The inbetween dancer
theDirkDiggler
Illinois
You have your favorite dancers and you have the true ROBs whom you hope you never have to deal with. And then you have your one and doners that you gambled on and lost. But what about the girls that somehow got you and kept on getting you despite not being your type, or particularly attractive, but gave very good dances, so you got multiple dances or repeat dances on subsequent visits? Or they were pretty hot or really hot, but the dances were just good, but not great, so again you got multiple dances or repeat dances on subsequent visits probably hoping for some improvement with more familiarity. Maybe they did get a little better, but not much. Or any combination of these factors. I'm not talking about newbie dancers either which is a different discussion. You eventually decide you don't want to dance with them anymore because there are better options there to spend money on. What's the best way you cut them off? Do you just give them one charity dance and hope they get the message? Some of these girls give really good dances and it would be hard to stop at just one though, so this usually only works for the second example. Do you just delay them or give the PL equivalent of SS and say later baby, i'll find you, just not now? Or do you just say, i'm thinking of someone else right now and watch them pout? Or something else completely different?
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If I’ve tried a girl, and she’s just ok, then I’ll be kind and stop after a dance or two. If she hits me up later, I’ll be honest. I’m not a dick, but I’m not going to piss my money away on dances I don’t get off on.
When I was younger, I would get dances from lots of dancers. I wouldn’t chat with them before the dance, and I’d just take them directly to vip. I got lots of unsatisfying dances. I also learned what worked for me, and what felt best. It was a relatively worthwhile experience.
One other example is the the girl that gradually let's herself go or has a kid. She's still the same favorite i had before, but different if YKWIM. If it's just some extra weight she's put on, that's just temporarily hopefully. Anyway, i'm not sure i want to burn those bridges just yet...
If the dances are wack, then I'll politely act like I'm about to stand up and give her $10 (2 dance test drive) and say thanks.
It is good to have some options. Your top flight A list is likely to be short, and maybe those girls are not in the club that particular night. Or your interaction with them goes sour.
Maybe i should have worded my discussion differently. Probably, the real question is why would you spend money and continue to spend money at other clubs or on other dancers that you know provide a less quality experience overall than you prefer like with your favorite dancers at your favorite clubs (and the clubs are your favorite because your favorite works there)? This definitely has to be a pretty common thing, as most TUSCLers don't just go see the ATF or CF and only her only at her club or OTC.
What I've started to do lately is when I'm building the friendship, I'll tell the girl occasionally that if I ever come in and want to see someone else, it's not because I don't like you anymore, it's because as much as I like you, I sometimes want variety anyway. Most girls are quite OK with that (after all, they know that I'm not exclusive, just as they aren't). So when the club is slow, none of my real favorites are around, and I'm particularly randy, I can always go back to them for some dances or a VIP or whatever for that day (i.e. I didn't burn any bridges). Sometimes, when I try to develop a relationship with a very hot girl, but she remains non-forthcoming in the dances, I break the relationship by politely telling her that I'm really looking for more fun than she's willing to be. No girl is happy to hear that, and I get mixed reactions to this (sometimes the girl will even badmouth me to other girls in the club), but I never have to buy that girl a drink again.