Advice in how to tell striper to go away as fast as possible.
I go to cheap strip clubs where females are usually in the changing room, then if a customer shows up, a stripper at a time will come out to ask for a dance. sometimes taking up to 30 mins for the next dancer to approach,. If there are 6 dancers "working", it will take up to 3 hrs to see them all.
What I do:
"Do you want a dance?" - No thank you.. "Why not?" - I just want to wait a little bit more for that... "Are you from here?" ..- I stop looking at her and still replaying in a very short way until she leaves. but sometimes they keep asking stupid questions.
What I really want yo say(but I don't have the balls):
"Do you want a dance?" - No thank you.. "Why not?" - Look honey, you are really pretty but not my type, can you go back to your resting room so a different girl can come up and hopefully she is actually hot? Thank you., and please walk fast.
The "you are not my type" sounds good, but what about if the stripper is african american and she takes it in a wrong way? I really don't want to be rude, not because of the stripper, but what about if she goes to the back and says "the guy is a fucking jerk, rob him or take a dump in his pants". I'm afraid to that. please advice.
Thank you.
What I do:
"Do you want a dance?" - No thank you.. "Why not?" - I just want to wait a little bit more for that... "Are you from here?" ..- I stop looking at her and still replaying in a very short way until she leaves. but sometimes they keep asking stupid questions.
What I really want yo say(but I don't have the balls):
"Do you want a dance?" - No thank you.. "Why not?" - Look honey, you are really pretty but not my type, can you go back to your resting room so a different girl can come up and hopefully she is actually hot? Thank you., and please walk fast.
The "you are not my type" sounds good, but what about if the stripper is african american and she takes it in a wrong way? I really don't want to be rude, not because of the stripper, but what about if she goes to the back and says "the guy is a fucking jerk, rob him or take a dump in his pants". I'm afraid to that. please advice.
Thank you.
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I don't use it often, but when I do, it works flawlessly and simply.
Seriously? You've one club review in Anaheim and on TUSCL under Anaheim Strip Clubs, SIXTY FUCKING THREE are listed! Seriously?
Strippers are salespeople and they gonna do what many salespeople do which is often to pound you into submission if being nice does not work.
I usually say I just wanna chill by myself for a while or I just wanna check-out the stage (which may not work in your case if all the dancers are in the back and none on stage).
So you can just tell her you just wanna chill by yourself; or you don't feel like talking; and if she keeps it up just tell her she's not your type - if she keeps up then I just ignore her and don't answer any more questions.
Saying you don't have any $$$ may backfire w/ her telling other dancers that you said no b/c you had no $$$ vs you just wanted to chill or she was not your type.
With respect to her bad-mouthing you to other dancers most dancers are smart enough to know that is SS and they'll still take their turn at trying to get your $$$.
At those kinds of clubs when the girl is on stage is usually when you signal interest. And you should see a 6 girl rotation in an hour or less.
When I bring new guys to the club with me, I tell them rule number 1: don't act like a little bitch. Be respectful but direct and assertive. Once I turn a girl down, I do NOT let her ask me questions and simply submissively answer them. If I turn her down -- always with a "no thank you", never a "maybe later", and she asks me why, I don't ever answer that question, I just repeat that I'm not interested ... maybe I"ll add in that if I change my mind I"ll find her later, then turn my attention to the stage. Sometimes, I enjoy playing with the girls a bit (remember, NEVER answer a question, take control of the conversation and lead it)... Her: "Aren't I your type?" Me: "Do you think you are? Who do you think here is my type". Her: "that girl over there". Me: "Now WHY in the world would you say SHE is my type?" etc. Usually they realize what I'm doing and leave in frustration; sometimes, the banter ends up really fun if she plays along.
But as others have said be direct. A simply approach is state "I'm not interested" ANy response she has you can keep repeating or variation of. Not interested, I'm just not, Not ready, etc... Like Subraman sometimes I'll play with them if they don't get the hint, but it's on my times of me having fun and she can either enjoy it or not.
Polite. Short. Firm. Professional. Assertive.
It is amazingly disarming. Everyone above is spot on about not appearing weak.
"not tonight babe"
"no thank you"
"sorry Im not interested"
"maybe later" (a lie, similar to how a stripper says she will be back and never is, only if a stripper marks you with her property will she be back)
"I just got here"
"I want to see who else is working tonight"
stage 2:
"your not my type"
"I am not getting any dances from you"
"you arent hot"
stage 3: this ALWAYS works*
"you can dance for me, but I wont pay you"
*this once back fired, and a stripper lowered the $20 per song rate to $1 a song for me and I agreed to the new price, and she charged me $1 a song for 2 more visits to my SC until she changed to another SC around me, I only did 1 song each visit, I suspect it was because she was much older than me and thought I was attractive or something, or was just desperate and wanted to give a free-trial
I've never tried asking for free-FS/free-extras to get rid of strippers, because if I am trying to get rid of her, johnny will be in coma and wont wake up if she says "you can do anything to me but kill me in VIP", and I wont put up with the drama of her making fun of my dick not going up, and me having to tell her she needs lipo, tummy tuck, lip injections, remove her BF's name from her mons pubis, and a boob job cuz her tits cover her belly button.
Some great advice giving and now I know exactly what to say and do.
Thank you again.
Her: wanna dance?
You: No, thank you.
Her: Why not? / Where are you from?
You: I'm not buying any dances from you tonight.
Then ignore anything else she says. Simple, direct. It doesn't need to be more complicated than that nor do you need to embellish if you don't want to. Ditto if the waitress asks you to buy the dancer a drink and you don't want to. :)
"Maybe later" isn't always a lie.
"i just got here and I'm not ready for a dance. Maybe later after I've had a chance to relax and see everyone."
I think a number of us have found the same thing: don't passively sit there while a stripper leads the conversation, makes you feel uncomfortable or humiliates you or uses canned sales techniques to get you to the point where you're so uncomfortable you say yes. She's a 22-year-old in a bikini, with little formal sales training, and in many cases little formal schooling, she should not be out-thinking you or intimidating you.
I've used that line over 120 times in under 2 hours at a wanna dance club before. I think I talked to almost every dancer in the club in under 2 hours. How's that for efficiency?
Now if you want to play games or get rid of dancers just try the stuff above.
I've had fun playing games telling dancers I just got here, ask me later. I said that for 2 hours or longer in one club until one dancer said, you told me that 2 hours ago. I just told her some bs like I thought it was only an hour ago. She walked away. I think. I haven't had too many problems with persistent dancers I'm not interested in lately.
As a newbie, don't lecture me!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v4LPkmGO…
Funny!