Dear Diary,
Today marks 30 days since going full time and returning after a year long hiatus. I’ve landed, somewhere in between a nice strip club and a divey hole in the wall, surrounded by foreigners with fake titties and aptitudes for doing extra delectable things in the back rooms. The moving lights are obnoxiously bright and smack me in the face every so often and the music is so loud that I’ve purchased a pair of earplugs to protect my hearing. The club often smells like methane gas and dirty coochie, it always has me sniffing my own panties and pits to make sure it’s not me. It’s incredibly overstimulating and not the best place to be, but don’t worry, the softest spot in the club is by the bar, in the corner with your back to the wall. The dancing lights don’t reach far enough, the nearest speaker is 10ft away, and it is perfect people watching territory—my little safe space that I retreat to when I need a break from it all.
I got frustrated the other night. Maybe due to the lack of sleep during my transition to night shift, maybe due to how bad this week has been compared to my first week back. Regardless, I went off about my frustration with the lack of paying and participating customers to another entertainer.
This past Saturday, the club was filled with folks who weren’t paying or playing. There were entertainers that just walked around the pole and rolled their hips while snapping their gum between their teeth. The floor, was boring, nobody throwing money or interacting with dancers. The stage, was boring, girls weren’t dancing or doing anything on the pole. Even the normal lap dance area was boring. Any time I’d go back, it was lame, subpar, half-assed lap dances being given. I’m frustrated by the low effort, boring and dare I say greedy, entertainers that work this club… the lack of effort or care is hurting the industry, terribly so.
I’m frustrated… I’m frustrated because I love my job and I want people to enjoy their strip club experience.
I work hard, every night I step foot in the club. I dance til I sweat. I walk til my feet hurt. I practice my pole moves and do my best to put on a show. I entertain any and every person that crosses my path to the absolute best of my ability. I take major pride in my ability to entertain. I want people to return to my little nighttime utopia of euphoria and debauchery.
But unfortunately, patrons are expecting more and trying to avoid paying for it. Dancers are doing the least or the absolute most whilst also making patrons extremely uncomfortable with pressure to spend large amounts of money, so much so that patrons don’t want to return.
Maybe this is just the club I’ve landed in, but I truly hope not.
I’m manifesting a club filled with a diverse mixture of beautiful and incredibly talented women with customers who value a fun and/or frivolous night out over sexual favors.
This was the last club I worked at briefly, before taking my hiatus, and to see the downturn in customer quality is disheartening. But, tomorrow is a new day and the beginning of another month in this wild wild industry. Interestingly, despite my frustrations, I’m still excited to continue navigating this ever changing, ever evolving, seemingly alternate reality space that I’m so grateful to call, “work”.
Til next time and with love, Infinity 💋
Comments (13)Latest
Keep your chin up, someone like you is an entertainer we look for
@gves98 I’ll do my best! Thank you for recognizing and seeing us and playing with us. We appreciate you.
Well written. Gave me a smile.
@PutaTester it was fun to write! Will be posting another soon just cuz I like the feeling of offloading my club bs (or success) onto a platform meant for the environment!
@Pearl.escent yes. I have written enough articles and reviews that chances are I will expire before my membership expires. But it is fun to chronicle my experiences. And often the feedback from others is interesting.
@PutaTester sounds like you’ve made quite the contribution to this site! Excited to see what all I can add to it whilst also unearthing useful things for my career. Like you said, feedback can be interesting :)
Great article. Descriptive and well written.
@mkiaote thanks for giving it a read! I enjoyed venting a touch, but also reminding myself why I do it and that the industry ebbs and flows!
That's it. Wherever you dance at, I'll come and support you. Just a PSA to everyone out there, keep your local strip clubs alive by popping in every so often to buy drinks, dances, and what not. Strip clubs nationwide are closing down at an alarming rate too.
@thottiusmaximus I’m grateful for the enthusiasm for myself and the industry! Strip clubs don’t have to be a regular thing, but supporting the industry and the girls that are doing their best to enhance it is always much appreciated.
@Pearl.escent What do you think is killing the industry? I'm thinking it's OnlyFans and the foreign women from Latin America partly.
@thottiusmaximus in my club in particular, I think it’s the foreign woman mainly. I’m constantly saying to myself “don’t bite the hand that feeds you” and these women are making customers extremely uncomfortable and they’re taking more money than they’re worth and they are half-assing a majority of their work. They’re also selling extras and doing brothel work in the strip club and driving talented, non extras entertainers out bc we can’t compete with that. Only fans can surely be a contributing factor because majority of the most stunning women can work from home and make just as much, if not more, than being at the club. But.. only fans is so saturated that normal girls like me wouldn’t be able to make a living solely off it, but I’ve had many customers ask if I have one. They can go hand in hand pretty well business wise, so yeah, OF surely has a part to play. Also.. the state of the world is kinda wonky.. things are so expensive and money is tight for everyone. So many things, unfortunately lol
edit to add I also feel like strip clubs are kinda dingy and dirty and run down. Strip club owners, especially corporations, aren’t keeping things clean and comfortable. I don’t think I’ve worked at a club where the seats aren’t beat to hell with weird smells, relying too heavily on dark settings and brightly moving lights to distract you from the shoddy setting you’re in. So.. clubs are literally looking and feeling icky, which adds to the lackluster experience.
@Pearl.escent Yeah, all of those factors I've heard are contributing to the downfall of the strip club scene. The economy factor is big because like you mentioned, everything is just more expensive now. The whole extras thing sucks, especially where I'm at (Los Angeles area). 95% of the clubs here are extras clubs. I think it's very well known too that these are extras clubs so it attracts a particular kind of customer. At the clubs here, if a dancer knows you aren't going to be entertaining a VIP room session (extras) then they'll walk away and ignore you for the most part. The worst thing is that it's not even the foreign women offering extras, it's like 99% of the dancers in the club. I used to go strip clubbing in the Phoenix, AZ area and it's different there - extras are mostly unheard of there (if so, very few dancers offer it). And yes, most clubs are so dark so that they can hide just how dirty the clubs are. I'm sure if I brought a blacklight to a club and just shined it around, i'd find many nasty stains.
So, question for you, what cities have been the best and worst cities to dance at? I've only clubbed in Los Angeles, Phoenix, and Tucson. And, personally, I'm not a fan of the Los Angeles scene at all. They're literally just brothels here disguised as strip clubs. I liked Phoenix because the dancers there rely more on personable social skills rather than upselling VIP rooms. Tucson is a mixed bag for me but still better than the LA area.