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I don't know if it really qualifies, but I did once see a stripper dance to what is probably the least appropriate song ever. She decided to dance to the country song "Daddy's Hands". About a third of the way through the song the whole place just got deathly quiet. Everyone stopped what they were doing and just stared, jaws hanging open. At the end of the song, no one said a thing for about thirty seconds. Even the DJ, who normally talks a mile a minute and always has something to say, was stunned. When he finally got around to talking again, all he could say was "Midnight, what the fuck were you thinking?" She was just oblivious as to why that song might have been inappropriate.

Forget strip clubs, how about movie theaters? I went to a movie tonight, and paid $4.25 for large soda. That's rediculous, the same drink would only cost me $3 at the local strip club and I certainly didn't have a mostly naked woman grinding on my crotch at the movie theater. Pity really, it would've made for a much better experience.

I think you have to work under the assumption that it's always an act, until you get overwhelming evidence to the contrary. Not paying them for their company seems to weed out the actresses pretty quick, in my experience. I've always made it perfectly clear that if the dancer wants to come over and chat with me she is welcome to and, by the same token, if she needs to go hustle up some private dances, she's welcome to go make her money. I've found that I'm almost never wanting for company and I hardly ever spend much money. It seems odd to me to pay for "quality time". I guess I don't see how it could be all that "quality" if I have to pay for it. Enjoyable, maybe, but not "quality".

Absolutely. The best times I've had in a strip club have been with the friends I have there. When its slow and we're just talking, joking and having a good time. I think its actually spoiled me a bit. I'm currently in Tulsa, OK for some company training. I've hit up a couple of clubs around town and I didn't have near as good a time as I do at my home club. I have found that I prefer to spend most of my time just talking and getting to know the girl(s) rather than just watching and getting some private dances. Of course, I think I would have enjoyed the few dances I bought if they allowed two-way contact in OK, but that's beside the point.

I've read most of the "seduction" material out there too. I'll tell ya, it didn't work for me. Mack Tactics did. Its advice actually applies more to one's interactions with people in general, it is just written with the slant of interacting with women. Anyway, I'm not going to belabor the point. I'll just encourage you to go ahead and give it a shot. I'll throw out one more point. I would actually suggest you see a psychiatrist. This is not to say that I think you're crazy or can't handle life, blah, blah, blah. I simply think that it would increase the quality of your life if you did. I believe you'll be ok if you never go, but I have a feeling you'll be even better if you do. I'd almost guarantee that you'll actually enjoy it, as well as the therapist. You seem to possess the three qualities that are required to effectively help someone, intelligence, insight and motivation. It's my personal opinion that everyone should see a therapist for at least a little bit at some point in their life. I know mine was able to bring clarity to some things that I felt, but had been unable to put into words. I don't know, take it or leave it, but you might seriously think about it.