“Can You Buy Me a Drink”

If I'm not interested in a dancer for any reason, I'll say no to whatever.

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Same here

I start with body language that shows disinterest. If that doesn't work, I directly tell her I'm not interested in company. Many girls are poor conversationalists, so it gets awkward when they sit down and are not able to engage past the "what's your name / what do you do for work / come here often?" banter.

I like some physical interaction with the girls I like. maybe then I'll buy them a drink if it's reasonably priced. conversation is second.

Never fails to amaze me when a grown ass man I’d so easily intimidated by a little girl in her underwear.

I just tell them my thoughts.....No, Thank You !!!

I just say that I'm waiting for another dancer. She'll leave immediately because clubs don't allow a dancer to poach another dancer's customer.

I'll be joking a lot with strippers I'm not interested in, just having chat and when I decline on dances they'll ask if they can get drink. It's a no. It's not always the most comfortable thing to switch gears on them but we have to accept the fact that not every interaction has a disney movie ending, sometimes it's not going to end well, just be ok with that.

Just say sorry you don't do the drink hustle. If it gets into a back forth I just say aight whatever and stop talking. If it keeps going I get up and move somewhere else. Be tenacious with money, your not a rich dude bootylover. I'm a very us against the world when it comes to my money, I'm like William Wallace with that shit. My cheapness trumps me being friendly. I'm always thinking about that next OTC that's going to cost like 400 bucks, can't be wasting it on some faggy mixed drink that let's be honest she's just going to says thanks and get up with it and go to the next customer. I don't make enough money for any of that bullshit.

I get not buying drinks for dancers you're not interested it. But engaging by joking and chatting and then not giving them anything is a douche move. I'm not suggesting buying drinks for girls you don't like and certainly not shit like giving out rejection tips, but if you know you're not interested in a dance at least have the courtesy not to waste the girls time.

And shit like "I'm waiting for another dancer" isn't the best either. What happens when she asks who, or offers to let the girl you're waiting on know you're there?

"No thank you" and you can tack on phrases like "I'm not interested" "thanks for stopping by" "have a good night" to drive the point home if needed.

If a dancer asks for a drink or a tip, and you don't wanna, just say, "Not today, Sweetie."

If I’m getting a dance I usually buy the drink. If not, then no. I don’t see the point of talking to a dancer who I’m not getting a dance from. Maybe 1 in 100 times they’ve convinced me to buy a dance, but generally not.

I say yes I can, but I choose not to. I also dislike the shot girl coming over and asking if I want to buy a shot. When I say no thank you, she then ask if I want to buy her one! This usual occurs while I'm sitting at the bar!

My best strategy in this situation is to say "No."

On a couple of occasions I can remember, while in a new to me club, I have purchased a couple of rounds for a friendly dancer who I made clear wasn't my type for dances just to shoot the shit and get intel on the club. Each time it was money well spent. The vast majority of the time I just say No Thanks.

Yeah best bet is to say no thanks, if they keep bothering after that or being obnoxious even after you made it clear I'd just ignore and not respond. Don't say anything and she should get the hint

and when I do buy a girl a drink at least at Hong Kong the girl will drink her drink with you usually. only a few times has she sucked it down quickly or gotten up and left without finishing it.

I've been to some USA clubs where the girl goes to the dressing room and it gets served there or doesn't even touch the drink at all. it makes no sense to me at all in that case.

Yeah, I hate the “buy me a drink” hustle in general. I even had a lady I met at the casino a few days ago try and pull that on me. So many simps just do it and this becomes acceptable behavior in the minds of women.

I tell her that all the money I had was spent on the cover charge and the bottle of water I'm drinking.

Or, babe, you can grind on me a bit longer, and use the money you earn to buy yourself a drink.

Unless there is some benefit to me....not gonna lie...sometimes there is a benefit...find another guy to give into your ploy.

Not for nothing, but if its a girl you enjoy sitting with, buying a drink or a even moreso a meal can often be the highest value play in the club.

If you're absolutely not interested, just nope them hard. They will take the hint.

The trickier one is if you think they are hot and want to see if they are friendly but not drop $20 for a drink upfront. But usually the line is "I like to spend my money on tips and dances".

better yet. I like to spend my money on dances!

I rarely drink at the club. Make it easier to say I don't like to spend money on drinks.

I get not buying drinks for dancers you're not interested it. But engaging by joking and chatting and then not giving them anything is a douche move.

Eh that's far too absolute a rule, it depends on the duration. If a dancer starts up a convo with you and you chat and joke for a couple minutes, there's no obligation to give them anything. It's called being friendly, and maybe an opportunity to get to know a dancer a bit who you didn't know, who you might spend more time with in the future. On the dancer's side, it's a small investment of time for a potential future customer. Furthermore this is a really US-centric perspective. In clubs in other countries, it's often normal procedure for the guy to chat up a few girls (again, for a few minutes, without tipping) to narrow down his final choice.

I hardly ever drank at the clubs buy I would totally shame guys buying themselves a drink and not the dancer they are with when I know she likes drinking. 🤣 I like calling men out on their bs 24/7 in every setting and situation. Men are not used to it for some reason.

Yeah, you're not wrong blahblah. I try to be a gentleman at clubs, and a gentleman would always offer a lady a drink if he's enjoying her company. Especially if he's drinking himself.

And as dolfan mentions, a meal or a drink can be a pretty high value play. If you're into her, a $10 or $15 drink is not only polite but it's likely going to be a worth it for fun flirty chit chat. Unless, as Jascoi mentions, she just vanishes without finishing her drink, that's happened to me before too and I think it's quite rude on the dancers part.

The art of rejecting a dancer that you're not interested in is what's important, that way you don't feel like you're wasting money on a drink.

When I was a less experienced monger, I'd get into all kinds of situations with dancers I had no interest in. Drinks, rejection tips, even sometimes dances I wasn't into just because I didn't want to feel like a jerk for saying "no". Now I try to look at it like I'm doing them a favor by turning them away early - I'm avoiding wasting their time and giving them an opportunity to work the rest of the room. So if she asks for me to buy her a drink and I'm not interested in her, I'll be direct and say "No, thank you." No need to elaborate or explain.

The tough situation is when a dancer is really pushy, asks for your time, a drink, or a dance and when you say "no" is like "why not?" I struggle with that. The real reason is always "you're not my type", but that lands weird if it's a hot stripper given I'm an average PL.

Next time this happens to me I'm going to make up some kind of astrological reason. Like, "Because sagittarius is ascendant and venus is waning," and then bow my head solemnly. 😔