Sex and everything about it
Clackport
Washington
First of all I'm wondering what are your strategies for lasting longer in bed? My girl told me about a soccer player she used to be with, and she said he could last for 5 hours. Holy shit that made me feel inferior. Usually I'm only good for 15-20 minutes. I recover fast, and can go for Round 2 after a 5 minute break, but I would like to last longer in the first round. People always say rub one out before sex, that's fine, but if you're fucking a civie, there's no set time, you don't know exactly when you're gonna get the pussy. People also say don't think about cumming while you're having sex, that's valid I guess, but sonetimes holding back the feeling makes the sex less enjoyable. I'm a young man, so I'm not interested in taking any pills.
What's your strategy to make a girl cum during sex? I usually make them cum from DATY with no problem, but during sex it's a lot harder for me to get them off, a lot of times it doesn't even happen.
Can you be with a girl that doesn't like to suck dick? If she's with me, she better suck my dick even if she's terrible at it, I want to see the effort. I'm going to do DATY, so I expect you to suck my dick.
Do you prefer kissing during sex? I definitely do. It makes it more intimate.
Thoughts on all of this?
What's your strategy to make a girl cum during sex? I usually make them cum from DATY with no problem, but during sex it's a lot harder for me to get them off, a lot of times it doesn't even happen.
Can you be with a girl that doesn't like to suck dick? If she's with me, she better suck my dick even if she's terrible at it, I want to see the effort. I'm going to do DATY, so I expect you to suck my dick.
Do you prefer kissing during sex? I definitely do. It makes it more intimate.
Thoughts on all of this?
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My strategy is to try to make the girl feel as comfortable as possible. I try to avoid playing all of the hard rap music and play more of the R&B/soul type music. I tend to be sensual as I most caress and kiss all over their body. I'm big on foreplay, so I like to kiss around their neck and ear area while doing deep moans and heavy breathing. I'm a big strong broad dude so most of them love that shit. Next I will kiss over the erogenous zones such as her inner thigh and her abdominal region. My intent is to tease and build up anticipation for her orgasm(s). Once she starts grabbing my head and guides it to her pussy then that is when I know she is ready. After that, I will do DATY until she receives her first nut.
It is a lot harder to have them cum from sex in my experiences but I guess you just have to find that G-spot and hit it right. Out of all the girls I've only made about seven of them cum from straight up fucking.
I'm like you, I can't be with a girl that doesn't suck dick. If she is terrible then I can always give her a crash course on Fellatio 101.
And like you, I definitely enjoy kissing before and during sex. Not so much afterwards as the sensation is gone.
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Having an orgasm when high takes some concentration and effort so I can keep going by just not trying. With DS2 the first time I wasn't high and just barely lasted long enough. It was a wonderful mutual bareback orgasm but 30 seconds shorter and it would not have been long enough. Story to follow maybe.
How you get a woman to cum varies widely from one to the other. DS wanted her breasts sucked, her pussy loved, and then fucked n a couple of positions. She liked to add in a vibrator sometimes. That would be good for 2-3 orgasms on a average. Im still learning the body of DS2, but clitoral stimulation seems key to her. You have to learn their bodies. And if they're new, you learn to read their reactions to what you do.
Only woman I ever had sex with who wouldn't suck my dick was my wife. And no I don't put up with that. If I pleasure a woman with my mouth, she pleases me with her mouth. Most strippers understand this obvious concept.
On the last question, kissing is very erotic and key to a great sex session. And DS2 is a wonderful kisser as was DS1.. Video girl, however, doesn't like to kiss. One of a dozen reasons she's not DS3 despite giving me the best blow jobs of my life.
Do you stimulate her clit during sex though? All my girlfriends told me that unless guy does it to them, they won't get off. Same with me.
I do enjoy kissing a lot.
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It's a pity you don't speak Russian, I would send you a link to a post from St-Petersburg's ex-prostitute's blog, where she explains in details why girls do NOT enjoy sessions when it's too long.
Anyway, don't sweat over such nonsense, 15-20 minutes is perfect, imho. :))
I usually like a CIM BJ to start things. Then I DATY and give her a good fucking where I can last as long as I need to. This works better with girls who know me or submissive women than your average ONS. For a ONS my strategy would be make them cum with tongue and fingers before my dick comes out of my pants.
@dancer95-Thanks!
It didn't happen every time, but if they didn't through intercourse I would DATY or finger them to completion afterwards.
And I agree with others that 15-20 is plenty of time for sex and plenty of kisses and foreplay. I love foreplay and it would generally end up being longer then the sex. I love to tease my girl and get her so excited and begging for me to fuck her or lick her.
All tolled, we probably never actually fucked for more than the 15 or 20 minutes Dancer95 seems to like, unless there was a second round, and that almost always ended with me in her mouth after only a couple of minutes, and one or two of her orgasms.
But as far as lasting longer, climax happens when the para-sympathetic nervous system clamps down on the sympathetic. It is to stop you from gong too far.
So if you try not to cum, that makes you come.
So the way to let it go on is just to take a tantric approach to it. Allow yourself to go ever deeper into the experience, letting your self enjoy the experience of your and your partner's energy centers resonating together, and feeling each time the energy going up the combined spinal area of your both, and letting her get close to the top each time, and then go over.
That is a good time to go to some light kissing with her, and then start to bring her up again with g-spot massaging shallow strokes.
If you do it this way, I don't know that there is a time limit anymore.
