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6 years ago
All of this advice is very insightful. Thanks to everyone so far who has commented and will comment. I'm using this as a learning experience, as I am still experimenting with the club scene and would not call myself a seasoned patron by any means. I think part of the issue is that I may have been spoiled by the FEW other experiences that I've had at various clubs during which I was very well taken care of, had different gorgeous dancers introducing themselves to me every 5 minutes, and was always blatantly asked if I'd be ok with another dance for $x before it went further. These other experiences sound like they are not the norm and make me really appreciate how fun those other nights were.
I think if I had to do things differently to avoid this, I would do the following:
1) Not go for the private dance just because it was conveniently thrown at me when there was no other action all night. Sometimes "easy" isn't always good.
2) Communicate more on the floor before hand with the dancer, particularly to see if there might be communication or language issues with the dancer that might lead to miscommunications and also to get a better idea of what I might be able to expect from her during a dance, to gauge it and see if she'd be eager to please or just trying to half-ass a quick buck
3) Be explicit up front about expectations regarding song limits, clarifying price, that i'm looking for a full song vs start in the middle, etc.
Compared to some of the horror stories I've heard from others, I could have made out a lot worse. Again, thanks for the comments.