BigRyderKY

I have dated a couple of dancers in the last couple of years. I find them extremely unreliable and ridiculously unable to commit to anything. I think they talk about what they really want out of life but are completely unable to make a decision that would actually achieve that even when the opportunity is facing them. Another thing, dancers are so used to lying and manipulating guys at the club it becomes second nature to them. So it makes them completely unreliable and untrustworthy. One last thing, if she goes away for days at a time you can bet you bottom dollar drugs are involved. No matter what she says. I have learned the hard way these girls can not stay off drugs. And getting their score and feeding their habit takes way more priority than anything you may have to offer. Even a great home and a future for her kid. I don't have the answer yet. In spite of their condition a lot of these girls would make decent life partners if they could break the cycle. A great many of them get locked into this and they just can't stop the momentum they have built up. I fell head over heals in love with one beautiful lady who had just earned her graduate degree at the local university. She has everything ahead of her and is smart and seems to have more common sense than you would expect in someone under 30. But she just couldn't get off the merry go round. I tried everything, made ultimatums, and then finally told her not to call me again until she decided to turn away from that lifestyle. That was a month ago. We do still talk. But we talk as friends only. She is still stuck. Nothing I can do. I would suggest you take her out of town for a weekend, explain your concerns, make an offer that she has to decide on THAT weekend and then if she can't accept your offer, let her go. It will just cause you more pain than you can take in the end.

If I can only have one ATF I think I'll quit. I at least have to have an ATF blonde, an ATF brunette and an ATF red head. Not to mention Monday's ATF, Tuesday's ATF, etc, etc.. I'm on their speed dial. LOL