The top 10 things I should have done sooner

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• Papi_Chulo

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  5 years ago

  As an old saying goes "life is for living". The years def fly by - as one gets older at one point one may not have the health, or maybe finances, to do or enjoy certain things they always wanted to do - IDK what is the best way to go about it, try go get in as much as you can and don't worry about the future, or be conservative and save as much as you can for tomorrow - I guess the prudent choice is to play-it-down-the-middle and have fun but also save for the future. Our American society seems to put too-much emphasis on work where many people don't take vacations b/c they feel they can't be away from their jobs and many white-collar folks will be even doing work or at least checking-in (emails, etc) during a vacation. I think it was TUSCLer Che whom once posted something along the lines of: In the US, when you meet someone, the first thing they often ask you is what you do for work - in other places (Europe, etc) the first thing they often ask you is what do you do for fun or ask you about your family - or something like that.
• Warrior15

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  5 years ago

  Good for you. Life is precious and should be enjoyed. Was there something that happened 3 years ago that woke you up ?
• Papi_Chulo

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  5 years ago

  Yeah - a good/healthy diet and exercise def will make one feel better and just not look better - as as one gets older diet and exercise probably become more-important to feeling good - a couple of months ago I saw a very interesting show on PBS on how much effect exercise has on the brain - seemed as if exercise was the best thing one could do for a healthy high-functioning brain.
• Papi_Chulo

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  5 years ago

  In the animal kingdom, some species are suited to the solitary life - and others are suited to live in groups and don't do well on their own. I think we humans were made to be with each other - being isolated is def not healthy - one thing is to have some personal downtime, but I think we are at our best when we are engaging with one another.
• Papi_Chulo

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  5 years ago

  As one gets older, one starts to sorta see-the-writing-on-the-wall and that they don't have forever to do things they've wanted to do - one's health and energy may not be what it once was - one may have had a health scare or two (or more), or one may be dealing with certain conditions - all making us aware we are getting older - I guess it's what they call the old midlife-crisis.
• stripfighter

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  5 years ago

  I'd break it down to 5 things I always strive to be improving or optimizing and wished i'd done so sooner. 1)Mental health---meditating, being mindful, and learning something new. 2)Regenerative health--it's amazing how consistently getting good night's sleep helps w/daily grind. More resources to deal w/ the bullshit. 3)Dietary health--eating clean. at the very least cut down sugars and processed junk. optimize w/even healthier choices for better results 4)Physical health--both resistance and cardio training, honestly been slacking a bit this year. feels like i'm just going through the motions 5)Social health--definitely my currently least addressed one. never been the type to make friends easily, or if i did was just superficial. but working on 1-4 i'm in a better place to work on 5.
• K1956

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  5 years ago

  Man, it seems like your changing things for the better well done...
• Cristobal

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  5 years ago

  The point is you are doing these things now and you are better for it, life is too short to spend too much time regretting but rather doing, good job and wishing the best in this journey. Our stories have similarities, the depression numbs you but eventually you can overcome it and become a stronger, more balanced person.
• JAprufrock

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  5 years ago

  Appreciate the feedback, gentlemen. One thing I'd add to the list: I've made a conscious effort to help those (few) people close to me, either as a sounding board, offering encouragement and support or however I'm able. I realized that I had been too wrapped up in my own issues and needed to start paying attention to others. @warrior15 I'm not sure exactly what clicked inside of me three years ago, but I give TUSCL much credit. I stumbled upon this site in May 2016 and realized life is too short to waste on non-essential activities and I should do what makes me happy. When I got into the mongering game, it motivated me to do whatever I can to be more desirable to women, which explains several items on my list.
• Muddy

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  5 years ago

  Well this whole thread is inspiring and depressing as fuck at the same time. Well I’m younger but I’m definitely seeing a streamline of things I like to do. Exercise, Money and Pussy. I’ve kind of lost my love of sports. I used to be such a big baseball fan. I still am a fan. But not like I used to be. All sports. I don’t like watching others succeed. I just don’t give a fuck, when I was a kid, yeah they were my hero’s but now fuck no. Movies, video games and many tv shows too. So much of it just just fake bullshit to me. Nope. This is my story. And there is some 10 begging to be fucked in my future. I’ll spend more time finding her then watching others. And that shit is actually real. It can actually happen. Isn’t that so fucking wonderful?
• Lurker_X

