I have been seeing my long time CF OTC for the last 5+ years on the average of every 2 weeks, and some times more often, in other words 25 to 30 times a year. P4P is in the neighborhood of $200 per visit and consists of FS each and every time. Lasts anywhere from 6 to 8 hours each visit and sometimes overnight with a another FS in the morning. Besides the sexual romps we go to eat, costs varying from $10 to $50 depending on the place to eat, Mcd's, Steak n Shake, Olive Garden, Red Lobster etc. Sometimes hit a movie or just lay around talking, cuddling, groping, massaging etc. Occasionally we also go shopping for items we need or want to get for ourselves or each other. Of course I end up with the tab most of the time. Any ideas for us to maybe liven up our relationship besides these. What have any of you done with your CF that you have enjoyed
Don't really need to spice it up as much as something new to add variety. She goes totally out of her way to mske me happy always. Just want ideas to have her enjoyment increased if possible.
Given that she's been treating you very well, it seems like -- $200 for sex, many hours including overnights, and letting you get away with feeding her bottom of the barrel food -- maybe it would be fun to spoil her for a night, and then take her home to see if that doesn't liven up the sex a bit (hint: it fucking will, man!). Couples massage, dinner someone awesome, drinks at whatever local place has a top-floor bar so you can see the city. Much bigger layout for you than usual, this one time, but IME experience a stripper who feels a bit pampered is going to make sure you're motivated to do it again, using the only leverage she has. Plus after so long of taking her through the White Trash Restaurant Tour, might be nice to see how she behaves in a decent restaurant.
Per Papi, another of my fave activities is taking a stripper to the strip clubs -- always a blast.
@hotdog0007 - Sounds like a sweet arrangement. I am assuming it didn't start at $200 for that lengthy of an meeting. Did it morph over time? What was your deal like with her 5 years ago?
Same $ for an hour or 2 and maybe a meal. Got to know each other and both of us found that we liked how we treated each other and our relationship moved to a higher ground
First off - to all other PLs givinga advice, the OP doesn’t need to find a new CF. It appears there is trust and consistency in this relationship so why screw this up?
I would NOT recommend Vegas is both of you are recovering users.
I would recommend a weekend or weeknight(s) away, there’s gotta be a larger city nearby or romantic getaway you can go to, try some new more “local” restaurants instead of the chains.
Go on yelp.com and maybe you’ll find a local restaurant you didn’t know existed. Let her pick out somewhere new to go.
For example, I like to getaway to a respite type place that may have a spa. Go get a couples massage, go for a swim and order room service and have fun in a fancy hotel room.
Tell her that it’s getting mundane - and she needs to spice things up. It’s that simple!
Regardless of how affordable she is - you are still a paying customer - so she needs to keep you interested. Unless she stops accepting payment - she’s still a whore! You need her to understand the truth - that you can take your money and find another whore to spread for you (or to spread for your money).
Shailynn, I always let her choose the restaurants we eat at. She says "why waste your money" on the more high class places I suggest, so we almost always go where she wants to. We have gone to Casino resorts in the past and spent the night a few times. Thanks for the input, and yes I do not want to lose her, just make her as hsppy as she has made me over the last 5 years
We have many things in common except age. I am twice her age, 30's-60's. Never thought about the athletic dates. Will see if she would like to try something. Thanks
"Did a 3 some with a previous CF, ruined our relationship completely. CF thought I gave the othrr party to muvh attention."--hotdog
There you go. Learned what to do for the next(this) time. It wasn't the 3 some that ruined it.
Since you didn't specify, I'm hoping the other party was a female :) but seriously as great as they sound it's more about getting your primary girl pleasured before getting some yourself.
hotdog posted: "...and yes I do not want to lose her, just make her as happy as she has made me over the last 5 years."
This and the part about a third girl "ruining your relationship" were the most disturbing parts of this back and forth. Simply put, you are far too attached to a girl who is doing this, first and foremost, for the money. You need to get your head around the reality that you are eventually going to lose her no matter what you do. You are old and she is not - she has a lot of living to do. She will also eventually want/need to stop doing sex work. That this has even lasted 5 years is a minor miracle, but sooner or later the ride is going to end.
I'm sorry to put it this way, but your time for spring time romance has long passed. If you have kids/grandkids, you should now be in the mindset of a supportive grandfather and if you never had kids then that ship has sailed and you can find other ways in your elder years to enrich your life and even the lives of others. Losing your mind over a young woman is both undignified and unfair to her. Now I'm not saying that you shouldn't enjoy strippers - I hope that I still can when I am pushing my mid 60s or older. But treating them like some GF and trying to relive a lost youth will do no good for anyone in the long run.
*** gawker, if you are reading this thread, please see above as you're another one who cannot seem to let go of need for romance with p4p girls. ***
Instead of paying her approximately $7,500 in cash, start investing in her future and buy her stock. It may not spice up the relationship, but if you care about her, a nest egg might be something she would want but never have access to.
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Go drinking (and use Uber).
Go on vacation (e.g. Vegas).
Per Papi, another of my fave activities is taking a stripper to the strip clubs -- always a blast.
I would NOT recommend Vegas is both of you are recovering users.
I would recommend a weekend or weeknight(s) away, there’s gotta be a larger city nearby or romantic getaway you can go to, try some new more “local” restaurants instead of the chains.
Go on yelp.com and maybe you’ll find a local restaurant you didn’t know existed. Let her pick out somewhere new to go.
For example, I like to getaway to a respite type place that may have a spa. Go get a couples massage, go for a swim and order room service and have fun in a fancy hotel room.
Regardless of how affordable she is - you are still a paying customer - so she needs to keep you interested. Unless she stops accepting payment - she’s still a whore! You need her to understand the truth - that you can take your money and find another whore to spread for you (or to spread for your money).
Have you ever tried athletic dates? My record with an SB was about a year. She was a triathlete and we would sometimes go on cycling or hiking dates.
There you go. Learned what to do for the next(this) time. It wasn't the 3 some that ruined it.
Since you didn't specify, I'm hoping the other party was a female :) but seriously as great as they sound it's more about getting your primary girl pleasured before getting some yourself.
This and the part about a third girl "ruining your relationship" were the most disturbing parts of this back and forth. Simply put, you are far too attached to a girl who is doing this, first and foremost, for the money. You need to get your head around the reality that you are eventually going to lose her no matter what you do. You are old and she is not - she has a lot of living to do. She will also eventually want/need to stop doing sex work. That this has even lasted 5 years is a minor miracle, but sooner or later the ride is going to end.
I'm sorry to put it this way, but your time for spring time romance has long passed. If you have kids/grandkids, you should now be in the mindset of a supportive grandfather and if you never had kids then that ship has sailed and you can find other ways in your elder years to enrich your life and even the lives of others. Losing your mind over a young woman is both undignified and unfair to her. Now I'm not saying that you shouldn't enjoy strippers - I hope that I still can when I am pushing my mid 60s or older. But treating them like some GF and trying to relive a lost youth will do no good for anyone in the long run.
*** gawker, if you are reading this thread, please see above as you're another one who cannot seem to let go of need for romance with p4p girls. ***