Strip Clubs: A Whole New World!
marc5
New South Wales
That may seem to be an unusual way to begin an article on a site devoted lovers of such establishments but it's true. In all my years (I'm now 47), I can honestly say that I have visited only two strip clubs in my entire life. Both of these visits were in my early twenties with mates on a drunken night out and although I loved looking at the naked women, I just didn't find it much of a turn on. Besides, I got regular action outside these establishments so why pay? It didn't really make sense. At 27, I married my wife and I have been faithful ever since. Although she was a dynamo in the bedroom when she was younger, she is now not at all interested in sex in any form. I still love her but over the past couple of years I've found that no sexual fun certainly does not agree with me.
After a number of years living in this situation, I decided I would visit a strip club - not to cheat on my wife but just to add a little sexual excitement into my life. As I'm not really of an age where I have mates who visit these clubs, I knew I would have to go alone. Besides, with my standing in our community, not to mention my job, I knew it would be a disaster if it became known that I visited such an establishment. I researched all the clubs in my city and decided on the least intimidating club. As this was all new to me, there was so much to learn. I chose a club about an hour from my home to minimise the chance of being seen by anyone I knew.
For the whole week before my visit, I was a bundle of nervous energy. The 'visit' played on my mind every single minute of the day. It was at once daunting and thrilling. Finally, the night came. I knew all about the club (well, as much as I could find on their website), I had fabricated a story to cover my whereabouts and I had a wallet full of money (not wanting to withdraw money from the premises).
As I parked near the club, I was terrified. I don't know how many of you remember your first real visit to a club but I was was a mess. I was convinced I couldn't go through with it and in fact, I drove off almost immediately. About a block away, I grew some balls and returned. I walked straight into the club, knowing that if I stopped to think about it for even a second, I may talk myself out of it. As I paid and entered, the excitement rose with every step. I was now committed to the night and funnily enough, everything that I found terrifying earlier, was now exhilarating. I was inside, I had a drink and I was now seated at a table, a little back from the stage. I was still self-conscious, especially of the fact that I was alone. Did everyone else see me as a dirty old man? I looked at the other clients and wondered about their situations before even checking out the girl dancing on the podium.
Within minutes, a girl sat down with me, in the hope of taking me for a private dance. Although this was exactly the reason I had visited the club, this was not the girl for me. As she left, another girl joined me. This girl seemed to ooze sexuality and so within minutes she had taken me for a private dance. It was good, but by no means great. The girl had a beautiful body but seemed to be on autopilot and the experience left me with the exact same feeling about strip clubs that I formed in my twenties.
Back at my table, I once again attracted company. Again, not the girl for me but as she was talking, I noticed an absolute stunner at the bar. All I wanted to do was to get away from the current girl trying to hustle me. After about five minutes, she finally left. Before I even thought about a plan of action, I found myself walking over to the bar. The problem was, I didn't know what I was going to say or do (Funnily enough, although it's been a long time since I approached women in bars, I was actually pretty good at it when single). Before I arrived, we made eye contact and she smiled. (Don't get me wrong, I knew that she was working me and for me, it was just a little fun and sexual distraction.) Well, I stood in front of her grinning like an idiot. Turns out that she was not only beautiful and sexy but she read the situation perfectly. She took me to a private room, seated me and went to work.
Not knowing the protocol, again I just sat there with my arms hanging by my sides. In fact, I was almost too excited to move. After all, I'd not had a beautiful, young girl all over me for about twenty years! And this time, unlike the previous dance, she was all over me! I was also wary of the bouncers. Inside the private room, there was a sign that read, "You touch, you go!" Close to the end of my 15 minutes, she took my hands and placed them on her breasts. I was in Heaven! She saw the look of terror in my eyes at touching and just said, "Ignore the sign. I do." My face must have said it all because she then whispered, "You were too polite." The look in her eye was all I needed to extend my time and go again. This time she allowed my hands to wander all over her upper body and ass. At the end of my second time period she smiled knowingly, as if she had educated me - and she certainly had! I couldn't believe the difference between the two dancers.
After this experience, I can't wait to visit again (possibly next week).
I'm converted! I now love strip clubs!
Although I have read a bit on this site, I still have a few questions for those of you who are a little more experienced than myself. I think I may have been really lucky in selecting the right dancer on my first visit. However, I'm not sure about my next visit. What methods do others use to select the better dancers? I assume I ask if touching is allowed if I see another girl. How do I ask? For that matter, even if I see the same girl, there's no guarantee that she'll remember me so I'm guessing I should ask again. Is there going to be any trouble if I am caught touching one of the girls in a private dance even after gaining permission from the girl (especially as it is clearly stated that touching is not allowed)? Any other tips that can improve my subsequent visits? Thanks for any and all help.
