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2 years ago
ššš Ish you taking me out on behalf of all the dommes itās a no for us š
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2 years ago
@desertscrub also I think you asked how was I a sub in bed but I have submissivesā¦
Sexually I categorize myself as a sensualist/switch/brat maybe an exhibitionist, Idrk still have yet to explore that. I can be submissiveā¦but Iām also dominant. Naturally I am a dominant woman. You have to earn my respect for me to submit to you. Most men arenāt men. Itās a turn off for most but Iād rather be an alpha woman and get shit done then have two betas walking around .
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2 years ago
@desertscrub genuinely confused what exactly is contradictory so I can clear it up for you? Iām going to assume you are not really into this specific part of the kink community if Iām understanding your question. All because I have a sub, does not mean that I can not take on multiple. I have a sub I currently see in my day to day that I converse with everyday, however there are some subs that have no interest in being ownedā¦they may interact with me 1-2 times a month to get their kink itchedā¦people who partake in findom or any type of domination can have multiple piggies/partners. Even with my partner now, he has a cuckold kink. But he agreed only if I was comfortable to do it.
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2 years ago
@moneyman1234 no very much real. There are so many kinks out there! Fetlife is a great place to learn more and explore your kinks. Some people are masochists, sadomasochists, etc. In my lifestyle dominatrix life I characterize myself as a soft domme. But as a pro domme (getting paid for it) most men do not want a soft domme. I require the sub I have now to go to sleep at a specific time, text me a good morning within a certain time, lmk when heās home, obviously he fucks up from time to time and I flog him. I donāt like back talk but I genuinely and not a sadist, I do not get pleasure out of hurting him because I care. To each their own we all have our own kinks, I just carry out peoples if I feel comfortable . Some people even dabble in knife play
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2 years ago
Hey yall! Iām not at DV Iām actually in between clubs right now! However, Iām going to answer these questions real quick! Thanks for reaching out .
1. When and how did you get into dancing? What made you get into it?
I was in a pole studio learning. I met a lot of girls that happened to also exotic dance. They told me how much money they made. I was like shiiiit lol can practice ,make money, work less, study more AWESOME
2. How has it been so far? And what has the baby stripper experience been like?
I am not the fondest of stripping. Will not be a forever thing.
Iām actually going to bartending school in January. They make more than the dancers! Shootā¦I hope I can bartend in the club frfr. I love learning new things on the pole and Iāll likely do that for my partner as long as my body will allow me š but actually stripping..too draining for me. the baby stripper experience is fine. Customers love the new girls but the dancers think they can play in your face. Iāve danced in Bmore too and the girls there are ROACHES I literally had a girl take her foot and push my money into her pile. She obviously needed it more than me . I canāt be bothered to fight over a few dollars. Keep it cute lol.
3. You feel your getting better at how to move in a strip club? You wanna continue with it or this just thing rn?
Each club the hustle is different. Some you work crazy for your cash. some money is less hustle. I started at a hustling club. Very frustratingto navigate. Club also wasnāt my scene but everyone was nice (the girls I knew) the club just
wasnt for me Bmore is also big on hustle. I had a cool gig but it was just too far. It was def a bit less hustle. Looking for new club!This thing is definitely just for right now. Being a dominatrix is definitely a long term thing. The SD I was talking to was doing too much so I just dropped him lol.
4. Could you talk about the Philly area strip club scene? And what are other customers and dancers saying about it? Any club recs for customers or dancers?
The Philly area strip club sceneā¦refer to my discussion posts lol but all jokes aside. Very colorist here. Doesnāt matter how pretty you are put together you are if you brown and they got a cap itās a cap and thatās that. Iāve hit up risque in tacony and Columbus Blvd cheerleaders the dancers saying they kinda slow rn purple orchid the pic and 19th hole are doing pretty well rn. This what I heard from the dancers. The customers, I donāt talk to them too much about the club scene. But the girls dancing in Pa hit up those places cause apparently those the ones with the coinssss
5. How have customers been to you?
Some very disrespectful some respectful. I do not tolerate disrespect though. I do not care how many ones you gonna throw at me.
