Went to the Exxxotica Expo on Friday

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BurlingtonHoFactory
New Jersey, near the Shore
This was my third time visiting the Exxxotica Expo in Edison, NJ. I previously went in 2010 and 2011. After six years, I finally decided to go back. Something was different this time. I'm not sure why, maybe it's because I'm a little older now, but I had a much better time than I did in 2010 and 11. For one thing, I actually spent time talking to some of them instead of just trying to fuck them this time. It turns out that porn stars are really decent people. They're nice, they're friendly, they aren't trying to hustle you, they're just so happy that you're a fan.

I spent my entire time there mentally comparing the porn girls with the strippers I've met throughout my life. Don't get me wrong, I know some really great strippers and I like them very much. But the vast majority of strippers are just not good people. They act like con-artists or half-naked beggars. They are liars. They gossip about you behind your back. You can't trust them for shit. And when they don't need you anymore, they act like they don't even know you exist. That's the majority, anyway.

But the porn girls were different. I was almost sad that I had to leave and go home at the end of the day. They were just really cool people. In full disclosure, yes, I still did try to fuck four of them, and I was basically turned down by all four of them. But they were so sweet even when they were turning me down! I've fucked two porn stars in my life and I will try to fuck more of them, but this was the first time I ever really talked to any of them like regular people. After the convention, I went to a local strip club where Exxxotica was having one of its "after-parties," and I was just really struck by the contrast. I didn't get any dances and eventually left feeling disillusioned about strip clubs in general.

The contradiction, of course, is that when I was younger and more handsome I was more successful at landing porn stars OTC. No conversation needed. Now that I'm a little older and willing to treat them like human being they don't seem to want to fuck me anymore. Life is confusing LOL.

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londonguy
7 years ago
Was the any live sex shows with these 'stars', I expect not being in the U.S.?

Can you name any of them that were there?

Which porn star's have you fucked?
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Cashman1234
7 years ago
I agree with you regarding porn stars. The ones I’ve met - and got to know - are pretty regular folks. The stars aren’t the big names - so I’m guessing they are more porn actresses.

I had thought about going to that show a few times - a few years ago. I should have gone - as it sounds like a good experience.

Glad you enjoyed it. I’m glad you viewed the stars as nice folks.
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BurlingtonHoFactory
7 years ago
@Cashman1234, yeah, they were great. If you do decide to go next year, they have Ladies Free Fridays, so the attendees are about 50% female on Friday night. Some hot chicks, some lesbians, some fuglies, some couples. It always surprises me that women are into porn. I'm told that Saturday is even busier, but I've only ever gone on a Friday. Sundays are supposed to be a little quieter as the event starts to wind down. Make sure you check in and get your free swag if you get a VIP ticket. Lots of booths offer free stuff to VIP ticket holders. The free "tantric" massage was pleasant.
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BurlingtonHoFactory
7 years ago
@londonguy,

No, no live sex shows, not even any nudity. TBH, I actually prefer a scantily clad woman to a naked woman, but that's just me. There was a mix of big names from ye olden days, some up-and-comers, some mid-level actresses, cam girls, web performers, activists, dominatrices, plus some dancers, etc. Some of them were drop-dead gorgeous in real life. Some were just plain scary to look at. Some haven't aged well. Others are prettier than they are on screen. But they all seemed like good, surprisingly down to earth people.

Some of the girls I remember being there this year were Katie Morgan, Tera Patrick, Phoenix Marie, Richelle Ryan, Nina Hartley, Edyn Blair, Alexis Texas, Aspen Edwards, Rubber Doll, Abella Danger, Darcie Dolce, Lexi Belle, Ashley Fires, and Romi Rain. Plenty of others I just can't recall at the moment.

I also got to meet Angela White (whose cleavage is my avatar). Hat-tip to shailynn and rh48hr for turning me on to her. She was actually one of the nicest people I've ever met. Not to stereotype, but Australians always seem to be nice people. I talked to her for a while about Australian politics (she ran for office there several years ago).

I'm not sure I feel comfortable outing the porn performers I've been with OTC, but neither of them were there this year.
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LecherousMonk
7 years ago
was gianna there?
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SirLapdancealot
7 years ago
Angela White...mmmmm...such big, round, beautiful...

...wait for it...

