Comments by Bananafish (page 3)

Please don't take this as ridicule. We've all been there and I make no judgements. But my perspective is this: she didn't think your meeting was worth her time anymore and you're a bit of a PL for thinking she did. You say she ignored your texts in the days before arriving. Why? She may be your favorite but it doesn't sound like you're her regular by any means. You probably don't see her that often or spend a regular amount on her....at least in her opinion. When you get to the club you say "She sat with me for about an hour before we even talked about a dance". Then you wanted to get dinner with her to "discuss the details". How long does discussing details take and is she getting anything for this? Then she gets to your room at 9:30 and talks with you until 10:45. My thought is she viewed all this as you wanting multiple hours of free companionship (in the club, at dinner, chatting in the room beforehand, etc) with an uncertain reward for her at the end. When she blew you off for dinner you can be sure she was with her S.O. or a regular customer that offered more certainty ($s per time spent) My advice: discuss the details BEFORE setting up OTC. Example: "I'm willing to pay $X hundred which will include you joining me for a nice dinner followed by X, Y and Z back in my room." That way she can internalize the compensation she is getting and know she gets the reward for showing up at the agreed time for dinner, etc. Good luck out there.