6. Ever done extras at one point?
I do not sell coochie. Never have itās just not my
thing. But I get paid to go on dates. I prefer older men. Not old old but older than me lolā¦I also do not accept every sugar offer. If I do not like the way that you look, if I wouldnāt actually date you I am not accepting any offer for you to take care of me. Gift giving is my love language so sugar dating just works for me. Iām big on things not being transactional . I will not sleep with you for a meal . But in time, if I genuinely like you then we can sleep together. But Iām not a prostitute or a call girl, I think a lot of people call prostitution sugaring but if your SD actually is genuine itās not them buying a room and sleeping with you. Itās experiences, trips, check ins etc. Iām also a dominatrix.
7. Any outside the club stories with customers?
Lol these men are CRAZY but I like it.
I had a man ask me to make fun of his dick, kick his penis spit on him and say the most vile shit for 600 bucks.
Someone wanted me to make him eat my shit for 450, I canāt get with bodily fluids so I declined but yesssss youād be surprised how freaked out these men are !
This one is normal, but I ate dinner and went to a bar with this man and I hung out with his friends. It was cool, he went to pay me but I really had such a nice time I told him donāt worry about it . We still converse, I left the club I met him at though but he texts and heāsalways very respectful but this really was a reminder there are decent people out there. Sometimes it doesnāt feel like it tbh .
8. What do you like what customers wear? What do you hate that they wear?
I do not really care what they wear as long as you donāt stink. I refuse to go up to a vile smelling customer lol Iām coolā¦
9. What's one move in bed that guys do that turns you on? What one move in bed you like to do to guys/girls?
Depends on my mood. I like submission. That really gets me going. I like a man on his knees doing as heās told. The fact I can smile and make someone do something because I said so is a huge turn on to me. Iām a switch. Soā¦even though ideally my life partner would be submissive, I like getting thrown around too lol.
10. Have you ever fallen for a customer? Has a customer ever got pissed off at you?
Fallenā¦hmm not yet I am talking to a customer..it was odd at first but I am happy. I have a huge soft spot for a simpš„° Heās no longer allowed to go to the strip club so heās no longer a customer š¤. I am the strip club. But heās happy that way, he has a dom.
I am not his master yet but we are happy where we are and are taking it slow. I wouldnāt say Iām in love, we have much to learn about each other but genuinely he intrigues me.
Heās my sub. Our relationship is open well one sided. He BETTER notš a customer has gotten pissed I donāt do extras I think thatās common for a customer to get mad at.
11. What kind of customers do you target? What kind of customers seem to target you?
I target customers for what I really want to do. Sugaring or femdom. Every man wants a fantasy. I do not want the raunchy men who want to have sex for a few dollars, I want the men that just had a long day at work, are at the bar because they are lonely work a lot and need company. Also the freaked out submissives really do reside in the club. My look is alternative. I attract them often.
12. How has this website been so far?
This website is cool most of you are cool, but some of you can have a giant glass of stfu .
13. You enjoy the tip walk? Awkward and/or good way to get money?
Itās only awkward if you make it awkward if a man says no I just keep it pushing . I like the tip walks some clubs I went to didnāt have tip walks.
I think the tip walk helps you with dances and figuring out who wants to converse with you or get couch dances
14. What one thing customers do that turns you on? (not give you money) Turns you off? (not not give your money)
The only thing a customer can do that will genuinely make me smile is buy me a drink and converse with me then pay me. I know you said besides give me money. But tons of men want the same thing during my shift. Being mentally stimulated, brought a drink, and compensated makes me view you different. And Iāll guaranteed remember your name and what we conversed about. Big turn off is being rough or overly sexual in a conversationā¦especially if you arenāt even throwing money down to go with your fantasy š
15. Best spot to eat in the Philly area?
What kind of food? For dessert banana moose is really good! Get the shakes! And Iāve been on an African food wave Nafisas Kitchen is delicious!
