Not depressed, but I agree the strip club is the pinnacle for a man in terms of enjoyment of life. Hot girls, alcohol, good music, good food, hot girls giving LDKs and extras. It can’t be beat. (This is in reference to clubs in Dallas and maybe Houston: Baby Dolls, The Lodge, The Men’s Club Dallas, Spearmint Rhino Dallas, St James Houston, Treasures Houston, The Men’s Club Houston!)
I'm going to agree with @Puddy Tat on this. Although I don't have many things that top the enjoyment of the club when I go.....if it's the ONLY place you feel happy, you may want to take a hard look at that. For perspective, I have to take a hard look at myself every once in awhile with my drinking and cannabis consumption.
I mean, if I/you have the time and means to blow anywhere from $200 - $1000 a night into perpetuity without messing up other parts of my/your life, then I say have a go like hotblondechicks says.
Yeah if it's the only place you feel happy that's definitely a problem. I like a good workout, a hike, some beers with the buds, maybe smoke a joint or two...
But what I will say not much feels as exciting as a good night at the SC. Sometimes a regular bar is like... this is it? Where's the action? But a great night at the club and you feel like you're fucking king for a night.
I've had depression my whole life and just came out of a long-term relationship last fall. I just started going to strip clubs again in the last month or so. I think there is a place for strip clubs if you're feeling down. Talking to beautiful women and getting some dances can cheer you up.
I do think depressed guys have to be extra careful, though. Being depressed in a strip club means you are more likely to drink, which also means you're more likely to spend a lot of money.
It is also much easier to get attached to the girls and possibly even develop feelings for them, which is almost always a bad thing.
Case in point: I was really down this week and went to the local club 4 times and spent a lot of money, mostly on one girl. As the week progressed, I started (with the help of alcohol) to catch feelings for her. I've had a long talk with myself over the weekend and am taking a break for a bit.
In my experience, depression makes you chase dopamine hits by taking short-cuts (like getting lapdances at the club). As we all know, physical touch from a woman is intoxicating.
I am a huge proponent of running (and exercise in general) for depression. It literally is an anti-dote to feeling bad. If you feel like you're at the club too much, you might want to turn over a new leaf and try something new--anything from getting a pet to hiking to learning to play piano to learning a new language. All these things can bring you closer to others and might help you feel better.
Sorry, that's rough. It's crucial to keeping my mood up that I can look forward to seeing my fav. I assume, if I live long enough, my interest in sex will drop off. Hopefully at that point, the other things I enjoy will be satisfaction enough.
I am the opposite. There isn't enough time in a day to permit me to list all of the things that make me happy. Strip clubbing, which I fucking love, isn't even in the top 5. I like bars, I like strangers, so going out for drinks in areas where I know no one is what I have done my whole life. The naked women just add to it, but I can sit and drink beer, watch the ballgame and just glance at naked women for 3 hours and be incredibly happy. At the end of the day, I get more joy out of one day of skiing than any 10 strip club experiences, not matter how fucking awesome.
P.S. Just made an omelet with fresh eggs from the farm stand down the street, with peppers and onions picked yesterday. Fucking beyond happy.
I highly recommend finding a hobby or activity to occupy your free time.
I agree with what others have said, the older I get, there’s very few things I get “excited” about anymore, as a lot of things just don’t do the trick. One of the things that I do get excited about that is at little cost to me is playing basketball. I highly recommend some sort of group activity similar to that if you’re feeling down and need some entertainment. I also really enjoy swimming at a local indoor year-round pool.
My activities may hold no interest to others but my point is doing something with other people often helps with depression. The guys I play basketball with are the biggest dorks ever. We hold nothing in common other than basketball, yet I love them all, look forward to playing so much that I schedule my whole work travel plans around the night we play basketball. We often go have a beer afterwards and that’s just as fun.
I’m pretty happy most of the time, traveling with my family is a pleasure I enjoy and now that I have free time and the means to do so, it has become one of my favorite things to do.
Agree with ski, enjoy meeting people, going to bars, having a beer with friends watching sports, an afternoon at the beach, a round of golf, all are great pastimes, I get a lot of pleasure from reading a good book, so many great books to read, life is great for me, hope most of you can say the same.
Life is filled with joy. Come on people. After a summer of golf, swimming in the pool and farm stands, we now have Labor Day, but it's not the end, it's the beginning. A week from Friday, my monthly dealer's choice game kicks off year 27; 2 weeks from tomorrow, poker league kicks off year 25. I can expect my seasons ski pass in the mail in 3 weeks. We have the holidays, and all the amazing family events and golf season goes until it snows down the Cape because I now have family down there belonging to an amazing country club. Oh yeah, next week is fantasy baseball playoffs, fantasy football drafts this weekend (4 Leagues) and trips to Florida (October) and Vegas (September). Saturday night hold-em tournaments the next 13 weeks and our 3 table Black Friday Poker tournament round it out.
