Do some dancers have trouble taking a hint?
sharkhunter
That's easy. Yes.
One quite overweight dancer I bet I haven't seen in 10 or 12 years came up to me and said I used to dance for you all the time, let's go.
I told her maybe later. She still didn't leave. Then I told her I just got there and didn't want any dances. A few minutes later, she's back. Maybe it was only a few years ago and just seems like in a past life when she last danced for me. I do not remember her quite so large.
I like thinner or fit dancers a lot more than very overweight. A little overweight is no big deal breaker but when it becomes very obvious with clothes on, no thanks. Some guys like it. It turns me off.
One quite overweight dancer I bet I haven't seen in 10 or 12 years came up to me and said I used to dance for you all the time, let's go.
I told her maybe later. She still didn't leave. Then I told her I just got there and didn't want any dances. A few minutes later, she's back. Maybe it was only a few years ago and just seems like in a past life when she last danced for me. I do not remember her quite so large.
I like thinner or fit dancers a lot more than very overweight. A little overweight is no big deal breaker but when it becomes very obvious with clothes on, no thanks. Some guys like it. It turns me off.
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So, my suggestions: 1. be polite and direct with your response, and 2. don't stress out over a salesperson being a little aggressive, just go back to rule 1
I've had this conversation at least a dozen times recently:
Would you like some company.
No thanks I'm waiting on someone
Really, who are you waiting for
I'm waiting for DS
Really? She's beautiful. Ok.
They sulk away in recognition of the fact that they could never compete.
Her: Would you like some company?
Me: No thanks, I'm waiting for someone (I actually usually say their name, and do say "no thanks" before I say anything else)
Her: Oh, who are you waiting for? (as far as I'm concerned, she's now consented to a longer conversation, for free)
Me: Who do you think? Who is my type? (I NEVER answer the dancer's questions or allow her to control the conversation: I answer her question with a question, and she either answers or GTFO)
Her: ... (she either plays along and we laugh our way through, or realizes I'm wasting her time and excuses herself)
For me, like I said, I don't mind these interactions at all, I just make sure to take control quickly -- I do not have any problem out-thinking a twenty-something-year-old on verbal judo. And sometimes, we have these conversations and I realize the stripper has a delightful personality ... I've ended up passing them onto my friends who might like her bodytype better and now I've screened her for attitude, I've ended up in drinking-buddy relationships ITC club with a bunch of them. To me, there's no downside to being on good terms with everyone in the club, even girls who I won't dance with. I realize some of you think this is a complete waste of time and don't want any interaction with anyone except your girl-of-choice for the day. This is just my thing, not better or worse.
And some of the girls have apparently gotten similar from her other customers, some of whose are apparently not as polite as me.
I just got used to a string of dancers walking off and not coming back again.
RE: fatty and, "I say no and they ask why."
That's easy. Just reach out and pinch the gut and give it a shake, then duck!
I heard a few years ago about some guys playing poker with a few dollars exchanged. Only a few dollars, not hundreds or anything. The police found out and raided the poker game. It was at someone's house. I thought then that this is a total waste of taxpayer money enforcing laws like that. About the same time I found out there is a law in South Carolina against playing any game with dice based on chance. Just think, I could get arrested for playing Yahtzee. If I pitched in a few quarters and threw a party inviting others, the police could do a raid and arrest us all being the great threat to the public we would be.
Does anyone think I'm an undercover cop? No. Bouncers walk around all the time and I believe they have security cameras on all the time.
I could claim I could get excited watching simulated sexual acts by females at a hot dog stand. Oooh, watch those hot girls eating that hot dog. :)
A prosecutor could shut down that hot dog stand.
If they keep hiring a bunch of fat dancers, I won't want to visit anymore.