What really ""Grinds my Gears" about Strippers/Escorts

Youre paying the hooker. Tell her what you want and pay accordingly. Its on you for poor communication.

I have been recently in a situation where I dealt with a huge rob the other night. There are some games which I deal with at Bliss and Paradise. But Synn COI has so many robs it isn't even funny.

I had a girl saying this "I only do VIPs" but this time she is going to do a lap. She promised a 3 for 40 dance, but what happened was is she cut the dance at the 2nd half and literally give me a bs air dance. She got mad at me for getting hands on too. This was the biggest bs i have ever dealt with and she had the gall to ask me for a tip even though she didn't deserve it.

The next person I asked for a lap said $300 extra on top of the regular VIP just to simply do a covered HJ in the back. That traumatic experience really killed my interests to go to clubs but I have some debts because of hitting up clubs lmao.

Anyways this experience has made me completely sour on the idea of going to strip clubs in general. If I am in CA, I will only check out spots in the IE or Orange County, because I feel COI spots are like LA and SFV clubs when it comes to mileage.

Costs are going up and the mileage is going down, so I am losing my trust in clubs at this point really tbh.

@basedtexafornian You’re down so bad lol

My only real gripe is not delivering on what was promised. That certainly happened in my early years

Are the offending dancers in point #1 in really strappy lingerie? Some stuff looks amazing but are a huge pain in the rear to put on/take off, especially in the dark 😭

"Something like, I will remove my bra for 20, you can touch my breast for 20 more, I take my bottoms off for 40, etc. Basically by the time you tip them to get a full grind session (no extras), you are doubling the VIP cost. This is after you paid 150+ to just get into the VIP."

A fast food style ordering kiosk at the entrance to the lap dance area might be able to help keep track of all of this? You'd have a big touch screen, and if you click on the option for a lap dance, you'd then see additional options for clothing removal, two-way contact, extra grinding, LDK, etc. You'd know exactly what your desired dance would cost ahead of time, and it would be right there on the receipt that you paid $29.95 extra for ten minutes of nipple sucking, with no biting... :)

@ nicespice, that's my complaint about escorts in particular. Online ads will show them wearing the most revealing lingerie, but if you set an appointment IRL, they just wear normal clothes. They don't even take requests if offered extra pay because they don't have the lingerie. It's typically baby doll gowns or stripper style bra and panties.

@ Clubfan81077, The irony of your home is that it could actually come into fruition. With prices going higher and mileage declining, a micromanaging system could be necessary. Personally I think that each stripper should be allowed a menu of services offered. Strippers choose the options they allow, and customers can pick from those limited options. I could make a discussion just in how to practically implement this system.

It would eventually fail because once customers realize that dancer A has multiple micro transactions on top of initial prices, they will choose less demanding dancers.

@Owl I joked about having a kiosk, but in reality, there's maybe only so much that the "system" can really be "neatened up"???

If a "menu of services" were officially offered up by a particular club, it would probably need to be compliant with all relevant laws/ordinances. So...would all dancers and all customers comply with those laws, and also comply with all club policies???

Also, even if a dancer normally has a certain way that she does things, like the "fee schedule" kind of thing you mentioned, that doesn't mean that she will always behave exactly the same way with every customer. She may do things a certain way 99.99% of the time, but then make an exception to one or more of her usual rules for a customer who she feels differently about. Even for a girl who you think might not ever make an exception for anyone, it's possible she has one customer who she truly enjoys spending time with. I'm not talking about the common practice of trying to make a customer FEEL like he's special, but rather the more rare occurrence where she really DOES feel differently about a customer...

I guess what I'm saying is that experiences can be all over the board depending on 1) the luck of being in the right place at the right time to meet the right dancer, 2) knowing how to recognize the signs that a dancer might be reacting to you a bit differently, and 3) how well the customer and dancer can take that initial encounter and build on it, so it becomes a great experience for both parties...

Sorry if this reply seems kind of half-baked...I'm awfully tired to be trying to type anything and make it sound particularly coherent...lol

RE: “As soon as they feel the erection in your pants (nothing is outside) they immediately switch to air dance mode with some slight lap contact.”

Either I am going to the right places or you are going to the wrong places. I have not a dancer shy away from grinding on me after I’ve popped a boner.

I’m curious how common that is for other customers.

Agree with Lurker. The OP is going to the wrong clubs!

Every club will have ROB dancers, and every city will have scammer escorts. Its more likely if theyve got a boyfriend pimp, and even more likely if its a black boyfriend pimp.

@ Lurker, it doesn't happen often. Most of the complaints don't happen often, but they occur enough that I have had to be selective with who I get dances from and which escorts I bother visiting.