You have your favorite dancers and you have the true ROBs whom you hope you never have to deal with. And then you have your one and doners that you gambled on and lost. But what about the girls that somehow got you and kept on getting you despite not being your type, or particularly attractive, but gave very good dances, so you got multiple dances or repeat dances on subsequent visits? Or they were pretty hot or really hot, but the dances were just good, but not great, so again you got multiple dances or repeat dances on subsequent visits probably hoping for some improvement with more familiarity. Maybe they did get a little better, but not much. Or any combination of these factors. I'm not talking about newbie dancers either which is a different discussion. You eventually decide you don't want to dance with them anymore because there are better options there to spend money on. What's the best way you cut them off? Do you just give them one charity dance and hope they get the message? Some of these girls give really good dances and it would be hard to stop at just one though, so this usually only works for the second example. Do you just delay them or give the PL equivalent of SS and say later baby, i'll find you, just not now? Or do you just say, i'm thinking of someone else right now and watch them pout? Or something else completely different?
That’s a good question. Currently, I will be upfront and tell her that I’m not into getting dances from her.
If I’ve tried a girl, and she’s just ok, then I’ll be kind and stop after a dance or two. If she hits me up later, I’ll be honest. I’m not a dick, but I’m not going to piss my money away on dances I don’t get off on.
When I was younger, I would get dances from lots of dancers. I wouldn’t chat with them before the dance, and I’d just take them directly to vip. I got lots of unsatisfying dances. I also learned what worked for me, and what felt best. It was a relatively worthwhile experience.
Some of these girls i've developed pretty good "chemistry" with over the months and years. Sigh, it's not as easy as it seems... Also, sometimes i'll venture to one of the smaller ponds in my area, and the girl will be there (and definitely one of the bigger fish) and she'll be the best option there. I don't know if i should just cut and run or just when in Rome, make the best of it.
One other example is the the girl that gradually let's herself go or has a kid. She's still the same favorite i had before, but different if YKWIM. If it's just some extra weight she's put on, that's just temporarily hopefully. Anyway, i'm not sure i want to burn those bridges just yet...
I have gone a lot and I always try a lot of different dancers. If it doesn't work I keep saying no until they get the hint. If they ask why I just say: "you are very hot and sexy, but I just don't feel the connection with you I do with others". Never have to buy em a drink again.
I guess this issue isn't as common as i thought. Or most people just don't go to the same clubs frequently enough for it to happen or the same dancer doesn't stay there long enough. Or something...
I usually try to "scout" her dances. If I see that she dances the way I want I may give her a try. If a dancer is extremely fine then I will give her a try as well... I only do this strategy at $5 a dance clubs.
If the dances are wack, then I'll politely act like I'm about to stand up and give her $10 (2 dance test drive) and say thanks.
I suppose most guys on tuscl develop a firm yes/no attitude and only keep their top choice strippers in rotation. I suppose I do have several C+ to B+ ladies that I keep on the back burner. If I see them, OK I may buy a few dances. Maybe these women could get hotter if I simply ask them to, and spend more money on them.
It is good to have some options. Your top flight A list is likely to be short, and maybe those girls are not in the club that particular night. Or your interaction with them goes sour.
^ I used to have this convoluted tier system with evaluating dancers and favorites, but i never thought to use a simple grading system. Definitely, i try not to stray from my "A" team, but at some of the smaller ponds, it's hard to even find a B team, at least compared to the A dancers i spend the most money on and have the best experiences with.
Maybe i should have worded my discussion differently. Probably, the real question is why would you spend money and continue to spend money at other clubs or on other dancers that you know provide a less quality experience overall than you prefer like with your favorite dancers at your favorite clubs (and the clubs are your favorite because your favorite works there)? This definitely has to be a pretty common thing, as most TUSCLers don't just go see the ATF or CF and only her only at her club or OTC.
For me, i tend to like variety and am always open to finding a new favorite. My CF is also my ATF. I didn't think my previous ATF would be topped, but it happened. Could the new ATF be topped? Who knows, but she won't be around forever as the last one done moved on after less than a year in the business. I do miss her, but the new ATF easily lets me forget. At some of the smaller ponds (i hope i don't start calling clubs ponds from now on, lol) i have seen some very hot potential, often newbies or babies as some like to call them, that might need a little bit of cultivating or seasoning. But the turnover for these types is quite high, and i often run into these B/C old regulars at these clubs and have to deal with them if i want to try out the new talent.
