When to ask for OTC

I mentioned to a fav that I'd been looking at profiles on a sugar dating website. That prompted her to suggest we do OTC. But not with extras. Only less restricted 2-way than what was possible at the club she worked at.

Now is too soon.

Give it an hour.

But clearly she wants you.

As a regular for sure I’m wanted by a lot of girls, but I didn’t do anything special chatting briefly with this one so to be fair I think it’s how she would treat any hygienic guy with regular potential.

Should I become her regular first or does that put me in like the friendzone? Maybe just a private room first next time and then ask?

Worst she says is no. Won't be the first time she's been asked.

A stripper willing to meet outside the club is gonna be willing to whether you ask now or 8 visits from now. Either she is willing to sell it or she isn't! So just go ahead and ask.

Sometimes strippers act that way when they are about to quit working in a club. They have nothing to lose because they are leaving anyway. Ask as soon as possible, because you may not get another chance. It's not about spending more money on her; she wants you the way you are now. Act now!

A stripper willing to meet outside the club will probably ask you. But it varies a lot how long it will take, before she feels enough confidence that your are safe/polite enough for OTC. When you have to ask her, it's more likely she'll be the type that won't hide it well during OTC that she'd rather be somewhere else.

I have had a lot of regulars and probably over eighty percent never even hinted at being interested in OTC activities. Since I am not interested in that, the bigger problem for me was how to deal with the ten to twenty percent who did show interest. To some extent, if you turn that down it is a form of rejection of the girl involved so you need to handle it in a certain way.

Becoming a regular could actually have the opposite effect. She could be fine getting her money from you in the club so why would she waste her time going outside with you then.

Seems like one of those high-end sex dolls might be a better option, versus doing OTC with a stripper who'd rather not do OTC.

You can say, "Do you ever work outside the club?" I've asked and no one ever sounded offended by the question.

Should you trust her to not hustle you ($ in exchange for nothing) & not to have a boyfriend there to rob you? I'm more trusting if a girl has been working regularly for months at the same club. But if she has just started working or is traveling from somewhere else, no trust.

At the end of your next session with her, something like "I wish we could do more" might open the door to a discussion.

I agree that most OTC gals will mention it to you, but if you're getting a dance and ask respectfully that's never going to be a problem.

Sometimes, when dancers get huffy at the mention of OTC/extras, it's like McDonalds getting mad that Popeyes exists, since otherwise people who want chicken would be stuck with burgers. But what's more common is that dancers are struggling to keep a relationship from failing. With an SO who is suspicious of how far things go between her and customers. So, yeah, it can hit a raw nerve if it comes across that you assume she's up for anything for the right $. She might have been in a screaming argument with her SO about that topic, just last night. Most of us (who have been in relationships) have more or less been there, and can sympathize.

@artcollege the way to get around that is put the money in an open place so you can take it back if she refuses to provide service. Or pay after the service. I dont think boyfriend robbing is that common.

But the other thing is just being mindful of who youre dealing with. A foreign latina or eastern european chica is far less likely to rob you than an american chica. American chicas, particularly if they have black boyfriends, are the number 1 robbers/scammers. And even when they arent scammers they have all kinds of rules like no kissing no bbbj no DATY no gfe etc. I pretty much avoid American chicas unless they are a certain type