Comments by Kels01

Sorry, i just needed to get some men's views as i am looking forward to his reaction. OK i will try out stripperweb. Bullwinkle: please you are an ignorant idiot who knows nothing about women. There are many types of women not just type A and B LOL. OK everyone, i will try out the other site people suggested, thank you to some of you for their actual responses.

How should i approach him about this? i am scared he will get angry.

I don't want an answer from him as to why he did it because he can't justify his reasoning i believe. I am not ignorant, i am always willing to listen and talk out things, but it's usually the man who has the communication problem. I think that the person who cheated has been dishonest FIRST so what i am doing is just showing him the pain and what it feels like to be on the down side. THIS THREAD HELPED A LOT BY THE WAY THANK YOU to everyone.

" i think its better to approach men with more allowance and compassion. even though men are sexually different they still are people who need to receive love, with love to give." By this i think you mean that we should love men and allow them give them sexual freedom, i RESPECT your opinion but most women wouldn't agree to this condition. "AMP offer same massage with happy ending available for less $ 4) most men like the economy and availibility of #3 5) on the bright side he didnt get a prostitute, he doesnt have another girlfriend and he was honest 6) " i don't see a difference between a AMP and a brothel, both offer sexual services for money and therefore women who work in them are prostitutes, therefore he DID get a prostitute. Because men like them doesn't mean we have to agree with them. " I think your General Comprehension Level is beyond the numerous intellectually competent responses you have received ... My advice is to get off the forums and live a little ... you are thinking in circles and not seeing the truth in the responses." Either my English is not good enough OR you are saying that i should snap out of it and accept it that men are obliged to have more than one partner. There is no way in hell i will see the truth that SOME people see in what they are saying. If you want to live then i can't see a reason why you should hurt your significant other by visiting AMP's and strip clubs behind their back. Yes my bf felt guilty BUT he didn't realize what he was doing, and if it wouldn't be for my instincts i don't want to know what would have happened in the future. Sorry if i misunderstood what you were saying.

WOW, ok i DO come from a different country so my views are a lot different to what the majority of people on this forum believe. SORRY TRIXXI but since you are one of the FEW female's on this planet that side with the men and support them in having sex with any "woman" they want while they are in a committed relationship( taking account what my dirty fiancee did) you won't and WILL NOT understand what a woman who is using common sense feels. The responses i have received are intellectually competent to YOU because you only live in open relationships therefore you can't see what's the wrong in what my boyfriend did but you can criticize me. I can see the truth behind all these responses very clearly ( i just don't agree with SOME of them). Sorry i don't give my man enough allowance and compassion, but i think the majority of women wouldn't either. George-i really DO APPRECIATE your thoughtful responses, but i don't think my boyfriend thought of what the consequences would be since he didn't even know if he CHEATED. We are definitely not getting married. I will give him a second chance and try and make promises with him and then SEE if he keeps them or not ( although i don't know how long this will be going on for since he is away on business trips and probably will think he will get away with it.)I decided that in the meantime i can find someone else who i can get attached to, as soon as i will find someone like that i will dump my boyfriend and explain my reasoning's behind my decision. If someone can't see how being touched by someone someone else OTHER than your partner while keeping it in secret is cheating then they need to be taught a lesson in all seriousness OR just don't get in a relationship without telling the person what you do with other people ffs. I will take everyone's responses into consideration but i will NEVER forgive someone who is letting other women touch him in a sexual way and is thinking SHE will never find about it. These people think in a reckless manner and destroy other people's lives. Sorry if my English was a little illiterate.

Trixxi- do you mean we should allow men to sleep around with strippers and Asian ladies? if so then sorry but you sound like you place a lot of emphasis on emotional bond than physical. I don't so i can't agree with your theory. If that's the case then me giving other men blowjobs is justified as well. RICDUGAN: thank you for being and honest and telling me that most men are frequenting these shady places. No i believe he used cash, i found out through searching his laptop, so no he would have NEVER told me he's been to this place it it wasn't for my sharp personality. Why do people want to get off with hot Asian girls if they are already taken? i don't get how some men can't understand that handjob or any erotic touching is cheating. If it's so harmless then why won't they allow us to do the same thing to other men?

George-if you have sex with someone you don't see or touch their genitals directly, but those Asian whores do. They make direct physical and visual contact with the other persons genitals whether it's a man or a woman. That makes me much more jealous than if he would get a stripper and have sex with her.

I would also rather have him sex with the woman instead of her touching him ( to me touching his genitals would be way more intimate than if he would have sex with the lady.

georgmicrodong: when i said i am a possessive person i didn't mean it in a bad way. To me a physical relationship is much more important than emotional. But that doesn't mean that i want my partner to fall in love with someone else. If i imagine my boyfriend getting rubbed by another woman i get jealous and angry at the same time because i don't think anyone else except me should do that to him ( this is what i meant by possession) to clarify that my boyfriend should not share any sensual touch with anyone else . He can touch other women but they can't touch him that's all.

sclvr5005-i probably would not be able to have this kind of relationship, not because i think sex is something special, because i really think it is NOT, but i just would get extremely angry NOT because i have been betrayed but because i am a possessive person and wouldn't want mine man to be pampered by another woman. I am a jealous person and i know there are people who don't take physical touch as cheating just emotional well i am the opposite of those.

sclvr5005: why is it worth staying together with someone if both of you have sex with other people? i don't understand that. If you want to have sex with many people then just stay single...not hard. Isn't a open relationship something like having friends with benefits? if the other partner is ok with it then it's ok but if you are being discreet and do kinky stuff behind your partner's back then there is obviously something wrong with you. Even if there are no emotions, it only happens once in a while, it still brings a terrible feeling to your significant other. It might be harmless for YOU but not for your partner. But yes i think an open relationship is exciting and a lot of fun.

As i am reading these responses i wonder if it is worth for women to stay loyal...

Draper: no he didn't tell me how could he? he never knew how sharp i was, i know everything about AMP's, strip clubs etc, i am more informed than a average woman is about these places so i don't want any explanations from him. I know why men go ( harmless, no big deal etc) it's nothing new to me i just don't get how they can think its' not a big deal. I checked his laptop and found out AMP searches, and he spoked to his colleagues about them as well! He said he feels guilty but doesn't know if it is cheating, he also said the whore asked him first if he wants a handjob and he nodded. I am disgusted. I meant to be marrying him haha, what an idiot, he seriously thought he could fool me. Why do men hide this from their partners?