There are times when a strip club visit used to make me depressed. This would happen if I asked multiple strippers on stage for lapdances and none of them came to my table or if someone did agree to spend time with me but turned out to be unfriendly acting, did air dances, had overly strict rules etc. As I became a more experienced strip club goer, I accepted some nights would be bad. It is not much different than anything else in life. Sometimes things turn out worse than expected and other times better. There are some people and hobbies I have cut out of my life because they led to consistently unpleasant or depressing experiences.
@Chunkychicano, I found visiting Asian massage parlors here in Indianapolis led to consistently bad experiences. The women were often quite old and unattractive, the massages and happy endings were of poor quality, and the prices were too high. I dropped it as a hobby while increasing my visits to strip clubs. As far as strip clubs go, I found socializing with strippers outside the club, such as going to dinner in restaurants with them, to be not particularly enjoyable so I stopped doing that and focused on just buying lap dances in the strip club from them.
@docsavage ok i see that makes sense. Why did you not like the dinner with strippers were they too demanding? Also were there any non sex work related hobbies that you found too unpleasant
Clubs used to be fun. Now a days they just feel depressing. The vibes are completely different. When money isnt what it used to be there's a lot of tension and anxiety
@Icey maybe you should take a long break from clubs. I remember four years ago (or seven 🤣) you created a thread about your faux suicide attempt and passed out drunk at a club. All over a coke junkie whore that you were an RIL with. That's so sad!
@icey when you say “money isnt what it used to be theres a lot of tension anxiety”… thats a a very unusual comment for a strip club goer to make, unless theyre referring to their own money not being what it used to be
So are you saying your money isnt what it used to be? Or your depressed because the girls arent bringing in the money they used to, so by extension your getting less money from your pimping hustle? Lol…
@Icey are you sure you're not just using post covid as an excuse or defense mechanism?
You literally staged a faux suicide at a club over a ratchet coke junkie stripper whore that dumped you for a loser - making you an even bigger one. She was the love of your life - by your own words! You bought her a wedding ring and planned to propose to her on her birthday for crying out loud. You posted the entire debacle and cried about it for months on TUSCL back in 2021. I know many of us, including you, remember all of it.
C'mon, just admit it. Strip clubs and strippers will never be the same again for you based on that episode alone. It's gotta take a toll on someone that was so blindly in love. You must know deep down that post covid has nothing to do with your sadness in the club. Be honest with yourself for once!
Pereceptions change with age and time. Cleaning out my golf drawer last night I found years' worth of tee time records. Wow, I used to be into golf. Probably played 25 rounds this year, or as my wife put it, 105 less than in 2000. This is my first year not playing a single round of golf on the 3 summer 3 day weekends. I used to average 7-9 times. This year we're closing the pool and cleaning the garage. Golf just doesn't do it for me any longer.
@chunkychicano, I found eating in restaurants with strippers unenjoyable for two reasons. First, they were largely there just to make a strip club regular happy. I was old and there was a big 30 year age gap between them and me. Second, I did not find their conversation interesting. My main interest in them is sexual. If I want to talk and socialize, I have plenty of people I can do that with already. I want to see the strippers in a location I can do something sex related.
As for another hobby I dropped because I did not enjoy it, I quit playing in a rock band. I always felt nervous up on stage having people stare at me. I did not like the party lifestyle of drug or alcohol abuse so many musicians fall into. I am an introvert who likes more solitary hobbies like hiking in the woods, reading, watching movies, learning about computers or just playing music on my own with no audience.
Lol @icey so covid they were getting 3k a night but you didnt even have a bank account or credit score- so you couldn’t invest all that extra money into real estate. Instead youve had to continue renting all this time. That serves you right imo. Youve got to pay some sort of price for those illegal monies
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last commentNot depressed, but I agree the strip club is the pinnacle for a man in terms of enjoyment of life. Hot girls, alcohol, good music, good food, hot girls giving LDKs and extras. It can’t be beat. (This is in reference to clubs in Dallas and maybe Houston: Baby Dolls, The Lodge, The Men’s Club Dallas, Spearmint Rhino Dallas, St James Houston, Treasures Houston, The Men’s Club Houston!)
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My answer assumes you are being somewhat serious.
