Territorial ATF Cuts In On Competition
I go to the club for one reason, to see my fav. For lack of better words, It's Complicated. We've been really good to each other for some time, but lately I have been feeling taken for granted. I am patient, I know she's there to make money, and she's really good at working the room and keeping a few guys on the hook at all times. The other dancers know who I'm there for, and though I tip them on stage, they don't expect more from me.
But lately I have been warming up to another, and when I went over to the stage to tip her, my fav left a customer to force me away from the stage for a dance, then afterwards goes over to talk to my new interest.
Could it be genuine jealousy, or is she just concerned that another dancer will get 'her money'.
But lately I have been warming up to another, and when I went over to the stage to tip her, my fav left a customer to force me away from the stage for a dance, then afterwards goes over to talk to my new interest.
Could it be genuine jealousy, or is she just concerned that another dancer will get 'her money'.
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Among your choices here are to be scared and intimidated and passive aggressive, and just let things kind of play out while complaining about it. Or, just tell your fave casually and in a friendly matter-of-fact manner, "I want to do dances with some other girls just for variety, hope you don't mind", or similar. I personally fire dancers who try to work the room and keep a few guys on the hook at the same time, she's either with me while I'm there, or I'm moving on to a stripper who is -- but I go during dead times, I don't pay enough to be able to expect that kind of treatment on a busy nightshift
Might want to sit her down and lay down the rules or remind her that you are not her boyfriend or exclusive customer.
go back and go get some dances with the new one.
We have modest ITC club fun ( by comparison) to TUSCL VETs for standard VIP fees, but no extra $$ beyond Standard VIP entry and dance fees.
Also "date" Outside the club 2-3 times per month for no extra fees. Sort of like a civvy, but better since I know how much fun ITC can be. Of course, I pick up the tab for all OTC fun.
Recently we had a threesome VIP dance in a nuetral club and ever since she has been taking longer to reply to texts ( 1-2 days ) I think she was a little put off by enthusiasm of the 3 way dance. In either case she is now doing what started the original post. - blocking other gals from having any fun with me
Yestersay had a couple of very aggressive dances on the floor ( never had floor with her before) and VIP went to a new level. definitely think she is marking her territory which is fine but am puzzled by Her change in texting and ITC.
Should I ask her what's up or just keep on enjoying the show.
What a dilemma ha ha
Jared.
Great story, I've met some strippers like that -- they respond to any lapse in your attention by seriously delivering the goods. I've also met the opposite -- they see your attention shifting, they give up and move on. Most strippers are somewhere in between.
My advice is, you should look at this through exactly one lense: am I enjoying this or not? If you're enjoying the increased mileage, that's great, keep enjoying it, and now you know how to manipulate her to get a little kicker now and then :) If at some point, even despite the greater mileage, you're not enjoying it as much or want more variety, then do what I said above: just tell her outright in a respectful matter-of-fact but clear and firm manner.
If you're enjoying the ride, I absolutely would not bring it up with her right now
If your dancer doesn't get this, then you need to explain it to her. If she's free to play with other customers while you are at the club, then you are free to play with other dancers. Most dancers except the very insecure ones understand this. If a dancer is too possessive and won't stop then I would either stop seeing her, only see her OTC, or start going to another club for a while.
That's good news -- she would like you to think that, too, so everything is going according to plan. She's probably reading this thread in her hideout, which is buried in a volcano somewhere, petting her white long-haired cat and saying, "Eggselent, Mr Tinkles... it's all going according to plan"
In all seriousness, you probably won't listen, but fantasizing about "genuine mutual affection" is not harmless ... many times, it gives guys a warped optic that lets them misinterpret her actions, and they end up getting hurt in the end. If you must fantasize about genuine mutual affection, a more realistic model might be the affection you have with YOUR favorite customer at work. He might be your favorite customer, and you might enjoy seeing him in the context of him paying you, but you have absolutely no inclination to socialize with him in any way outside work, and if you changed jobs, you'd have no interest in socializing with him again. I think that's more realistically the most can you hope for, and perhaps won't set you up so badly to get hurt.
For w/e reason; even for a vet; a dancer’s affections can often feel real and beyond just one being a custy – from what I’ve experienced and seen posted on here time-and-time again; at the end of the day IMO/IME 99% of the time it’s ALWAYS about the $$$ for the dancer – when the $$$ is not there; neither will she.
Women are often great manipulators – and many dancers take that to another level – IMO as long as one is paying them one should not assume her affections are genuine and beyond the $$$.
It’s one thing for the woman to be in control in a civvy relationship and kinda call the shots since she’s the one w/ the pussy – but it’s unacceptable to any monger worth his salt :) to be paying a woman and also be giving her all the power of when, how, and if – if you are paying you should call the shots – why pay her and let her call the shots – the latter IMO/IME often leads to diminishing returns to where a dancer will have a PL under her stiletto while at the same time taking his $$$ - unacceptable IMHO.
Although I’m typing like a tough-guy; I too, even after years of SCing and being TUSCLarly educated; at times have trouble standing-up to a dancer that wants to claim me and claim-me on her terms – although these-days more often than not I nip that in the butt sooner than later.
In my PL opinion; in strip-club bizarro-world more often than not dancers will treat a custy w/ less regard the more power and control the PL gives them; and often times one will get better/proper service if one clearly defines the boundaries and enforces those boundaries (pretty-much like in any relationship).
If you want to see how special her affections are for you; next time or two in the club tell her you’re currently having financial difficulties and don’t’ have $$$ and then see how “jealous” she is.
Just an opinion - not claiming what I say is the end all be all.
As mentioned – time often reveals the truth/reality – but don’t give-up all hope – you could be in the 1%.