...blue eyes!
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rh48hr
7 years ago
Angela White and Tera Patrick? Two of my all-time favorite porn stars. If Chanel Preston was there too, I might have never left! lol
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BurlingtonHoFactory
7 years ago
@LecherousMonk, you mean Gianna Michaels? Not this year. I met her twice, once at a previous Exxxotica convention and once at a club in PA. She has lost SO much weight that it's unattractive. It was very disappointing especially because I prefer thick girls.
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BurlingtonHoFactory
7 years ago
@SirLapdancealot, I can't even describe how pretty she was in person. A knockout. Hypnotic eyes. But also really smart and friendly, and she's a true believer in her political issues, especially about legalizing the sex trade. If it weren't so damn loud on the convention floor and if she didn't have so many mongers waiting in line I have the feeling that we would have talked for hours. As it was, I still got about 20 minutes of her time. Her production assistant was really cool, too. (He wasn't my type though LOL.)
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BurlingtonHoFactory
7 years ago
@rh48hr,

I believe Chanel Preston has been at prior conventions but not this one.

I used to really like Tera Patrick, too, but sadly she is one of the ones who hasn't aged well, at least by my standards. That was really unfortunate. I used to know a stripper who looked a lot like her when she was still young and gorgeous.
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anonlvone
7 years ago
i have a feeling never meeting lexi belle is gonna be one of my biggest regrets when i die lol
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BurlingtonHoFactory
7 years ago
@anonlvone :) Lexi is very pretty in person. She was at the strip club when I went to the after party. I saw her dance. I wanted to get a few LDs with her, but I didn't like how the strip club had changed their prices on me.

First I was told that it was free entry for every VIP ticket holder, but the meathead at the door charged me $20 anyway. I paid the cashier and then I walked over to the giant sign standing in their foyer and pointed out to the bouncer and the cashier that it specifically says "free admission to VIPs." The cashier explained something about how the price was $30 for everyone else but I'm getting a break, and how it was free earlier, etc. I'm like, I got here within an hour, I have a car, not a spaceship, when did you want me to get here? Whatever.

Then I tell another meathead that I'd like a LD with Lexi and he tells me it costs $100. Strange because Darcie Dolce had specifically told me at the convention that they were $60 and $100 for two dances. WTF? But I accept it and tell him I'm interested. He tells me to wait in a certain area. I go where he tells me. Another bouncer tells me to wait on the other side of the club. I go where he tells me. Yet another meathead tells me to go back to the first area. Come on already. So I wait and they tell me that they are gonna come and get me when she's ready for me. By 2AM, I'm thinking like Joe Pesci in Goodfellas "What do you have me on a 'pay no mind list'?" I'm sitting there mentally comparing the great porn chicks I had met earlier with the scum bags and liars in the strip club, and after a while I just cut my losses and head out the door.

As a parting shot, the doorman tells me that if I leave now they are locking the doors and I won't be able to get back in. Unbelievable. I swear if I were a rich guy I would just fuck porn chicks and never set foot in another strip club... assuming that I can convince the porn girls to do me, that is.
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SirLapdancealot
7 years ago
@BHF Angela White is a living porn legend as far as I'm concerned. Stars like her don't come around often. Her looks are every bit matched by her smarts and personality. Besides those beautiful blue eyes and luscious tits, I love her million dollar smile. That's so cool you talked with her a bit.

@anonlvone Lexi Belle is porn's #1 all-time girl next door. And she kept getting better and better as her career passed. It seems like she was still peaking even as she retired. I love that she never went all out hardcore slut too.
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lick-that
7 years ago
Aw Crap, it was this wind? I'd seen the billboard on Route 1, but I was away this wknd. Sounds like you enjoyed it enough for the both of us.

Alexis Texas.... nothing more to say!!!

I agree with you wholeheartedly about Strip Clubs and the scum of the earth who work/ manage there. If it wasn't for the ladies I would never set foot back in another one. Low-life's All around. Sorry, but that also goes for many of the customers also. One of the reasons it has always been my MO to take a break from the life from time to time. You really get to hate the people including strippers in general, only so much BS you can take before it becomes overwhelming.
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BurlingtonHoFactory
7 years ago
@SirLapdancealot, yeah, I'm in love ;) Angela's skin was so flawless, too. And she was chill as can be. Even when I tried to pay her for OTC, and she sweetly turned me down... I admitted sheepishly that I was slightly embarrassed at having asked, but she put me at ease immediately, telling me that she has absolutely no moral qualms about it, believes it should be legal in the States, etc., but that she would never break the law as an immigrant in a new country. She also explained that the reason she never feature dances is that she's actually a very shy private person. I believe she even said something about how she hopes I'm able to find someone who will screw me for money before the night is over (I didn't). When I came over again to say goodnight five hours later, she still somehow remembered my name, despite having met, conservatively, 2,500 other people by that time... and she was still bubbly and cheerful despite having been on her feet dealing with the public all night long. What a sweetheart.
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BurlingtonHoFactory
7 years ago
@lick-that, I agree with everything you said, including about the customers. In a way, I'm glad that strip clubs are the way they are: if strippers were more like porn actresses I would be broke by now. It probably has something to do with volume and with the way they get paid. Strippers have to deal with scum buckets all night, every night; but porn stars only have to deal with us when they feature dance and when they go to conventions. Strippers only get paid when they hustle us; but porn chicks get a check, sign a contract, almost like a regular job, and they don't have to hustle much to get paid.