I'm going to agree with @Puddy Tat on this. Although I don't have many things that top the enjoyment of the club when I go.....if it's the ONLY place you feel happy, you may want to take a hard look at that. For perspective, I have to take a hard look at myself every once in awhile with my drinking and cannabis consumption.
I mean, if I/you have the time and means to blow anywhere from $200 - $1000 a night into perpetuity without messing up other parts of my/your life, then I say have a go like hotblondechicks says.
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There’s a bunch of stuff you can blow money on. Cars, high end perfumes, high end alcohol… watches
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Yeah if it's the only place you feel happy that's definitely a problem. I like a good workout, a hike, some beers with the buds, maybe smoke a joint or two...
But what I will say not much feels as exciting as a good night at the SC. Sometimes a regular bar is like... this is it? Where's the action? But a great night at the club and you feel like you're fucking king for a night.
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I've had depression my whole life and just came out of a long-term relationship last fall. I just started going to strip clubs again in the last month or so. I think there is a place for strip clubs if you're feeling down. Talking to beautiful women and getting some dances can cheer you up.
I do think depressed guys have to be extra careful, though. Being depressed in a strip club means you are more likely to drink, which also means you're more likely to spend a lot of money.
It is also much easier to get attached to the girls and possibly even develop feelings for them, which is almost always a bad thing.
Case in point: I was really down this week and went to the local club 4 times and spent a lot of money, mostly on one girl. As the week progressed, I started (with the help of alcohol) to catch feelings for her. I've had a long talk with myself over the weekend and am taking a break for a bit.
In my experience, depression makes you chase dopamine hits by taking short-cuts (like getting lapdances at the club). As we all know, physical touch from a woman is intoxicating.
I am a huge proponent of running (and exercise in general) for depression. It literally is an anti-dote to feeling bad. If you feel like you're at the club too much, you might want to turn over a new leaf and try something new--anything from getting a pet to hiking to learning to play piano to learning a new language. All these things can bring you closer to others and might help you feel better.
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Sorry, that's rough. It's crucial to keeping my mood up that I can look forward to seeing my fav. I assume, if I live long enough, my interest in sex will drop off. Hopefully at that point, the other things I enjoy will be satisfaction enough.
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For me it's more a happy place. Women would call it self care. It's a place for relax and just exist and admire beautiful women naked.
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So the consensus seems to be strip clubs are only a marginaly better experience than a workout? I must never have learned the proper way to exercise.
I am with the OP. A decent night at a strip club is one of the very few things that makes me happy.
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an 18-year-old beauty...
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I am the opposite. There isn't enough time in a day to permit me to list all of the things that make me happy. Strip clubbing, which I fucking love, isn't even in the top 5. I like bars, I like strangers, so going out for drinks in areas where I know no one is what I have done my whole life. The naked women just add to it, but I can sit and drink beer, watch the ballgame and just glance at naked women for 3 hours and be incredibly happy. At the end of the day, I get more joy out of one day of skiing than any 10 strip club experiences, not matter how fucking awesome.
P.S. Just made an omelet with fresh eggs from the farm stand down the street, with peppers and onions picked yesterday. Fucking beyond happy.
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I highly recommend finding a hobby or activity to occupy your free time.
I agree with what others have said, the older I get, there’s very few things I get “excited” about anymore, as a lot of things just don’t do the trick. One of the things that I do get excited about that is at little cost to me is playing basketball. I highly recommend some sort of group activity similar to that if you’re feeling down and need some entertainment. I also really enjoy swimming at a local indoor year-round pool.
My activities may hold no interest to others but my point is doing something with other people often helps with depression. The guys I play basketball with are the biggest dorks ever. We hold nothing in common other than basketball, yet I love them all, look forward to playing so much that I schedule my whole work travel plans around the night we play basketball. We often go have a beer afterwards and that’s just as fun.
Find your niche, it’s out there.
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I’m pretty happy most of the time, traveling with my family is a pleasure I enjoy and now that I have free time and the means to do so, it has become one of my favorite things to do.
Agree with ski, enjoy meeting people, going to bars, having a beer with friends watching sports, an afternoon at the beach, a round of golf, all are great pastimes, I get a lot of pleasure from reading a good book, so many great books to read, life is great for me, hope most of you can say the same.
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Life is filled with joy. Come on people. After a summer of golf, swimming in the pool and farm stands, we now have Labor Day, but it's not the end, it's the beginning. A week from Friday, my monthly dealer's choice game kicks off year 27; 2 weeks from tomorrow, poker league kicks off year 25. I can expect my seasons ski pass in the mail in 3 weeks. We have the holidays, and all the amazing family events and golf season goes until it snows down the Cape because I now have family down there belonging to an amazing country club. Oh yeah, next week is fantasy baseball playoffs, fantasy football drafts this weekend (4 Leagues) and trips to Florida (October) and Vegas (September). Saturday night hold-em tournaments the next 13 weeks and our 3 table Black Friday Poker tournament round it out.
