discussion comment
4 years ago
This happened to my best friend. Not me. He consulted me because of my experience in these matters. Here goes:
So, my buddy calls me and tells me he's in trouble. I knew he'd been on SA for a while and had really good results. But he says now he's scared. I'm like, ok, what's going on. He tells me he'd met a girl on there. They sexted, she sent him pics, he sent her dick pics, told her all kinds of filthy kinky shit he's into. Then, they were supposed to meet to actually have sex. He goes to some shady apartment complex and is supposed to bring her $500. The complex is the type of place where he stands out as clearly not supposed to be there. He knocks on the door and she doesn't answer. There's shady people walking around. He starts to freak out and leaves.
As he's driving home she calls him and tries to get him to come back and he turns her down. He tells her maybe another time. A couple days go by and she calls him. She tells him she has screen shots of all the weird kinky shit he told her, pics of his dick, etc. She says he better start paying her $500/week or she'll expose him. He's not married, but owns several businesses in his town. He stupidly had told her all of that info. Gave her his real name. He's all over Facebook and is easy to find. His business is on Facebook too. Also it would be very easy for her to get on his corporate website and start sending emails to his employees with all this info as well.
So, he calls me. He doesn't know WTF to do. I tell him, dude, first off- you don't give your real name, your real work info, your real ANYTHING, you dumb motherfucker!!! With that out of the way, I tell him, this is extortion and it's illegal. You need to call your lawyer and probably call the police. He calls his attorney and his attorney tells him the same thing and suggests my friend files a police report. My friend does NOT want to report this to the police unless he has to. So, I tell him call her and tell her you've contacted your attorney and filed a police report already and that this is extortion.
He calls her, and has a recorder attached to the phone. He asks her how she's doing and she starts right up with the "You gonna pay me my money...you don't want to get exposed do you? I've got all the texts with you saying you like your balls smacked around... Wouldn't want your kids to hear about shit that would you?" He then tells her he's talked to his lawyer and the police and he's not going to pay her. He tells her to do whatever she thinks she needs to do, but he's having the police handle it. Suddenly she completely changes her tone. She starts laughing "Baby! Wait a minute, I thought this is what you wanted." He's like WTF? She's like, you said you like to be dominated, I thought we were playing. I was financially dominating you. I thought you were into that."
Now, he is into being dominated. But she's just making all that other financial shit up. This is her scam. She finds guys whose kink is being submissive and then starts up this extortion shit to try to blackmail them. So, he tells her, nah, he's not into this at all. She says, ok, then you tell the cops this was all a mistake ok, and we're all good, baby!
So, the lessons here are painfully obvious. My friend got off SA and a couple years later is now happily married again. Thank god.