jabberwocky

Dancers are not in denial, I am a dancer myself and I have seen many a guy lose their electricity because they would rather spend it at the club. These people HAVE A PROBLEM. I have hinted at it to some guys that they are spending a pretty penny, but then again they pay MY bills and I do not force them to come to the club. Yes its sad to see some of these guys go through great lengths to spend money at the club, but I live on tips and tips alone. If I don't make money at work, I lose my electricity as well.

Thanks for the comments themailman. So now it is my responsibility to account for all of my customers if they have a spending problem? Sorry its not in the job description. If a person walked into a furniture store and bought $4,000 in furniture that they could not afford, is it the salesman's responsibility to lecture the person? No. The salesperson will keep their mouth shut because it's rude and not their business, and they make their money on commission. As I said before I hint to a person if I am aware of it. If they can't take a hint, then it's something they have to figure out on their own. A dancer lecturing a person is not going to change their mind. They'll probably just find a different girl who will pretend the person doesn't have a problem and willingly take their money.

At the club I work at it goes Owner, Main Manager, Manager, DJ/Bartender/Bouncer. Honestly the Waitstaff and Dancers really have no say in anything. We're mostly working for ourselves and for tips. We don't run the club and only worry about ourselves.

I think it was very presumptuous of you to assume that I KNOW when guys have a problem. Unless someone says out of the blue they have a problem, I will never know for sure, and this has never happened. Even though I've seen guys come back day after day and spend more and more money, I haven't a clue if he's spending his last dime or barely tapping into a huge bank account. As I said before I have to assume and then I hint, because I am not one of those people to get involved with somebody's drama-- as I would not want people I didn't know getting involved with mine. The real responsibility would be on family and friends, not complete strangers. If people ask me for a dance, and unless they've been rude or done something mean, it is my job to dance for them. Dancing is still a job; if a manager sees me not doing any work and ignoring a paying customer as AbbieNormal stated out (with a wonderfully written post) I don't want to jeopardize my job. I'm sure mailman enjoyed this conversation, all he has done is put me down because I have a different opinion then him. Some of you are so *very* mature thinking that us dancers have "stripper logic," and that we're bad people, yet you are here on a Strip Club list-- isn't that a hypocritical? Anyways I am done with talking on this discussion board. You can all think what you want of dancers and think we're bad people for all I care. And you know if you think that the righteous path is to tell complete strangers how to spend their money, maybe next time you are in a club, and you pick up on a man who is spending over his limit and has a problem, it should be you who should confront him.

Well yes and no. Is society more acceptable than they were ten years ago? Yes. But most of my friends at work we rarely tell people outside the club (at least those of us who go to the University) that we dance. People immediately get a first impression of you and go, "Oh." and think all you care about is money or are easy. And when it comes to jobs most dancers leave their dancing history off their resume because it makes them look bad, even though it is a legitimate legal job. Then again I see a lot of guys (and some girls) glorify dancers. If I go into a bar and people know I dance, I am offered free drinks and people treat me different. If they don't know, they are a little bit more reserved which I like. I would rather them get to know me personally than just like me because I am a dancer.