How I got played by a stripper

Slin
First off, you might want to check out this thread to get the back story: http://www.tuscl.net/dt.php?DID=123447 I wrote a couple of posts giving a play by play of what happened between the girl at the club and me.
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Long story short: a dancer gave me some amazing LDs that turned rather freaky; freakier then any dances that I've had before. Freaky to the point that I later go back to her for another set, and then once more before I'm leaving for the night. Before I leave, she says we should be friends and tells me to take her number.
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Naturally, I'm suspicious and I wasn't even sure if this was a real number. I do a trace of the cell number she gave me and her name ended up coming up which made me think, "Shit...could this be real?"
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I posted my story up on the thread I linked to in the first paragraph. After a few days, I find out that another customer had pretty much the same experience as me with the exact same girl! In short, I had been bamboozled and played out.
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Now, I want to offer my analysis on why her hustle was so good. Perhaps it can help out my fellow SC junkies on here.
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- She wasn't pushy. At no point did she try to sell me the champagne room or even ask me if I wanted another dance. Instead, after each dance was over she would just say "Thanks baby" and let me be the one to ask for another dance. She was one of the top two dancers I've ever had so I would usually go for another LD without her having to convince me. That brings me to my next point....
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- She lets guys chase her instead of the other way around. She realizes when she has a guy hooked and knows that a guy will come to her without her having to do anything. In my case, I believe since she saw me get so many dances from her she knew that I was already under her spell so she didn't have to really push for anything.
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- She came off as authentic. If you look around any given club and see girls talking to the customers, you can notice the game the girls are playing. They are energetic, enthusiastic, and friendly; kind of like a used car salesman. The problem with this approach is that a lot of people who are SC veterans are going to be naturally on their guard. What did this girl do different? Basically she just acted like any other girl you could talk to in the bar. She wouldn't pretend to laugh at jokes she didn't think were funny and didn't seem like she was trying to sell you something. Rather she would just be relaxed and be laid back.
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- She would give a LOT more mileage during your first encounter with her. The first night I saw her she was letting me spank her ass hard while the second time I saw her, she told me I couldn't do it anymore because she got in trouble with management. If you read the story of the other guy who got tricked by her, he actually got to finger her the first time the two of them got LDs together. On subsequent visits she would no longer allow him to do so. Her tactic was to go hardcore the first time you were with her in order to get you hooked and then later on tone it down; knowing that she didn't have to do stuff like that anymore since the guy was already on her line.
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- Gave her real phone # out. We all know that sometimes dancers will actually use a separate, pre-charged cell to keep customer numbers. This girl instead used her real phone which made the situation seem more legit. I suppose there are risks to doing that but I guess she was willing to take it.
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The funny thing is that this girl did NOT have to go through all this trickery in order to have me as a regular. Even her more toned down lap dances are enough for me to drop money on her whenever I would make my visits to the club. I was perfectly happy to keep everything in club until she gave out her digits and made me think that I could get more. Now, I have no desire to make life difficult for her but I can definitely see another customer who she pulls the same SS with to cause drama so I guess my only warning to her if she is reading this article is: be careful!

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Gossage54
14 years ago
You always have to remember these girls are professional hustlers. It's their job. Some are such good actresses they deserve awards. I dare anyone to come up with something more powerful than what a beautiful young girl can do to a man. It's beyond intoxicating. But again you have to remember the situation you're in. She's there to make as much money as quickly as possible, not to find a boyfriend or a fuck buddy and for her to start getting regulars is crucial. Now that being said you can actually form legitimate friendships if you will with dancers but it takes time. You have to really get to know them and gain their trust etc, if you're walking out of your first visit with her phone number in hand thinking you just hooked up you're setting yourself up for a fall.
uncleray
14 years ago
You did NOT "get played" by a stripper. You simply don't understand the rules of the game. She didn't steal anything from you. She didn't even promise something she didn't deliver. She teased you. This is the point of the strip club. And this is the main job of the stripper. If you have a problem with being "teased", the strip club is not a good place for you. If you are looking for a girlfriend, the strip club is not a good place for you.
Player11
14 years ago
It is a fools errand to try to date a stripper as a regular gf. Any dating I do with strippers otc is motel 4 sex. Then the issue is POP vs her performance in bed.

