- Let pleasure be your guide, not something you restrict or avoid
My mother has what I call the “spark.” Growing up, I thought it was simply Italian exuberance. Now, after decades studying longevity, I see it differently.
The spark is her ability to find genuine pleasure in everyday life. And contrary to what many people think, pleasure is not the opposite of health. Research suggests that positive emotions, strong relationships and enjoyable experiences can support the biological pathways tied to resilience and healthy aging.
My mother savors her espresso slowly. She dresses to go to the supermarket the way others dress for a wedding, matching the flower in her hair to her purse, shoes and dress. She loves to laugh with her neighbors.
And every morning, she sends us a photograph of the sun rising over the ocean from her balcony. This is her daily “buongiorno” to the people she loves.
My wife and I spent 20 minutes last night sitting on our deck, watching doves, a raccoon, two dear and eating burgers. Who's living better was said more than once.