MBOT may be worth a trip, just expect some sticker shock. If you can find the right girl and negotiate a price you can afford, it's anything-goes
Crazy Horse has its share of issues, but if you can find a girl you're interested in, this place has the highest potential for mind-blowing surprises. It's a low-extras club -- maybe half the girls do extras, and most of them are HJ only -- but it can be pretty fun, IF you find a girl you're attracted to. If you're hoping to take your or your wife's clothes off, you'll need to use the higher-priced rooms to the right, make sure you specify.
Centerfolds sometimes has really beautiful lineups, is full nude, though again prices can be challenging. They do have private booths, though as I understand it, only the most expensive booths are camera-free. I don't go there enough to have any advice. It is a Deja Vu club with all the negatives that implies.
Every one of the clubs above have completely private curtain rooms, though again, Centerfolds girls will be a bit more cautious in the rooms with cameras, and you'll need to be clear about what you want at Crazy Horse since not all girls offer extras. If "HM for her" does not imply cunnilingus, then you can get non-extras high mileage at either MBOT or CH -- the challenge at MBOT will be price and the challenge at CH will be finding a pretty enough girl with provides enough mileage.