Sorry if these comments and questions seem a little lame to this community who obviously have more knowledge and experience in these situations.
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I love you brother, but lighten the fuck up.
marc5, buying a few dances with some touching is not infidelity by any stretch of the imagination. enjoy yourself and enjoy the fantasy. I don't really have any tips for you. Just buy the girl or girls you like a drink or two and chat with them. trust your instincts and if you get a good vibe, take them for a spin.
The hunt for the right girl is half the fun of this hobby. Some nights you’ll strike out completely, most nights you’ll get a mixture of good and bad dancers, and occasionally you hit a home run with the girl of your dreams. I have done this for quite a while, and have quite a few of those dream stories. Here are some suggestions to succeed in the hunt.
1. Resist the urge to focus most of your time on the most beautiful dancer(s) in the club. Often, the best looking girls give poor dances because they can get by on their looks alone and don’t have to give lots of two way contact. You can enjoy them on stage, but it often is not worth it to pay these girls a lot for dances. Instead of the girls that every guy would label a 10, go for the girls that are more of a 7-8, or for the girls that fit your particular turn ons. This is no guarantee of anything, but you have better odds this way of getting a good dance because the non-10 dancers have to work harder to make their money.
2. This takes practice, and it depends somewhat on the club. However, if a club allows contact but the amount available varies between the girls (this is something you can learn by experience or by the reviews on this site), then you should discuss beforehand with a dancer what a dance will involve. I’m not saying to ask for sex (that will take you a lot more practice), but ask for things that you like that don’t involve you removing Mr. Happy from your pants. For example, I might tell a girl: “I absolutely love your beautiful breasts. If we get a few dances, could I hold and fondle them.†If the girl says no to your particular desire, or hesitates in her answer, then you should pass unless you are so turned on by her that you’re willing to pay for an air dance. Most girls will follow through with whatever they promise you beforehand, but if they don’t leave after the first dance and do not feel obligated to continue.
3. Don’t be cheap. Pay well for good service. If the girl gives you a great dance and lets you do everything legal that you want to do, then get several dances from her and tip her.
4. If the club is busy and there are a lot more guys than dancers, you can’t be passive and sit by hoping that the girl you want will come by your table and ask you to dance. That is what most guys do, and it leads to a lot of frustration. If its crowded, seek out the girl you want. For example, tip her very generously on stage and ask her to come and dance for you. If that doesn’t work the first time, do it the next time she comes on stage. Or walk up to her and ask her to dance when you see her unoccupied. If she is in the back of the club, tip a bouncer to go and get her for you. When you talk to her on stage, don’t just tell her how beautiful she is. Instead, tell her that you have lots of money and you want to spend it on her. The girls don’t dance for compliments (at least not primarily). They dance for money, and you get what you want by making it clear to them that they’re likely to get more money hanging out with you than with some other guy that is also turned on by them.
5. Absolutely do not do mercy dances. You must learn to say no to dancers who are not among your top picks because it is too expensive to pay for the girls you really don’t want. This can take practice since it is contrary to a guy’s DNA to say no to a girl who wants to strip naked for him. Be polite when possible, but if the girl hangs on and won’t let go after you say no thanks, be as assertive as you need to in order to get her to move on. This can be a particular problem if girls perceive that you are new at this.
Lastly, you didn’t ask for advice on this, but be very careful clubbing in your home town. Unless it’s a huge metropolitan area, if you don’t want to be known you are better off engaging in this hobby while traveling. It’s too easy to be spotted in or around a club in the city you live in.
If you're eventually want to fuck one of them, you may want to change your game, but only to be more aggressive, in the go-getter sense, not the grabby one.
Like you boogienight369, I do not regard visiting a club as infidelity. Cyclops65, your post about respect struck a chord with me and I honestly think it is very important in clubs and in all aspects of life (as noted in my initial post, my fave dancer thought I was a little too respectful). As such, COclubber's tip of asking the girls their rules, is one of those little, almost too obvious insights that really helped me. At this stage of my 'education' it just would not have occurred to me to ask this question and it will certainly help me know exactly where I stand, without overstepping the mark. In answer to your question, georgmicrodong, all I want is a fantasy and to fondle the girls - I do not want to get nasty. Big props to JohnSmith69 for his extensive reply that has helped me in so many areas. I really appreciate your expertise and the time it must have taken you to write such a lengthy post.
I have, in fact, revisited the club and implemented quite a few of the above ideas, including being respectful, avoiding mercy dances (lol), asking for their rules, selecting 7-8s, tipping well and actively seeking out the girl I want. They definitely improved my experience.
Thanks again!