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ranukam, it just takes practice. Lots and lots of practice. Daily practice with a real live woman. Multiple different women. Basically, the bigger a male whore you are then the bigger sample size you have and the more you learn different techniques women like. I remember when I was younger I only knew one speed. Deep, hard and fast. Those first few dozen in my college years had to be seriously unsatisfied because I was an idiot.
15-20 minutes seems really short to me. You've got a naked woman in front of you. Why wouldn't you want to at least spend 30-60 minutes or more pleasuring her? Kiss her all over, rub her all over. Pick somewhere to start and just work to the other end. Rub her shoulders and work down to her feet or vice versa. Do the back then do the front. Get a nice edible massage oil. When DATY pay attention to her clit and get 2 fingers in there. Get them deep and press up with either a "come hither" motion or rub in a circle. Some women can cum from just oral and some can't. Some like a finger in their ass and some don't. It's up to you to test the waters and see what the response might be. You have to listen and watch. Watch her facial expressions, body language and listen to her breathing.
If you don't have one I suggest you buy a wedge pillow. Buy an actual Wedge and not a foam knock off. The Wedge Liberator is perfect and slides right under the end of the bed when you're done. Sex in a bed is a horrible position. The mattress gives a little so you're pointing down when you actually need to be angle UP. This is near impossible to do and what really tires most guys out and makes them finish too quick. The wedge raises the woman up off the bed about 8 or 9 inches to a height where you're pointing up and you can go deep and hit that G spot every time.
Then eventually when you find the one who blows your mind and makes you want to settle down you should be an expert in bed. i always say that marriage license; mandated by church and state, is a legal document that says a wife should be a whore and a husband should be a stud. If they're going to require that piece of paper they have no say what we do together afterwards. Nowadays, we can go for 2 hours no problem. You can still go deep and hard but save the fast until the end when she's begging for you to pound the fuck out of her. Yes, I could cum at any time but i enjoy spending as much time as possible satisfying mrs sea. The journey is just as enjoyable as the finish. Making her have a dozen or more orgasms is amazing and something that happens a lot. I'm not saying it happens all the time. Sometimes you just have time for 15 minutes and sometimes you've only got time to do a 5 minute quickie. The point is to focus on her completely and if it's a healthy relationship (even if she's just a fuck buddy or FWB) she'll focus on you as well. Just take your time and go at a medium continuous pace.
As for someone who refuses to suck dick....she just needs to hit the road. If she just wants dick in her and for you to make her cum and she refuses to do anything you like she's really not worth it. If she's a solid booty call you know you can call at a moments notice late at night when you have no other option and just want to cum then keep her # but I wouldn't waste any money or extra effort on her.
As far as specific positions; holy crap that would be a LONG post.
"So if you try not to cum, that makes you come." Realest thing SJG has ever said.
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@seaboardrr- great advice! As much as you guys made me feel better about only going 15-20 minutes, I would ideally like to be seaboardrr and go a hour to two at a time.
Also when I say 15-20 minutes I'm just talking about fucking, not the foreplay. The foreplay alone lasts close to 30 min most of the time.
+ it's not uncommon for young guys to cum quick – the younger one is the stronger one's hormones are
+ IMO – guys that can reload quick usually tend to cum quick - it seems to be part of their biology – I don't have a lot of meat on my unit I'm sorry to say; but I mention this in the context of education – my little Papi is thus very muscular; kinda all muscle when I'm hard and thus I get some raging hard-ons and my little Papi becomes very very sensitive where I cum sometimes in the first couple of minutes of thrusting – but once I cum the first time; I can go for a good while once I reload which does not take too long – if one can reload quick then they can overcome the first quick nut (although there is nothing like the first nut) – it seems to me guys that are extra-endowed and meaty seem to sometimes not get as hard and thus their dicks are not as sensitive b/c it
not has hard – not saying these are facts but sorta unscientific observations on my part
+ as one gets older though one tends to last longer b/c one's hormones decrease and one also has had more experience in the sense of “been there done that” so one does not get as excited for sex nor are one's hormones raging as much
+ as others have mentioned – it is not uncommon for many women not to be able to cum from vaginal sex – men are like microwaves that get instantly turned-on; women are like crockpots/slow-cookers that often tend to take a much longer time to “heat up and get cooking” - thus why as others have mentioned foreplay can help to get her up to your excitement level (or closer to it) and then you can do vaginal sex one she is more excited and thus closer to a possible 'O'
+ it is often said communication is important for good sex – i.e. each partner should be able to communicate to the other what they like (different things turn different people on and different things turn different people off) – it helps if the partners know each other well and are comfortable w/ each other (especially for the woman) – in the past when I was in relationships I would often finger-bang her if she did not cum from vaginal sex – this would usually get her off b/c I could do it for a long time b/c my finger did not cum and get soft LOL – but there are women whom may not like the finger and just like the dick in there
+ also – if one is not in a relationship where they are having sex regularly it is more common to have a an itchy trigger penis
Also – many of us when we are young are sorta introduced to sex via porn which may not be the most accurate (or best) way to go about sex – thus when we are young and inexperienced we tend to perhaps mimic (or try to) what we have seen in porn films (consciously or subconsciously) – I also assume that porn actors may do something to avoid from cumming too soon (some type of med or herb or just having busted a nut not too long b/f a scene?).
You can tell when the porn guys jerk off before a scene so they'll last. They barely cum when it's time for the money shot.
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Thanks for the reference. Alcohol does not help. Tantric practices do.
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