walk into a strip club, and you have a working knowledge of psychology and some understanding of human behavior, you can easily tell the dancers who are horny and hot to trot from the ones just going through the motions.
In the strip club environment, fantasy stands shoulder to shoulder with reality, and part of the fun is finding out where one begins and the other ends, as they often flow together.
I never went to a strip club until after the age of fifty because I always thought if I just wanted to meet women there were plenty of places to do so. Many of the females at strip clubs would be focused on making money and would not be in a receptive mood with an average looking guy like me wanting sex for free, either as a one night stand or in a girlfriend relationship. I started to go to strip clubs in my fifties after I decided to end my days of dating women and trying to have sex with them. This was related to the fact that women in my age group started to lose their youthful good looks and just became unappealing to me.