Strippers sell a fantasy, hope your fantasy experience was worth what you paid.
elusivemel
14 years ago
You weren't bamboozled. This is the game. She's very good, just respect her for it. Don't be ashamed to play the game with her if it suits you, just draw the line somewhere. Break it down into a cost benefit analysis. 1 hour of sex with an escort in your area is about $300. If you "date" her and spend money on her, just make sure you're getting a similar amount of value. So if you take her shopping, etc. to the tune of $1,000, fuck her a few times, have 3 earth-shattering orgasms and a good time, you're not getting played at all. You're buying good sex + a fantasy at about market rates.

Have fun :)

Irish1072
14 years ago
How many guys have been played to the hilt, where the girl reveals her life, family, kids, home life, school everything, and you have done the same and opened up to the girl? I went overboard with one, I knew better but this girl cried on my shoulder, kissed me and did all of the things you would expect in a relationship except date outside of the club and I bought it, hook, line and sinker. We seemed to make a connection on the first visit and I told her that I wasn't interested in a typical strip club client/dancer relationship. I didn't treat her like a stripper but in the end, she sure treated me like a client. I didn't want to believe it because she was such a sweet person that I couldn't believe anyone could be that evil. In the end I'm not sure she's evil but she didn't seem to be able to accept being treated as well as I was treating her and she left with some gansta wanna be piece of shit loser. What the fuck is with these girls that they would rather be slapped around and treated like crap from some loser than to be treated like the good person that most of them really are? I just don't get it.
funonthaside
2 years ago
I fell for some of the mentioned tactics, for the first time in decades of SCing. It goes to show, as another poster has commented, that there is not much more powerful than tge power a beautiful woman has over a man.

1-I only do that/this for you (this one is basic SS which I saw through immediately). Phone, LD quality, real/unpaid outside date, real name, etc). Leave this alone as-is, and not much danger for even the most nieve. However....

2-Proactive texting...with topic being other than the typical SS of "you coming to see me tonight?". Recalling various topics of past discussions, etc.

3-Kissing, including DFK...initiated by her

4-proactive disclosure by her of real name (initially first name only, then weeks later, last name)

5-verifiable facts about her past which most would not like others to know about them

6-details about family/kids/ex

7-connection which, on the surface, one would think is not easily faked (looking into eyes and feeling connection), but in retrospect, was most likely result of years of her perfecting her game.

Other elements:

Called her out on her game-playing, after initial texts were merely "when coming to see me", "hey 'babe'...vs using my real name, getting furious when I refused LD from her and then she hopped on me later in night after stating 'this one is on me'...then her saying 'to show you it's not about the money for me...I genuinely like you"

Then texting restarted, with texts and calls being more 'normal' vs SS.

But then, sometimes "hey bb...how u doing", with many hours/days before her responding to my response, leading me to believe she sends same generic text to many in contact list, presenting perception she cares/thinking about you, when in reality, it's nothing more than mirage/trickery.

The moral of the story? Don't fool yourself into thinking it is anything more than SS, and pay attention to even subtle clues that things may not be as you want them to be.

I used to tell myself it wasn't fair to assume she was playing tricks just to get cash, solely as she happened to be a stripper.......but...that's just another lie we PLs sometimes tell ourselves to resist the harsh reality that we are most often nothing more than ATMs.

Keep your wits about you.
RockAllNight
2 years ago
Don’t worry about all the tactics and SS. If you’re enjoying it and not going over budget, all’s good.
Jimmybigtits
2 years ago
Just make sure you don't fall in love and you only give her money when a specific service is provided and you'll be fine. Enjoy the ride.
jusflor
2 years ago
Just make a rule for yourself and mentally prepare yourself to NEVER date a stripper. NEVER. They use me and I use them that’s it. You want a GF go find a regular girl.
psycho_trick
2 years ago
until you're boning them for free, don't waste any emotional consideration.
itc they're paid to obey one-night-stand sex dolls (ideally cleaned after each use).

tuscl is a great sandbox for training these lying lapdogs. if u can't call out their bullshit here, how are u gonna do it with a fake smile and tits in ur face. regardless of even their civil posts 99% of em hate/use men. make them earn likes and compliments with seduction/flirting. don't just roll over for every flower icon.

great article. thanks for the bump funontheside.








psycho_trick
2 years ago
(the other 1% love/use men.)
psycho_trick
2 years ago
and here's the backstory working link: https://tuscl.net/discussion.php?id=1414…
pretty good read.
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