Spoiled ATF’s

Dancers will try to guilt you into spending all your money on them. I would not pay a strippers tip out unless I was getting pussy from her regularly.

Ask her if you are her only customer. When she says "of course not" then you respond with "then why should you be my only dancer?"

For a short period a few years ago, there were four dancers at one club who would regularly fuck or suck me. At one point, one of them came up to me and said "Name1, Name2, Name3, and I have decided that it's OK for you to see all of us."

I just said "cool". Looking back, the one who told me this was the only one of the four who didn't truly understand that anyone who was not OK with it wouldn't have to worry about it again. The other three knew the score.

It's amazing to me, how a so called grown ass man, can be so easily intimidated by a girl in her underwear.

@booty_lover92 what was the cost of the 3 VIP dances?

If this entire situation is just over dances and small dollar amounts that only makes it even more ridiculous… you say you did pay her tip out fee before.. why did you do that? I have never heard of a customer just paying a dancers tip out for her separately as in just handing her some free money to pay it out.

Some dancers feel possessive. Theres customers too, who feel possessive and feel that the dancer shouldnt be dancing with anyone else. Even look at some posts on here, some guys are convinced a dancer only does extras with them and nobody else.

Its not always about using it as a guilt tactic to get more money out of you. Some of them just feel possessive

@twentyfive I’m not intimidated at all. I guess I was nieve thinking that this girl was different than any of the emotional women that I deal with in everyday life.

@Chicano, VIP was $35 per song. Her tip out is $40 and like a sucker I paid it before just being generous one night when she asked me.

@booty, I don’t see where he got “intimidated” from either.

I'm not too proud to ask: What's "pay her tip out" mean? I can't believe there's a way for dancers to extract money from customers that I haven't already fallen prey to

dancers are required to tip the bartender, DJ, security, other staff.

@booty_lover92 Intimidated offended you, but a stripper threatens to cut you off, and your impulse is to try to understand her. SMH

@icey buts cute doesn’t make any sense my friend… you need to cut that ponytail it keeps getting in the way of your typing. Maybe even driving and other activities

Most strippers can be very territorial over their customers. She was firing off a warning shot to that other dancer as much as the OP as well.

She text me this morning apologizing of course lol

Dude, you just gotta start thinking with your big head. The one big rule is mutual consent. Whatever you both agree to. I see two clear possibilities:

1. She's delusionally entitled.
   
2. She's gotten the impression you are deluding yourself that her "you' re special to me" role play is real, and she thinks she can leverage that.
   From your profile, I get the impression you live somewhere that is not the best for PLs. In those areas, strippers have a stronger negotiating position. Apply Adulting 101 and budget. Set a monthly limit for your commercial sex spend. If you go over your limit, make it up by spending less in the next month, If your budget allows you to tip over the list price of dances, good chance those tips would get you at least as much fun, with less aggravation, with other strippers. If you go see your favs more often, at times when the club is slow, they may accept that in place of tipping.

Another thing: strippers have plenty of chances to alkie out a work without you buying them overpriced drinks. That's part of the reason I make up my mind quick if I want a dance, and ask them to take me to the couch room. Before they even have time to try to bum a drink.

@ibbaicni Yea lately I could care less about the small talk that they want. And ask right away if we can get dances.

A lot of the response to something like this depends on how hot the girl is and how much you care about variety. I never had a regular expect me to do lap dances only with her in 15 years of strip club visits so my guess is it is unusual. Unless the girl is way above average in looks I would let her know I will still do lap dances with others.

Glad she apologized. Takes a lot of gall to hit you up for cash (even if it’s just $40) while you’re engaged in conversation with another dancer ( or at all) unless it’s something you promised her beforehand

I had an unspoken agreement with my ATF(TUSCL gridget) that when we were both in the club at the same time, we were exclusive to each other.

I remember once her ex boy friend came into the club while I was there and in the men's room, he tried to get her to dump me. She refused. Later the waitress came over and said that her ex wanted to buy her a drink. Gridget asked what was the most expensive item on the menu and ordered it. When she left the club, the drink was still sitting there untouched.

“she text me saying that if I chose to get dances with this new girl that she was never going to dance for me again“

Say “bitch you give dances to 300 other dudes besides me each day you come in to work a shift. Lol. I can see other people too!”

That’s a stupid hoe. You find a lot of them in this world. But there’s a lot of good ones too. It sucks when the bad ones personality wise are hot lol.

“ She text me this morning apologizing of course lol” 😂

Ya it sucks because she has a nice pair of natural E cups that keep me coming back to see her. But this may be the end of our business relationship lol.

Simpin’ ain’t easy!

I don't think you need to totally give up on her. She hasn't done anything ROBby. Don't let her wind you up, no matter how wound up she gets. Calmly tell her, repeatedly if you have to, you are not looking for committed relationships in a strip club. That you have a budget, and you prefer to spend it on dances and not drinks. (Although that doesn't work if you spend a lot on drinks for yourself.) Don't get into the game where the one who walks away is the winner. In general, avoid contests where the grand prize is nothing.

. “ At the same time, I think it’s important for both sides to communicate expectations clearly to avoid misunderstandings like this. “ ^ booty_lover92, Paid FUN is one thing but having expectations/exclusivity from a stripper or vice-versa is being unrealistic. I learnt this fact a while back, that at the end of the day it’s just your money that does all the talking at strip clubs ( both locally and in Tijuana ).Just enjoy your time having FUN and avoid overthinking and any unnecessary drama. Next time around go back to the same dancer like nothing happened and show her the money and you’ll see an instant change in her attitude - she’ll forget any/all prior hard feelings and might even give you more respect from here onwards 👍🏻

^^It’s all about the money to them

@icey not at all. Giving extra tips or free money here and there, doesnt mean she can just expect that all the time.

Its best to approach it like an open relationship sort of thing or friends with benefits. You both meet periodically, but can still go about your lives and see other people whenever you want.

Theres probably lots of customers nowadays too, who dont want their dancer dancing with others or doing extras with others etc

✅ ' I would only tip out if she did outstanding dances/club bonuses with good amount of perks & continued, OTC Etc....... If she was expecting another tip out just for a smaller pre-relationship, no. If she really liked you, she would be like "he'll give me my bonus next time coz I know he really likes me", so the "like security" wasn't there! If there was regular texting with her, she should have felt relaxed. But behind closed doors, girls can feel took advantage of & jump to irrational judgement if you were seeing the other girl & she thought you should have waited for her or texted for her availability first, even if you weren't actually leaving her. $Strippers don't like to split the wallet with other dancers, especially if they be regular at the $SC or they be more need of money than other dancers. Just thoughts, 2 Sides to every story!

👍 ' @ booty_lover92, glad she texted & apologized!

The "relationship" is transactional. You aren't friends, so keep it that way. Friends do things for each other that have zero benefit to themselves. That (probably) isn't the case here. Don't pay her tip out without getting something (of equal or excess value) in return.

She tells you, "if you get a dance from her, I won't dance for you ever again"? You tell her "if you dance for anyone else, I won't get a dance from you ever again" and watch how quick it turns into "are you gonna pay all my bills?" She's not your friend. She cares only for herself. Stop getting taken advantage of.

She probably cares for customers as much as people typically care about others that they don't have personal relationships with.