If you were dating or married to a stripper, would you want to know what she did at work or not know? I feel if I know I can see how I am willing to go or stay but if I didn’t know I would feel like a cuckold. How much of what she told you would bother you and where is your cut off for tolerance? Is it considered an open relationship or her cheating? Your thoughts
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last commentThe boyfriend or husband is a cuck, no matter what they believe. No real man would be in a situation such as the one described.
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I can’t remember talking to two strippers about this.
The first one her relationships did not last long because guys wanted her to stop dancing… or at least stop her dancing.
Second one was married, but had a very clear and open agreement with her husband. He didn’t want to know details. I guess at one time he happened to reach of her text messages which were pretty graphic, and I got him angry. Other than that, everything was pretty good. Part of their agreement was, for her “freedom” she would occasionally bring home coworkers. Seems to work for them. I’ve been married now for over a decade.
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I think in this situation one would have to compartmentalize everything going on with her job. You mention feeling like a cuckhold, but you literally are one in that situation, the only question is how you react to it.
Personally, I would think hearing about the gory details would be a nightmare of aggravation. If it were me, I would completely compartmentalize those thoughts and not dwell on them. I'd ask her specifically not to share with me.
I would also never be in such a relationship without it being open on both sides.
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@themightyquinn im confused, are you saying theyve been married over a decade? Or you married the stripper and are married over a decade
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Theres different definitions of cuckold. Some guys consider getting cheated on to be getting cucked. Outside of sex workers it is a guy who enjoys his wife banging other guys, for free. A lot of times the wife is allowed to bang whoever she wants and the cuckold isnt allowed to bang anyone else. Some of the cuckolds are bi and like threesomes with their wife and another guy.
Since shes getting paid for the encounter its not the same as her cheating without payment. Thats one way boyfriend/husband pimpls compartmentalize those things.
Also some would argue the breadwinner has a right to have multiple partners, whether man or woman. A lot of these scenarios the boyfriend doesnt work or maybe works at a sneaker store or deals a bit of drugs while his girl is paying most of the bills. So its not just about her banging other guys
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@chunkychicano the dancer and her husband have been married over a decade.
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Years ago I dated a former stripper. We also were in the lifestyle, so I got to see her do all sorts of stuff with other men and women on many occasions, as she did me, and when we played together. We had agreed upon rules to our engagements, and so long as we played within those rules everything was cool. I also knew she was coming home with me at the end of the night.
She decided she wanted to go back to dancing part time while we were together and I had no problem with that. She was up front about what she was willing to do and what she was not willing to do, and I trusted her, so it was never a problem. Besides, I knew it was me she was coming home to.
Our relationship eventually ended on good terms and with some regrets, but the sex and the stripping was not the issue.
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Once theyre off work dancers dont talk about their tricks. They focus on club gossip and drama.
Prostitutes dont consider trapping to be "sex". Theyre selling their time. Every little upsell is like an added oz of dignity and control in their hustle. They look down on tricks. Like she gets $500 and all he got was sticking his dick up her ass. Thats how they think.
Some will talk about the neck and back pain. If she's doing it for you sge sees it as an act of love. Especially when she sees shes elevating her life circumstances.
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^They must really look down on a cheap ass trick like you.
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@Icey is our resident expert on all things trick. Coz she's a pro at it!
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I would never be married to a stripper. A main reason I go to strip clubs is I do not want to be married and a strip club allows me to spend the time I want with females. One thing I think that would be important for a stripper husband is to not be the jealous type. Once, when I was entering a strip club, I saw a stripper getting out of a car to enter the club. I then heard her boyfriend or husband in the car yell at me to stop staring at her. What does he think customers do all night? She got an angry look on her face and told him to stop it. The other strippers heard about it and a couple of them apologized to me for what happened.
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One fave told me her SO wanted to know all her shenanigans when she got home from the club. Turn on for him, ramped up their sex life. Or so she said.
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A dancer that I knew at Follies told me that she was pregnant. Without thinking I opened my mouth and asked if she knew who the father was. She replied her husband. I didn't know she was married. I wonder what her husband was wondering?
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Dating a stripper isnt really that hard. You quickly see the difference between who she is and her work persona. The vast majority of dancers aren't hookers.
Dating a hooker only works if you're not a square and you help with her hustle
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@icey that ignores the mental gymnastics of many of those dancers who for instance… get drunk and bang certain customers… or the ones who just sell dances and dont technically charge anything for extras.. or the ones who only do extras with certain customers because they like them not because they’re paying
Maybe on paper, most dancers aren’t hookers. Maybe close to 100% of them arent hookers if they just sell dances. But what % of dancers engage in any sort of sexual activity with guys at the club? No matter what its going to be a higher % than the dancers that are hookers. You can use a bunch of rationalizations and technicalities to argue someone is or isnt a hooker.
And dating a hooker or even a dancer all comes down to if youre willing to tolerate what she does with other guys in exchange for her bringing home more money, and you getting some perks out of it
You dont really need to help with her hustle
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"Dating a stripper isnt really that hard."
^^^ @Icey LMFAO especially when she's a junkie and you've got her coke. It's so easy, any trick can do it! 🤭🤡🤣
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@uniquename when you say “ We had agreed upon rules to our engagements, and so long as we played within those rules everything was cool. I also knew she was coming home with me at the end of the night.”. Do you mean things like no going bare? No kissing or cuddling?
Those are the exact types of dancers or escorts myself and many others avoid… because they are strangely nitpicky about certain things.. like maybe theyll give you a bbbj but wont kiss, even on the lips Or in a lot of cases they cant even cum with clients or get too aroused so they wont allow daty or fingering or toys or nipple touching
It isnt just people in the swinger lifestyle who have those sorts of rules. Its also boyfriend pimps.
Theres ways to test for those rules. Usually youll find out if you try to treat the meeting like a regular interaction. Usually no kissing… no cuddling.. no daty. Means they are pimped or “in the lifestyle”
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If you need someone to work on your car, find an honest and competent mechanic. Don't try to find a mechanic who doesn't use their hands, and holds all the tools in their teeth. Likewise, if your relationship works for you, it's dumb to be dissatisfied based on what anyone else thinks of it, or tells you is wrong, abnormal, cucky, etc. You're taking something hard, and pointlessly making it harder. Whereas it's never hard to find "friends" who want to flex by talking down whatever you think is good in your life. Whenever a sex worker has seemed to genuinely get somewhat into me, it always seemed to be about things at home disappointing her. The problem would still be there, even if she wasn't a sex worker.
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