I wish I had been able to meet Alexis Texas but she was very busy Friday night with MCing events on stage. Bummer.
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Jascoi
7 years ago
i've met a few porn girls. and even experienced a couple. good people.
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lick-that
7 years ago
What you said was on point. Its a really co-dependent dysfunctional dynamic. That's why I take with a grain of salt many of tales of mongers about bad dealings with dancers, bc both low-life dancers and shady customers contribute feed of each other.
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Papi_Chulo
7 years ago
They've had in Miami, IDK if they have it every year.

In past years thought about going but figured it was mainly looking and not much more mileage other than some convo and maybe some pics - might still be fun/entertaining so maybe I'll do it one year
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BurlingtonHoFactory
7 years ago
@Papi_Chulo, they have it in Edison, NJ every year, but they seem to rotate the other cities that they travel to. It's usually three stops per year including Edison. Sometimes they go to Miami, Denver, Chicago, etc. The only places that I *think* they never go are NYC, LA, and Vegas. NYC is close to Edison, and LA and Vegas already have so much porn-related activity that it doesn't pay. I could be wrong.

You should probably only go if there are some performers that you particularly like. I went one year because I specifically wanted to meet Kelly Divine and Flower Tucci. The next year, I wanted to meet Gianna Michaels. This year I wasn't planning to go but then I found out that Angela White was going to be there so I went. I think Tiffany Mynx was there once in 2008 or 2009 but I didn't know about it at the time so I didn't go. Now I don't think I'll ever get a chance to meet her and it's something that I regret. Also, I was once going to do an "OTC" session with a porn star named Anna Malle but I changed my mind at the last minute because of the insane cost. Not long afterwards she was killed in a car crash and I obviously never got my chance. So my advice is, if there's a performer who you like then you should go see her or you may regret missing out. These girls have a limited shelf-life and they eventually disappear. But if there aren't any performers you particularly like then it would be a waste and I wouldn't recommend it. You can always check their website as they list who's going to appear at upcoming events.
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larryfisherman
7 years ago
Romi Rain is one of my favorite pornstars right now. Did she look good in person?
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BurlingtonHoFactory
7 years ago
@larryfisherman, hell yes! Better in person than in her videos IMO.
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Digitech
7 years ago
I wanted to go to exxxotica in NJ but couldn't make it. If you go next year let me know, we can go to a club as our own after party or before party.
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BurlingtonHoFactory
7 years ago
^^ Sure :)
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Muddy
2 years ago
I’m gonna try to go to the NJ this weekend
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Heellover
2 years ago
I've seen richelle Ryan while feature dancing Back in 2017 and 2018. She was incredible. Extremely nice and fun to talk with after her set (talked for awhile). I believe she was scheduled to come back to the same club in AZ in may 2020 but that got canx with the shutdowns.

And I do like Angela White a lot too but never got the chance to meet her.

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NJBalla
2 years ago
Im not trying to be a white knight but Regarding the original post from years ago its all about the environment. These events are to help thier brand awareness, its not technically work for them. When you dancers at a club they are there to make as much money as possible. A better way to comparison is conversations you may have with dancers outside the club. Most tend to be far more relaxed then.

Being older also helps. smelling desperation or eagerness for sex is something all women are adept at. As you get older and with more experience most of us not give off those signs which makes women more comfortable.

Also sex with pornstars was bigger years ago. A majority earned income through films, feature shows, and sleeping with fans during conventions. Today thier sources of income are ridiculous, onlyfans, videos, camshows etc.
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ilbbaicnl
2 years ago
Having lots of experience with both strippers and people in tech, I'd say the tendency to want to get something for doing little or nothing, and to be two-faced, is roughly about the same in both groups. Porn stars seem different because they have intermediaries to get the money from you for them. I've gotten lap dances from Carolina Sweets. No complaints, but I didn't feel like she was nicer or more chummy with me than any other lap dancer. (To be fair, she did get hazed really bad in that club, maybe she would have been more cheerful otherwise.)

I saw a couple of escorts who had done porn. In that case, yes, they were more fun than average. But I preferred my fav escort who was a former stripper.
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