Comments by KUBARK51

Thank you everyone for the feedback. I've read every single comment and appreciate all the support, and the reality of what happened from the perspective of the seasoned or "high time" veterans of the strip club world. It is a battle with different weapons, and if not careful, similar effects... When you enter the strip club, you're in their territory. Their mission is to take your money and if they can, dignity and even heard of a couple cases of "I'm gonna destroy every man I can since I was hurt". This was only my second time "in club" but thanks to good intel and the "old timers "( figurative!!) who warned me, I left intact. I'm sad in a way this tiny little beautiful girl is so damaged, and have to accept she's not fixable by me or am I responsible. Monger, 5Foot, Skibum, PuddyTat, iknowbetter, hank jascoy, all you guys...thank you. Taken every word seriously. And yes...being "wired differently" I'm probably AM going to make the same mistake again, but now I have more situational awareness. I'm not a give up kinda of guy, and still want to help someone but will eventually learn I have to accept most are beyond help that I can give..

Heellover, 🫡 thank you for the support, kind words, and well wishes. I appreciate getting a glimpse into this world and the insight. You guys are awesome. Jascoi, that's a fact. The stripper world is complex..good for you all being able to navigate it. Respect. Hank Moody, thank you again. Yeah, other than a little bruise on my heart..unscathed and again, VERY grateful to you and all for the heads up..

*Update* well....didn't quite turn out as I hoped and turned out exactly as I thought, thanks in large part to you all. I went to her work and waited for her and she texted me that shes was almost there. She said she couldn't wait to see me and need a hug and was anxious about going. I told her I'd wait outside since I wasn't going to stay long being tired and needing a shower. She finally showed up Something seemed off about her as she seemed a little agitated. She said she didn't want to be there and was stressed about having to be there after I left. She was also in street clothes. She wanted me to go upstairs with her and just hang out alone with me. I told her again I didn't want to stay but I'd hang out with her for a half hour or so. Then she "I thought you were going to stay for a couple hours. I told her no, and that I would hang out with her the day before I leave (Next Friday)...then the alarms went off..so I switched gears. I said "let's go hang out a coffee place nearby", she got upset saying she wants to be alone with me..and took my hands. And said again" alone". All i saw was me at the ATM an hour later or getting into a really bad situation I didn't need and would end badly. I said" baby I need to shower and I'm tired. I have a very demanding job but once I was finished my rotation, I'd love to spend time alone and make a night of it so she'd be my last memory of this place I'm moving from. She was very polite but seemed sad and pissed and said " sorry I'll be busy with my other job ( supposedly legit job) and walked away and got in her car and left. I was dumbfounded but then realized...i got played but thougt of something far more sad . She texted me a few minutes later saying she was sorry and tired . I told her I was too and asked her if she wanted to meet for breakfast. No reply.. then I tactically asked for picture of her and she replied "sorry babe, I don't do pictures ". The takeaway....I got enough insight into her mind to know that she's doing what she needs to do to survive. Who or whatever hurt her must have been a doozy. I'm not mad, I feel badly for her..I hope she one day finds peace. I was a mess after I came back and that's an understatement , but years later and tons of rebuilding, I'm OK. I'm a little disappointed and like many survivors of trauma, want to save others and protect those who can't. I wanted to be her shelter but also realize , she doesn't need or want my help. I learned something about a world I didn't really know. I'll be far away from this place soon enough and I'll shake this off, but I won't ever make this mistake again. Thanks to all you good people who gave me enough "intel" to keep my head on a swivel.

Yes WiseToo..thought out that scenario too. I dont think I mentioned in my original comment, (we spoke for over an hour and I only pause for 3 dances and gave her a 40.00 tip) but she was adminant when we talked about not wanting to be in relationships because she said"my money is mine and his is his". I'm supposed to meet her before her shift in an hour actually to give her some things I'm not taking to move, from her native country when I visited there. I told her I couldn't stay long since I'm finishing work too, tired and need to be up early. She gave me a sad face emoji but says she understands because she can't be late, and she's going to be too busy to talk over the weekend before her shift (I'm working all weekend too).. thank you wise, another good thing to watch out for too. You never know..

*not wary of people like you....wary of people...like you are LOL*

Hey ilbbaicnl, 1st, thank you for the support 🫡. Yes, there is a 20 year gap. I don't use my service as a talking/sales point and maybe it threw her off, especially when I legitimately didn't want to elaborate. I'm wary of people like you as well. There are strippers I'm sure in it for the game, revenge and so on, but a salesman can be just as bad. I also realize there is a lot of trauma dancers have had too. I definitely appreciate the insight from you wise folks here, and the reminder to keep aware. I'll definitely keep you updated and hope this is a story with a happy ending...and ending being 2 damaged souls being friends and if I'm able to be a positive thing in her life, even better. Thank you!

Thats true...I want to believe the best in people sometimes having seen the worst. She seemed sincere. I don't have that "look at the sucker" look I don't think LOL. She seemed really awkward even at the club. She didn't dance for anyone else. She even texted me last night saying she was nervous and wanted me to calm her down. I'm a pretty thick skinned guy but she's so tiny and kind of reminded me of a lost puppy. It got me in the feels...but you and Hank are right.. as long as I stay situationally aware and I'm leaving anyhow.

That's true Hank