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  5 years ago

  I lost 50 pounds that I had been carrying with me for 20 years or so. I rationalized that most Americans carry some extra weight, nobody notices, it is not a big deal. All truths, actually... But it is so rewarding to regain the mobility that I had when I was younger. To sit up quicker, not feel my belly getting in my way. And receive as well, an occasional compliment from a stripper that I look younger than my age!
• Papi_Chulo

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  5 years ago

  ^ what did you specifically do to lose the weight?
• s275ironman

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  5 years ago

  It all starts with making one little change, and then slowly one change leads to another change and it becomes a domino effect as it progresses. I’m a guy in my mid-30’s and a couple years ago I made a few lifestyle choices that really paid off. All I did was find motivation to change my diet and start exercising again. I lost 30 pounds after about 6 months, and I found myself back to the weight I was my freshman year of college. Today I am still maintaining that weight. During the whole process of getting there, I noticed a huge difference in my overall health. I would say it had a bigger impact on my self-esteem and mental health than it did on my overall physical health. There is no better feeling in the world than what you feel right after you accomplish such a remarkable thing. If there is a downside, once you get there, everything balances itself out and the excitement starts to wear off, but the key is to reflect back as a reminder that you don’t want to take any steps backwards.
• NJBalla

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  5 years ago

  Good topic. For me I have much of the same. Eating healthier. I went from eating junk food every day to once a week. Can now wearing medium instead of 2XL.Its amazing to think how easy it was to do and these days when I slip and pig out I feel like I have an alien in my stomach. Working out regularly. I used to think that working out more than an hour a day would lead to injuries but it is the opposite. If you work out 5 times a week for more than an hour you not only dont feel pain in the gym, but no pain at home
• thatotherguy70

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  5 years ago

  I used to play vids all the time. I still do, but now only if I've been to the gym that day.
• skibum609

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  5 years ago

  Things I wish I had done sooner - None. Things I regret doing - None. Things I used to do a lot and now would prefer to not do: golf and lifting weights. Things I changed because I was afarid my bad habits would eventually har,m my wife since we spend too much time together: I no longer routinely have double digit drinks; I no longer skip work to drive around in my car and get high; we eat healthy; I eat less.
• WILLYSGOTAWOMAN

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  5 years ago

  mr eliot i like your latest addition the most. human connection is very important
• Daddillac

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  5 years ago

  Eating habits are much more important than exercise in weight control. Exercise is very important but there are 168 hours in a week, if you exercise 2 hours a day 7 days a week thats 14 hours. what you do the other 154 is what determines weight
• san_jose_guy

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  5 years ago

  ^^^^^ I know someone who is a private security guard. He came to the same conclusion, as he walks so many miles per day. Beyond a point there is not much more exercise he can do. So it is diet. But, having said this, there was Ryan Bowen who road across the US on a bicycle, to get the first Obama Inauguration. He was doing close to 200 miles per day. It was said that he had to eat around 7000 calories per day just to maintain body weight. I found that riding in the Davis Double Century, with 7000 ft of climbing, cased me to eat in monumental proportions the next day. I have also found that riding 100 to 200 miles per week still does not allow you to just eat as much as you want without gaining weight. But, when you get to 300 miles per week, I would say that weight gain does start to become impossible. And this is why it is important to see the bicycle as a source of transportation, not as a form of conspicuous recreation. No one has that much recreational time. It can only work if it is transportation, and usually day or night all weather transportation. The bicycle is much more practical than the automobile. It is the automobile which should be seen as an expensive and impractical toy. SJG AOC speaks early in this, about the Amazon matter, and Amazon for some reason is getting a huge federal tax rebate. [view link] J. Lopez, Versace Green Dress [view link] [view link] Robin Trower [view link]