I relate to this problem very closely, I run in to it all the time. I tend to develop lightweight relationships with the girls I like, and I'm quite giving and generous to them, so it often happens that a girl I once was closer with is now on the back-burner, but she's still very interested, so it can get very sticky.
What I've started to do lately is when I'm building the friendship, I'll tell the girl occasionally that if I ever come in and want to see someone else, it's not because I don't like you anymore, it's because as much as I like you, I sometimes want variety anyway. Most girls are quite OK with that (after all, they know that I'm not exclusive, just as they aren't). So when the club is slow, none of my real favorites are around, and I'm particularly randy, I can always go back to them for some dances or a VIP or whatever for that day (i.e. I didn't burn any bridges). Sometimes, when I try to develop a relationship with a very hot girl, but she remains non-forthcoming in the dances, I break the relationship by politely telling her that I'm really looking for more fun than she's willing to be. No girl is happy to hear that, and I get mixed reactions to this (sometimes the girl will even badmouth me to other girls in the club), but I never have to buy that girl a drink again.
For some reason, i don't mind being passive aggressive to these hot girls that just don't "get" it. By that, i mean i'll listen to what they have to say and if they eventually ask, i'll do a dance with them and that's it and hopefully they understood. And some of them don't care and will be fine with thinking they can guarantee at least one dance with me every time i visit. Usually in that case, they better bring something to the table, literally, like some warm physical affection and friendly banter. Otherwise, i'll just excuse myself from them somehow. Then they'll see me go to the LD area with my favorite, and i almost seem to flaunt it (as if this could have been you) and then i come back after seemingly a long time to spend some more time with my favorite and then go back again, and i kind of hope they seem me again. Sad? I have nothing against them; hopefully they find whatever it is that they are looking for. It's just not me...
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If I’ve tried a girl, and she’s just ok, then I’ll be kind and stop after a dance or two. If she hits me up later, I’ll be honest. I’m not a dick, but I’m not going to piss my money away on dances I don’t get off on.
When I was younger, I would get dances from lots of dancers. I wouldn’t chat with them before the dance, and I’d just take them directly to vip. I got lots of unsatisfying dances. I also learned what worked for me, and what felt best. It was a relatively worthwhile experience.
One other example is the the girl that gradually let's herself go or has a kid. She's still the same favorite i had before, but different if YKWIM. If it's just some extra weight she's put on, that's just temporarily hopefully. Anyway, i'm not sure i want to burn those bridges just yet...
If the dances are wack, then I'll politely act like I'm about to stand up and give her $10 (2 dance test drive) and say thanks.
It is good to have some options. Your top flight A list is likely to be short, and maybe those girls are not in the club that particular night. Or your interaction with them goes sour.
Maybe i should have worded my discussion differently. Probably, the real question is why would you spend money and continue to spend money at other clubs or on other dancers that you know provide a less quality experience overall than you prefer like with your favorite dancers at your favorite clubs (and the clubs are your favorite because your favorite works there)? This definitely has to be a pretty common thing, as most TUSCLers don't just go see the ATF or CF and only her only at her club or OTC.
What I've started to do lately is when I'm building the friendship, I'll tell the girl occasionally that if I ever come in and want to see someone else, it's not because I don't like you anymore, it's because as much as I like you, I sometimes want variety anyway. Most girls are quite OK with that (after all, they know that I'm not exclusive, just as they aren't). So when the club is slow, none of my real favorites are around, and I'm particularly randy, I can always go back to them for some dances or a VIP or whatever for that day (i.e. I didn't burn any bridges). Sometimes, when I try to develop a relationship with a very hot girl, but she remains non-forthcoming in the dances, I break the relationship by politely telling her that I'm really looking for more fun than she's willing to be. No girl is happy to hear that, and I get mixed reactions to this (sometimes the girl will even badmouth me to other girls in the club), but I never have to buy that girl a drink again.