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Life Lessons/Advice

As we wind down to the end of another year, I thought it might be interesting for us to share some life lessons we've learned over the years. Sort of an advice sharing session where the older guys can share some stuff with the younger guys. What the fuck, might as well, huh?

Lets limit it to the top 5 life lessons we want to share. I'll start:

1. Never get married. It's sad to say, but I think the vast majority of people, both male and female, are totally unqualified to be married. We're too selfish, we do it for the wrong reasons, and we just don't have what it takes. Yeah, there are some out there who are very special people and can make it work. For them I have the utmost respect. But in the end, there's a reason why 50% of marriages fail. And for a man especially, the fucking you get just ain't worth the fucking you get. Just say no.

2. Never rely on anyone else for your happiness. Again, sad to say, but the key to happiness is within yourself. If you expect it from others, you'll be disappointed. So learn to be happy on your own.

3. Choose to be happy. Maybe it seems counter-intuitive at times, but the key to happiness is if you CHOOSE to be happy. Happiness is in your mind, and you can control it. If life fucks you over, you can choose to be happy about. Sounds crazy, but happiness is only a state of mind. Find reasons to be happy no matter what's going on around you.

4. Just do it. Nike's ad was one of the best pieces of advice out there. Just do it. Don't be afraid of anything you want to do or dream of doing. Just do it. JUST FUCKING DO IT !!! Don't sit on your ass and worry, get off your ass and do it. Start with small steps, make a plan, and execute. You'll fail, it will be difficult, but just keep at it.

5. Learn how others perceive you. Unfortunately, nobody ever sees the real you. They perceive you based on their own biases and ignorance and beliefs. Someone once said, "people never grow up, they just learn how to behave in public". In fact, most people act like fucking 6 year olds, and have childish biases and ignorance and beliefs. And also unfortunately, you often need to play to some of that if you want to get along with them. If nothing else, learning how others perceive you will give you some information about yourself, even if you don't act on it. Do you smile? Do you "act" attractive to women? All that stuff is important. Women are looking for a certain type of guy, and if you don't appear or act the way they want, you might lose someone who otherwise you'd have a great relationship with. Same as how men are looking for certain things in women. Get a friend and ask them to evaluate you. Learn about yourself and how others see you.