SeekingArrangment: A Cautionary Tale
abqspencer
somewhere fun
Monday, December 17, 2018 1:52 PM
Day One:
Get messages from a girl on SA, cutie, decent messages. She asks me to text so we can get to know each other better. We start texting (I use a Google Voice number, as does she). We go from introductions to pics pretty quickly. Nothing over the top, though.
Day Two:
She sends more pics, a little hotter, then asks what I'm looking for in a SB. I tell her, honestly, that I'm in an arrangement and want to devote my time and energy to this one girl. But I also describe my ideal SB. She's fine with everything and says she's honestly just looking for someone to help with groceries and the occasional bill here and there, as she's in college.
We continue to text/sext throughout the day some. She's "in class" so the texts are spread apart some. She keeps mentioning wanting to meet, so she can get some $$. I continue to tell her no, I can't. She asks a few more times for grocery $$...I give in and ask her how much she needs. It's only $40, so I figure, sure...least I can do for the pics/vids she's sent me.
She requests PayPal and sends me her link for it.....THIS IS WHERE I WENT WAY WRONG!!!!!
I send her $40 through PayPal that evening.
She sends more pics/vids, thanks me, etc. Then when she's "at the store" she says the total was close to $60 so can I send a little more. I send $25 more, we are now at $65.
Still begging to meet up, to make it up to me, etc. More pics are sent to me, vids, snapchats... she wants to talk on the phone that night, so she calls me through snapchat.
Gives me a sob story about her phone going to be turned off, so I figure, let's meet the next AM, I'll pay her phone bill (she says $60) and have some fun with this hot chick. Then she says she'll meet me 5 days later instead. At this point I'm thinking, never mind, this girl is flaky, I don't want to meet her after all.
She's begging for cell phone bill money now. I tell her no, I paid upfront on the groceries and won't pay upfront for anything else. She says she understands.
Day Three:
Says she got her phone bill paid. Then says "small world, my sis knows some of your family"
Uh oh...wtf.
Says my wife's name. FUCK
I ask her how this came up and she says she was showing her sis my profile or something, and knew my wife and my pics from seeing her on FB or something. Whatever...shit just got real.
Immediately goes in to the When can we meet stuff. I tell her not sure (I was busy at the moment anyway, but stalling to figure shit out too). She blows up my phone constantly during all of this. Tons of messages. Wants to meet, etc. She promises my wife won't find out, nothing's wrong, and so on. But I'm on high alert.
She asks for money again. I tell her no, I helped her yesterday. Then she says she feels like a side piece...wtf.
Then the threats start. She says my wife will find out since I'm being mean (um, what?). Wants me to pay her for her silence. Wants me to send by PayPal again. I tell her no way, in person only (I wanted to get her in person so I could make her delete everything in her phone...I realize she might have had stuff sent to a friend or something, but it's the best I could do). She says no, money now AND in person.
Then she says fine, money now and SEX in person. Ugh...I tell her again, money in person only. She says no, she's telling my wife everything. Says she'll ruin my marriage, etc. It's a mess of texts back and forth of course.
She finally agrees to meet if I send $50 now and $$ in person. I make her give me her address before i send. It's apartments and she'll send the apartment number when I get close. So I send the $50 (I know...shut it!).
I call a good friend and say "I need a no questions asked favor right now, can you help?" And he agrees. I wanted back up in case shit went even more sideways than they already are. Go pick him up and we head over there. Plan is to drop him off nearby so he can walk around acting like his on his phone, but watching my back. I had no intention of going in the apartment at any time, but he's there for extra security in case there's others nearby.
I get the apartment number when we are there. We got there early to drive around the complex and scope it out.
We get there and she goes radio silent. Nothing for like 30 minutes past the meet time. Look around for the apartment number, and the number she gave does not match that complex. At all. So we split after waiting a while.
Then my phone blows up. Babe where are you? We had a deal. YOu're fucked. Etc. I tell her she's playing games, that number doesn't exist, and we are done.
She goes off on a rant. Says I owe her $50 for "setting her up" and if I don't pay by X time she's blocking me and telling my wife everything. I decide to go silent on her. I give nothing, no replies. Just let her continue ranting.
Day Four:
In the afternoon she texts and says I owe her $100 or she's telling my wife. Goes off on everything ,etc.
I reply and tell her I've told my wife and while she's upset we are fine. I then tell her what she's doing is Extortion and is a 3rd degree felony. If she contacts me, my wife, or any of my friends I go to the authorities with everything. She goes silent, except for a snapchat message late that night.
OH...during this Day Four, a few of her texts actually came from a real number, I assume hers...so she really messed up there. I now have a way to trace back to "her" and get more information on her.
Bottom line, I screwed up using PayPal to send her $$ since it was connected to my email address and she was able to find out more about me than I should ever possibly allow.
I've notified the SeekingArrangement website that she was extorting me and they are looking in to it. She's blocked me on there, but I've found another of her profiles, very similar name, same pics that I've seen.
Be wary, guys...there are scammers everywhere. I got lucky (so far).
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