16. Met any tusclers yet?
No I havenāt if you wanna be my little piggy š· or my SD hit me up š
17. What kind of music you into/dance to?
Varies! I listen to rock, r&b alternative music indie. I really am not the biggest fan of rap itās a couple catchy songs I like and know from working in a club butā¦yeah no lol
18. Any good old club/dressing room drama stories?
I mind my damn business work and get out. Iām an unproblematic queen lol. So no stories !
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2 years ago
And my demographic for my clients that I dominate are usually white collar men, so thatās why I wanted to work in a place like it. I ended up dudding it because the opportunity that presented itself, however there was a method to my madness.
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2 years ago
I mean I hear you. I am a financial dominatrix and a SB, so with that being said, I can talk a boot off a boot. And I do get money for conversing. People like my vernacular. I figured Iād incorporate dancing into it cause Iād meet more people off of sugaring websites. I can work a pole, but ultimately, sugaring is my thing and believe it or not, many menās fantasy is not just throwing ass, itās feeling wanted. The customers want me most definitely. The managers donāt. But I hear you lol
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2 years ago
Iām DEAD. What is acting āwhiteā. Atp this has become too much, thank you all to everyone who had advice of use to give. I ended up meeting an owner of a club that I actually tried to audition at(they wouldnāt even let me). He looked at me said he didnāt understand why they wouldnāt let me audition if he was in heād have hired me on the spot. Regardless it put things into perspective. It really is a cap most times if itās managed by someone who is not black. (The owner was black)
Anyway he doesnāt want me to dance, (couldve if I wanted to) but im a bottle girl. Plus he spoils me with 1500 a week. Iām cool with that and I like that idea more . I found a solution, Iām outside on trips, and it all worked out in the end š still getting my degree though!
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2 years ago
Maybe the ink is a factor at some places Iāve auditioned because most of the girls are pretty bare at some of these places.
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2 years ago
I think itās the fear of bringing in black girls then the club attracts a more urban crowd then it becomes more urban. Itās fucked up but it is what it is I guess
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2 years ago
Thank you! I appreciate it the colorism in the dancer world is CRAZY
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2 years ago
Iām about to get a second round though, to fill in my hips more. I like my natural look I got going on, it matches my thighs and when Iām walking around nobody can clock I had work done which I love. My stomach is flat but I do have some loose skin obviously in my boobs and my tummy cause I lost 80 lbs. but the men are not noticing that AT ALLšš. I even had one guy literally tell the manager to hire me on the spot at an amateur night but yāall obviously know how that went lol!
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2 years ago
I just uploaded a picture of myself, my bbl is very natural, I lost 80 lbs so they literally didnāt have any fat to take out really when they were performing the procedure. As yāall can see Iām not necessarily fat, Iām thicker, my curves arenāt crazy but my stomach is flat with no backrolls and Iām solid š
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2 years ago
Itās cool though imma try this place my dancer friend works at and if that doesnāt work f it, itās a sign lol Im about to get my degree anyway. I just was trying to stack my coins.
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2 years ago
Im not trimming down any lol my stomach is flat and Iām a DDD. I had a bbl. Thereās no pudge or backrolls. I pole and powerlift. Im thick, not fat.
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2 years ago
I donāt get down with extras. Creekside was really pretty but they didnāt hire me. Iāll try the other 3, thanks
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2 years ago
I will travel. Im a trained pole dancer so urban clubs arenāt my thing. I donāt want to just shake ass all day. I know I want to work at a more upscale gentlemanās club. I know all different clubs have a different vibe. Iāve been to Eastern PA and Philly alike even South Jersey ( not so much Jersey though)
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2 years ago
Thanks for the idea! Iāll move to Reddit! I appreciate the compliment ! Youād be surprised the hiring process has been a headache to say the least. Iām out here going upside down, air walking not getting any call backs. Itās baffling really
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2 years ago
I know a girl who walks around with a plug in her bum