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There are times when a strip club visit used to make me depressed. This would happen if I asked multiple strippers on stage for lapdances and none of them came to my table or if someone did agree to spend time with me but turned out to be unfriendly acting, did air dances, had overly strict rules etc. As I became a more experienced strip club goer, I accepted some nights would be bad. It is not much different than anything else in life. Sometimes things turn out worse than expected and other times better. There are some people and hobbies I have cut out of my life because they led to consistently unpleasant or depressing experiences.
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@docsavage which hobbies did you find lead to consistently unpleasant experiences??!
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Really? That sounds like clinical depression and OP should seek therapy or medical intervention.
A strip club should be fun, exciting, titilating, even thrilling; but it should not be the only thing that makes you happy.
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@Chunkychicano, I found visiting Asian massage parlors here in Indianapolis led to consistently bad experiences. The women were often quite old and unattractive, the massages and happy endings were of poor quality, and the prices were too high. I dropped it as a hobby while increasing my visits to strip clubs. As far as strip clubs go, I found socializing with strippers outside the club, such as going to dinner in restaurants with them, to be not particularly enjoyable so I stopped doing that and focused on just buying lap dances in the strip club from them.
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@docsavage ok i see that makes sense. Why did you not like the dinner with strippers were they too demanding? Also were there any non sex work related hobbies that you found too unpleasant
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Clubs used to be fun. Now a days they just feel depressing. The vibes are completely different. When money isnt what it used to be there's a lot of tension and anxiety
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@Icey maybe you should take a long break from clubs. I remember four years ago (or seven 🤣) you created a thread about your faux suicide attempt and passed out drunk at a club. All over a coke junkie whore that you were an RIL with. That's so sad!
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@icey when you say “money isnt what it used to be theres a lot of tension anxiety”… thats a a very unusual comment for a strip club goer to make, unless theyre referring to their own money not being what it used to be
So are you saying your money isnt what it used to be? Or your depressed because the girls arent bringing in the money they used to, so by extension your getting less money from your pimping hustle? Lol…
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^^ Clubs are the same as they have always been, but your perception changed, old man.
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^^^ the realization that you couldn't keep a desperate coke junkie whore and she left you for a broke AF weed dealer will change your perspective 🤭🤡🤣
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Clubs are completely different since covid.
Covid was a golden age. Illegally opened clubs were gold mines. Girls bringing in 3k a night working parties
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@Icey are you sure you're not just using post covid as an excuse or defense mechanism?
You literally staged a faux suicide at a club over a ratchet coke junkie stripper whore that dumped you for a loser - making you an even bigger one. She was the love of your life - by your own words! You bought her a wedding ring and planned to propose to her on her birthday for crying out loud. You posted the entire debacle and cried about it for months on TUSCL back in 2021. I know many of us, including you, remember all of it.
C'mon, just admit it. Strip clubs and strippers will never be the same again for you based on that episode alone. It's gotta take a toll on someone that was so blindly in love. You must know deep down that post covid has nothing to do with your sadness in the club. Be honest with yourself for once!
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Pereceptions change with age and time. Cleaning out my golf drawer last night I found years' worth of tee time records. Wow, I used to be into golf. Probably played 25 rounds this year, or as my wife put it, 105 less than in 2000. This is my first year not playing a single round of golf on the 3 summer 3 day weekends. I used to average 7-9 times. This year we're closing the pool and cleaning the garage. Golf just doesn't do it for me any longer.
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@chunkychicano, I found eating in restaurants with strippers unenjoyable for two reasons. First, they were largely there just to make a strip club regular happy. I was old and there was a big 30 year age gap between them and me. Second, I did not find their conversation interesting. My main interest in them is sexual. If I want to talk and socialize, I have plenty of people I can do that with already. I want to see the strippers in a location I can do something sex related.
As for another hobby I dropped because I did not enjoy it, I quit playing in a rock band. I always felt nervous up on stage having people stare at me. I did not like the party lifestyle of drug or alcohol abuse so many musicians fall into. I am an introvert who likes more solitary hobbies like hiking in the woods, reading, watching movies, learning about computers or just playing music on my own with no audience.
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Lol @icey so covid they were getting 3k a night but you didnt even have a bank account or credit score- so you couldn’t invest all that extra money into real estate. Instead youve had to continue renting all this time. That serves you right imo. Youve got to pay some sort of price for those illegal monies
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